I left my ALF position last Monday, after finishing out my two week notice. We had the nurse from h**l working there. My administrator had asked me to take a leave of absence instead, until she figures out whether to keep the RN or not. She was that bad, always yelling and tempermental.
My administrator really wanted me to stay there in our Memory Care Unit as Care Coordinator. I know the residents well and their families. Plus, she said my unit was functioning better than it had in years. The big plus is that, that nurse WAS fired on Friday. She pissed off my boss for the last time.
This place has had so many problems since I started there. Yes, I now have/had a staff that any nurse would be proud of, but it took months to accomplish this. They teamwork well together, and the residents seem happy. And, they respect me, which takes time to earn in LTC.
Part of me wants to go back and part of me yells, no don't it will still be the same as when you left, last week.
My administrator wants me to come in tomorrow so we can talk. She wants me back, my co-workers want me back, and my caregivers and med-aide do too. She says she will give me a raise if I come back.
Why is it that part of me doesn't care about that? I have been fighting with myself all day. Real dumb I know, but a raise would be nice, plus I know my job, yet a new start would be refreshing. What would you do? UGH! What is wrong with me!!!???
It's so hard to advise someone else, Hanna, but trust yourself to decide rightly. It's hard to leave a job you love, there's no guarantee that you'll land in a better place. And yet...
I am asking God to give you some clear leading and clear thinking and to make his will very apparent.
....... the management had tolerated this so long knowing it was a problem, despite the fact that the hostility the coworker held was affecting the whole environment, and I believe, had a negative effect on our residents.
Allowing this behavoir in the workplace is indicative of problems in management.
Chadash, this is exactly the same situation I was in. Administration tolerating, and even encouraging, staff who should never have been working there. And, you are so right - allowing this behavior in the workplace definately points to where the real problems lie - management. At that, in my experience, is not something that a lone nurse can change. Sad.
Specializes in LTC, assisted living, med-surg, psych.
I'm 110% with Weetziebat here.
That dream says loud and clear what your subconscious already knows: it ain't gonna change.
It almost killed my soul to leave my hospital job last December.......I loved my co-workers, the work, the patients (well, most of them anyway) and the money. But the top manager was too busy playing Martha Stewart and picking out new furniture and carpet for the remodeling project to know or care that the assistant manager was a bullying, witchy, bitter woman who had it in for older nurses in general, and me in particular. I put up with this manager's abuse for two years, until finally I couldn't take it any more and my body began to break down. Stress was literally killing me, yet I kept on thinking that if only I were a little faster, or a little more on top of things, or a better mind-reader, she'd get off my back.
One day I walked onto the floor and suddenly knew, beyond the shadow of a doubt, that I could not work ONE MORE SHIFT in that toxic environment. I broke down crying in the top manager's office, took two weeks' Family and Medical Leave, got some counseling, and never looked back. Now I'm working in an ALF where I'm respected and valued, the pay is decent if not exactly thrilling, and I have plenty of control over how I do my job. I love it.....but if I hadn't left the old job, I'd never have had this opportunity.
I believe that you know, in your heart of hearts, exactly what you need to do; I wish you the best as you make your decision.
well, i almost went back to my job at the assisted living, but the day i went to talk to my boss, i found myself crying. i tried to go back there, but in my heart i knew i couldn't work there anymore. so at this time i'm unemployed, but i feel so free. wednesday i'm going job hunting and who knows maybe i will find a job i can love.
wednesday i'm going job hunting and who knows maybe i will find a job i can love.
Gabie Baby
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They asked her to take ONLY a leave when she had, in fact, resigned. They did not ask her to take a leave to get rid of her.