Pre-Nursing student thinking of getting pregant...feedback? Kinda long...

aawilwcb · Feb 16, 2009

Well as a mom of two, I sometimes wish I had got a degree and a career first before having kids, not that I would trade them for the world!! It is definitely harder with kids, I look around at these young kids in college that can study when they want, go to bed when they want, eat when they want lol..., that all changes when you have kids, but I'm sure you know that. What you might want to consider is even though you will be pregnant and able to finish pre reqs, you never know how your going to feel when your pregnant, with my first I had morning sickness so bad I ended up in the hospital, there is no way I could have done a science class. Also what if things change and you don't/can't make it back to finish nursing, will you be ok with that? With that said it sounds like you really want this, so if you have thought about everything, especially finances, then go for it, cause there is nothing like being a mom.

Good Luck

olliesmommy1005 · Feb 16, 2009

It totally is a personal choice. If you hadn't guessed by my SN I'm a mom too. My son is 16 months old and it's difficult to try and schedule school around my work and home life and have time to play with him, but I make it work. It's doable, there's a girl in my A&P II class who just had a baby and is back to class a week later (god bless her!). DH and I want another baby, but I just don't feel being preggo would work while in school, especially since I completely lost my mind the first time around! I'm finishing up my prereqs this summer and am going into the evening nursing program in fall of 09, so I'll be done by may 2011. Our plans are for me to be due after grad, but plans change and it's different for everyone. Good luck to you with what ever you decide!

Adams_Mommy_07 · Feb 17, 2009

Well speaking from experience, having gone to college four years (graduated with a B.A. in Dec. 07) and now doing the pre-reqs for nursing school all while having a baby my last semester at my university... he's now 18 mos and a HANDFUL. It makes things difficult but I have As in all my pre-reqs, work full-time as a Banker (possibly getting promoted into management shortly...:)) and am planning to have a child during nursing school as well--conceiving next Spring, hopefully. Of course I'm planning on conceiving at a point where I will give birth during a long break (to account for the unexpected) and take advantage of maternity leave from work my last semester of nursing school. I'm the kind of person who lives for a FULL FULL FULL plate, so if that is what you want go for it!!! If you have a strong support system (my inlaws are retired and live next door so they help out when needed) then it is definitely feasible.

I also understand your rush. I'm 23 (going on 24) and he's going to be 39 this year...

Cilantrophobe · Feb 17, 2009

We are also planning to have our second child during nursing school, over summer break. We have a 17-month old and he is a handful, but is in day care full-time.

It sounds like you are just going to take that last class and then put school on hold until later. I don't see a problem with that one bit.

With kids, without kids, in school or out of school, if there's a will there's a way! I know what it is like to have baby fever, there isn't much you can do to stop it. Especially if there aren't many good reasons to wait. And it sounds like your pros outweigh your cons.

Good luck with your decision!

BellasMommyOBRN · Feb 17, 2009

i have a friend who is trying to get pregnant while taking her pre-req's. she would wait but she is in her 30's and doctors worry about her waiting anymore so, fingers crossed that something happens for her!!!!

it's a personal choice and there never really is a "right time". i'll never forget what my nurse told me after telling me i was for sure, pregnant:

"no one is ever ready"

good luck!!

sunflowersrose · Feb 17, 2009

:twocents: i am in the same boat. my husband is 43 and i am 20. i am planning on applying to an rn program in may for admission this fall. i did get pregnant and in early february i miscarried twins at 14 weeks after trying for almost 2 years with fertility assistance. it made us want to try again immediatly but i kind of saw it as a sign that i can get pregnant, but maybe it's just not the right time. if i do not get into the rn program, i am going to be going into an lpn program and then doing a bridge lpn-rn program. we have decided that we are just going to wait until after i get my degree before we try getting pregnant again. i know the feeling that your hubby is not getting any younger, and neither are you...because i want to be a young mother, but i also know that when i do have kids, that i want to be able to support myself and my children..if god forbid anything should happen to my husband.

i hope that this helps a bit.

Sammygrll · Feb 18, 2009

Thank you all for the wonderful feedback! I truely feel this is right for us now and of course will continue on my path..as I've worked so hard for so far!

Does anyone know of any new-mom message boards? I googled...but didn't find what I was looking for?

Thanks again...

seamel · Feb 18, 2009

babygaga.com has a forum. good luck to you :)

Cilantrophobe · Feb 18, 2009

BabyFit.com is the best!

sk2198 · Feb 19, 2009

samantha,

i had my princess last january and im very happy that i have her but i wish i had finished school first. now im in the process of applyin to schools again.. and i know im a bad mother for making this decision, but i left my baby overseas with her grandparents. ;-( so sad)-; i miss her terribly. but i made the decision assuming that i will get into nursing school.. my husband is the only child and baby is our only child so therefore she is the only greatgrandchild and the only grandchild. im 24 my husbands 25. inlaws wanted baby with them and husband didnt want her in daycare so i had no choice but to leave her 22 hours away from me(by air). only a mother knows what it feels like to be away from her child. its so depressing. i search for her everywhere and i miss her every move, word, her smell..everything. i wish i can have her back but im desperately now waiting for admission. maybe god has planned something for me for which he had me decide to leave my baby overseas. so i now suggest that you, Samantha, think carefully after learning about my experience about having children so soon. i would wait til done with school.. im sorry for the long sad story but it's true and now u should be able to make a wise decision hopefully.

ps samantha, do u live in northern virginia? if so, did u ever work at inova fairfax hospital??

doulalove · Feb 21, 2009

I just want to say that I struggled with baby fever, too, and gave in :) I'm 25, hubby is 27, we've been married for 2 years, and felt ready. We both have bachelor's degrees, and my nursing prereqs are finished. I'm now 7 months pregnant, due in May, and am applying to start ADN programs that start in winter 2010, when the baby will be almost a year old. I think it'll be a challenge to complete a program with a baby that small, but I don't work, and I'd like to do this while the baby is still little. I think it'd almost be easier to go to school while the baby is little instead of waiting until it's a toddler or starting school because it'll still be spending a lot of time sleeping. I also remember when taking my prereqs that a lot of mothers with kids 3+ had to deal with missing out on a lot of fun activities, school field trips, and their children begging them not to leave to go to school. I know that my baby will still realize that I'm gone more, but I'm hoping to finish the nursing program before all of that starts. Good luck to you! If you're motivated and your husband is supportive or your goals, I'm sure it'll work out.