do people say this to you?

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Do you find when people find out what you do they say things like "How can you do that?" or "I could never work in the NICU it would be too sad."

I'm a nursing student, leaning towards NICU, and when we inevitably get into discussion about "what we want to be when we grow up" and I say NICU, I hear varied comments, some of which I don't know exactly how to respond to. I get the vibe that some folks think if you desire a career with neonates who might not survive, that you must be cold, callus, unfeeling or all three, otherwise you wouldn't expose yourself to this possible pain. Of course we know it's just the opposite, but....

Do you hear this? Do you just take it as a compliment? How do you respond?

Specializes in NICU, PICU, educator.

It's true, you hear that for any speciality! Just like to us NICU nurses we can't fathom working with adults in ICU or burn patients. I just tell them that yes, it is sad sometimes, but the rewards do out number the bad most of the time!

I did burn too. BLAH! :lol2:

I tell people it's not about sick babies, it's about helping babies to get better. I DO feel for these babies and because of that, they get compassionate care. Throughout nursing school I SWORE I would never do Peds, let alone NICU! I thought it would be way too sad because I have such a love for babies. Then a nurse I was training with said, If your baby was sick would you rather have someone taking care of him who loved children or who just did it for a paycheck?"

SOLD! I'm a NICU nurse now and LOVIN' it- it's ALL ABOUT getting them well!

I've heard this often. I just say that nursing is a wonderful profession, as there's a place for everyone. If NICU is not your choice, there are many other areas to try.

Specializes in NICU, LTC, Hospice.

My hubby is the same way...I graduate next month and when I first wanted to go to nursing school he didn't think I could do it because "I'm such a softy"...low and behold, I had my NICU rotation and fell in love with it. I got hired last month into the NICU I wanted and the Nurse Manager's reasoning to me was that she liked my heart and felt that I really did want to make a difference. I hear the same things every time I open my big mouth and say what I want to do or where I am going to work. My view on this is that #1, nursing has many many opportunities #2 NICU is and always will be my 1st love #3 I'm not looking forward to losing any babies, especially the 1st one, but when it happens I want to know that I've done everything in my power to give that baby and its family the best chance possible at life and that I've hopefully made a difference to that family. Death is something that no matter what area of nursing we choose, we will all eventually deal with, but that doesn't mean that the whole experience has to be a negative one...I want to be part of the positive and as a NICU nurse I feel that is my best way of being in that positive whether it means a long life or a very short life.

I hear this all the time too. The only time I don't like it is when it's followed by "...because I love babies too much." I don't say anything because it's not intended as an insult, but geez, I just want to say. "Yes, I went into NICU because I just can't stand children...especially babies." (j/k of course) I LOVE NICU, my husband tells me I have the best job in the world and I agree with him :)

Specializes in NICU, Infection Control.

JVan--I would probably respond just like you thought, but were too nice to say! ;) It's a dang good answer. As long as they KNEW you were being facetious!

And don't forget what's been said in this thread--there are some really awesome nurses in NICUs! (and everywhere else, I hear you!)

https://allnurses.com/forums/f33/poll-what-do-you-love-about-nicu-101076.html

My motto is..."If you can talk to me then I probably can't take care of you."

When another non-NICU nurse says it, I tell them how much I admire them because adults scare the hell out of me. I really love my babies. Its all about seeing them get better and the special moments along the way. Sure, it tears your heart out to lose one but thank God that doesnt happen that often. When it does then I consider it a small price to pay to be able to do such an important job and like a previous poster said, its always meaningful.

I hear that a lot! I usually tell them that we send a lot more kiddos home than die. If it wasn't that way we wouldn't be such a successful hospital. It's so much more than what people think. There are so many wonderful stories there! My brother was a NICU baby (28 years ago) so I have living proof of that.

On a more negative note, I have been personally stung by my own family when I chose to do NICU for my final semester preceptorship in nursing school. My brother (who is currently a third year medical student) has told me "why the heck do you want to do NICU? It's gross. They look like rats". He also thinks that doing a physical assessment on a newborn baby is gross. And then my mom thought that me choosing NICU for my preceptorship was the worse choice I have ever made just because I was unable to land a New Grad position in the NICU. I just felt that my whole family was pushing me to do either adult med/surg or geriatrics which I really did not want to do. I proved them wrong though. While I did not get a position in NICU, I have accepted an offer for a New Grad RN position in pediatrics. Training is one year long.

While the other people I know may think NICU or pediatrics is sad, they all give me props for doing it. And yes, I found NICU to be very rewarding. Loved seeing the progress the babies make. One day can make a huge difference to a baby. There was once where I took care of a baby who was born pre-mature. Had a UAC line, and Picc line. The only feeds by mouth he was getting was 3 cc trophic feed. However, once when I checked his residual, it was a wierd looking purplish color. Reported to the Dr. and was told to leave the baby NPO that night. Then nearing the end of the shift, the baby kept having deep bradys, so he was put on supplemental oxygen. The next day I was assigned to the same baby with my preceptor. This time, the baby was on his own except for the picc line. Oxygen and UAC got d/ced. This time there were no bradys, and if the baby de-sated, it was really minor lasting only a few seconds and self resolved. Baby was put back on trophic feeds. This time no wierd color residue. It amazes me how fast children and babies can bounce back.

Ya know, I used to hear that when I became a firefighter. Then I was one of those people that say I could not deal with the "little ones". I started working the ER at Cook Children's in Fort Worth, TX 3 years ago and I would not trade it for the world. Small children, even when they are sick can make your day special. You will never experience a place filled with hope and love like a pediatric unit. Try tell them that. And If that don't work and they still don't get it. Tell them 4 words, "little puke, little poop". Good Luck

PS: My wife just started the nursing residency at Parkland in Dallas. She says its great.......

Or I just say "different strokes for different folks". I know people who just cannot deal with the pediatric population but love working with adults. I'm the opposite. It's just different people's interests.

Don't you also like it when you change a baby's diaper, you can always coo and say "oooooooo...something smells stinky"? And sometimes when you say that to older infants or toddlers, they'll giggle at you. However there is no way you could say that to an adult or geriatric patient.

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