I've been taking care of a patient on our floor for quiet awhile. They have been in the hospital for over 2 months and are still very sick. Making only slow progress. This patient's spouse is crazy. They are demanding, rude, and quick to assume/blame. Everyone has tried extremely hard to keep them happy. For example, the patient has c-diff with crazy diarrhea. Their bottom is red from the diarrhea. The pt is getting butt cream but with all the diarrhea their butt got red. The spouse is fixated on this. Saying this is a perfect example of how we have been neglecting the patient ever since they got here. We've tried to keep the pt clean and dry and turned. The patient can turn themself and get out of bed with minimal assistance. However they choose to just lay their and whine. You can't expect someone to get better that continues to refuse PT/OT every day and all they wanna do is take dilaudid ever 4 hours around the clock. Yesterday the spouse blew up. She had an absolute breakdown. Screaming at staff.
Background:
I just received a direct admission from a doctor's office that had an O2 sat of 58. Patient was on room air and her son (a doctor) brought her in. She was dehydrated as all heck and we were trying to get her O2 up and get a line in her. There were 2 nurses, a resp therapist, a phlebotomist and a her family in her room trying to get her straightened out. I kept running in and out of the room to get things. The crazy spouse of the patient next door kept glaring at me. Everytime I'd run out they'd say I need to speak with you. And I would say, "okay I'm in the middle of something but I'd be happy to talk to you as soon as I can." They stood against the wall and glared into the other patients room the whole time. I'd run out to get something, "Excuse me, how much longer are you going to be, this is ridiculus." I would respond nicely each time but they were really ******* me off.
I finally got my patient stable and went to speak with them. They yelled and screamed at me and told me I was neglecting the patient. That the patient hadn't been turned this hour and that they were passing blood in their urine and no one had done anything. Urology had been consulted and just hadn't been up to see the patient yet. I explained this but that just made the angrier. Wanting to know what the hold up was blah blah blah. Then they tried to tell me that the patient had been passing blood in the urine for 3 days and they were sick of me ignoring it. When actually we have documented and I had seen the patient's urine for the past three days and it was yellow. Didn't start passing clots until early that morning. The spouse tried to say they showed me blood three days ago and I didn't do anything. I told them it wasn't me that they showed blood to. (because it wasn't.) She called me a liar and demanded to speak to my director.
I just don't understand people. My director offered to move them to a different floor. The spouse said they wanted a different hospital because we were a sorry excuse for healthcare. I think its interesting how my other 4 patient's family's rave about our care and one actually cried on my shoulder thanking me for what I had done for his mother that day. AND I had the BEST nursing assistant that day that you could ask for. It infuriates me when people say I'm neglecting someone when I've worked MY butt off to care for them. :banghead::banghead:
Thanks for letting me vent...