I sent this to another forum but I think actual students would be helpful. I will be starting Nursing in the Fall of 2006.
I just read a post that said that around half of the married students divorced during nursing school. I had another lady say that their was alot of divorces during nursing school due to stress.
My question is has everyone found this to be true? I am happily married now with two children. If this is true what suggestions do you have to help you through it.
Nursing school can cause additional stress, for sure, but cause divorce? I don't think so.
I'm now divorced, but my marriage was going downhill long before nursing school. Actually, now that I only have 2 semesters left, we get along better than we ever have in the past 4 years. Strange, huh? I think *I* have grown up a lot and learned a lot about myself from nursing school.
Like guage said, there are a few nursing students that use nursing school to gain independence from bad marriages or marriages they would leave but can't afford to. My sister did that, dumped her husband right after graduation and he was very supportive of her through school.
Without a doubt nursing school stresses a marriage and family. Those without a good foundation to begin with break.
I think there are far more stressful events in life that result in a higher percentage of divorces. I have been married for over 26 years and the more stressful events in my life have concerned my children. I could always repeat classes if necessary. However, you can't replace your family. Just my take on it.
I think divorce and nursing school only goes together when there's immense stress at home involving an unsupportive spouse leaving the bulk of the responsibility on the one who is already taxed - the student.
I went to nursing school to FACILITATE a divorce. I went to school so that I could support myself and my daughter comfortably. While I was in school at least 3 (that I know of) of my classmates (of 31) cheated on their spouses, 3 got divorced, 2 broke up with long-term boyfriends, one got engaged and subsequently broke up and 3 others got engaged.
People are not as dedicated to marriage as they used to be. Spouses are 'disposable' since divorce is fairly inexpensive and is easily gotten. It's just a change of values in the younger generations that has no signs of slowing up.
Ha. If that's the stat, then nursing school students are doing better than the average population... becuase the latest statistics for the US are that nearly 60% of marriages now end in divorce.
I won't get on my soapbox as to why as several on here have already touched on that subject... but never let statistics scare you from doing something - you are your own person. That's my $.02.
I - and 4 of my classmates - PLANNED to get divorced after we finished nursing school!!
Can't blame nursing school on that!
I went to school with one girl who was having her dh pay for nursing school and supporting her and their one child, and her child from another man. After she passed nclex... She flew the coop. She is now married to someone else. From what I understand, there was no abuse, she was just bored and wanted out.
If you put your marriage/family first always, you should have no problems.
People are not as dedicated to marriage as they used to be. Spouses are 'disposable' since divorce is fairly inexpensive and is easily gotten. It's just a change of values in the younger generations that has no signs of slowing up.
Actually, for the record it was your parents generation that started the trend. Baby boomers were the first generation to have half of their marriages end in divorce.
Part of it was lack of committment, and part was the freedom not to have to stay in an unhappy situation like their parents seemed honor bound to do.
You are right though it shows no sign of stopping.
lol, well with 'younger generations' I was thinking like 40 and younger. :chuckle
I'm mixed on the subject. I'm glad that men/women have the freedom to not have to tolerate abhorrent behavior by a spouse any longer, but at the same time I wanted to believe in 'till death do us part. Sometimes you just don't really know someone until after you're married and living together and then realize that you made a huge mistake......... :zzzzz
I don't think that is true of our class of 33 we had 2 divorces and both were already split and in the process of things before school started it was just final in the middle of the program. If your happy now you'll be fine. When your all done with school your husband will be so proud of you that your a nurse. Good luck
I definitely agree with everyone about not getting hung up on the statistics.
But I just wanted to say that there has been no one in my class (of about 80) that's gotten divorced that I know of. And actually... I've came across about 5-8 people who are getting married or planning on marriage instead!
lol, well with 'younger generations' I was thinking like 40 and younger. :chuckle
I'm mixed on the subject. I'm glad that men/women have the freedom to not have to tolerate abhorrent behavior by a spouse any longer, but at the same time I wanted to believe in 'till death do us part. Sometimes you just don't really know someone until after you're married and living together and then realize that you made a huge mistake......... :zzzzz
Gee, most 28 year olds when they say "younger generation" don't mean 40 and younger. The boomers did strart the trend away from traditional marriages, this including living together prior to marriage, free love and promiscuity and a high divorce rate.
I'm mixed as well. Some marriages need to end. Why be miserable. People grow and change. The things you loved when you were 18 are thorns in your side 20 years later. Life's too short.
On the other hand, sometimes, as Marla says, you just have to tough out the rough spots and in the end you will have a stronger and happier marriage. Some people are too quick to run, rather than stay and fight.
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Nursing school can cause additional stress, for sure, but cause divorce? I don't think so.
I'm now divorced, but my marriage was going downhill long before nursing school. Actually, now that I only have 2 semesters left, we get along better than we ever have in the past 4 years. Strange, huh? I think *I* have grown up a lot and learned a lot about myself from nursing school.