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I'm pretty sure all of us have been yelled at by parents numerous times, but yesterday was really hard for me after an incident with a parent. I called a parent who happened to be a nurse. I received a copy of a letter she sent to school and called to see if the student will be taking any meds at school and if so we need a Med Admin Form. The parent had worked a 16 hour shift and I called her in the middle of her rest. I had no idea and I know we are all sympathetic to nurses having to work overtime. Long story short, the parent felt that I was disturbing her and that she does not need a med admin form because she indicated on her Emergency card every year that she has asthma. I tried to explain the Education Laws in my State, but she felt that because she is an experienced nurse (she gave me her whole work history) and she knows I'm a new nurse (she asked how long I've been a nurse) AND I'm a school nurse (with my "cushy job") that I'm wrong. The parent blew up at my really quickly and said some very rude and disrespectful things. I tried to calm her down and explain, but she wasn't hearing it and kept talking over me and saying that I wouldn't "win". I tried to explain that we can just fax the paperwork, but she wasn't having that either. Eventually she hung up.
I understand that I was talking to an exhausted person and maybe she's not like that when she's well rested. I understand her child has asthma and I don't want to take away the inhaler (another issue is that the student has been carrying her inhaler since in the younger grades and no one has ever told the parent the child needed a medication administration form to have an inhaler at school). I just felt really belittled and inexperienced even though I know I was right.
I spoke with Admin and they were very supported toward me and gave me ideas on how to go about the situation by mailing a form home with a copy of the education code. I took myself out for ice cream yesterday to cheer myself up and then had a fantastic date afterwards so I feel better today. :cat:But I'm still anxious about talking with the parent. I was frustrated, but again I know she's stressed and tried and hopefully we can build a better relationship in the future for the sake of the student and safety.
So has anyone else out there had really hard times with parents in the healthcare field? Especially if they do not understand that healthcare in the hospital is different from the school setting.