xxstarrynitesxx has given the best advice thus far. Baby chickens may or may not be from SoCal and may or may not have gone through a similar experience
The next best advice, as previously mentioned, is to learn ALL the requirements of EVERY school you're interested in, begin to compare them, and then start with the most universal. For example, anatomy. That way, each step you are limiting your options the least. Ya' dig? Keep checking in with those school (in person, if possible) and just keep going. Once you are accepted, you will be amazed at the number of people in your cohort who have a story similar to yours. Good luck!
Stop beating yourself up and flip the script. You have gained life experience from this. Btw...don't do LVN first. Nope. Also, why the gap year? Just get busy with your five classes. Then get your CNA on the weekends or something.