3. Assistant living facility: Fired after 3 months
My resume looks bad. I wanted to not include my last job but when recruiters ask what I did during those 3 months, i reallly don't know what to say. I really don't want to discuss why I got fired (you can view my post to see how bad of a nursing I am).
At at my Core, I love my job and feel that with all the lessons I've learned, I will be a great fit someone else if given the opportunity. I am working for an agency as a per diem nurse and my job was cancelled this morning. I am afraid of not being able to pay my bills.
Are you really that obtuse? My point was I'm still responding because I DO care. I don't care for your behavior but I care about you as a person. And I will still care for you as a person no matter how ugly you are to me.
Are you sabotaging yourself because you don't want to do the work or are you honestly trying your best and it it not working out? Either figure out what the issues are and make them right or get out of nursing. There is no point in being so miserable that you say you aren't a good nurse. You have to be good at something. Maybe you just haven't figured it out yet. I am not a doctor but I am working on becoming one. I won't diagnose you. I do work in mental health and from your post I sense a lot of sadness with how things are turning out for you. There are other jobs out there, and at your age, if you can change direction, you still have time to do so without it affecting you in a major way compared to someone twice your age. Grab the bull by the horns and ride him, or let him go so he can stop swinging you around without a firm grip on him. Most of the time there will be an employer willing to take a chance but if you keep having the same history for whatever reason, it increasesyour chances of being overlooked for jobs. In the beginning of my career I was a job hopper. I even got fired from a job. What I eventually understood is that I like nursing but I want to be a doctor to have more authority for the patients care. Had I realized it early on, I probably would have went for doctor right away but nothing is lost. The past is the past and yes the future can be different for you despite your anxiety. Everyone has anxiety (some worse than others), it is all a matter of learning the coping skills, respecting and knowing your limits in life. If something is too stressful to the point it is detrimental to your health you may need to reconsider it, especially if you have spent most of your life fighting it and it is costing you too much. Pick and choose your battles. Nursing may not be it for you, it may be but you will definitely have to keep employment going forward in order to have a somewhat of a successful career. Good luck!
I feel like I should be thanked because of me no one had to be mandated. I don't expect things but it would be really nice for people to appreciate me. I'm not cut out for any job I'm learning
I agree...appreciation would be nice, BUT it is not necessary. Stop bending over backwards for others if it's just going to keep you feeling bitter and resentful.
Maybe you're having a hard time learning each new job because you're spending so much energy on the emotional and social aspects of your life.
I hope you find the help and support that you are looking for.
Are you sabotaging yourself because you don't want to do the work or are you honestly trying your best and it it not working out? Either figure out what the issues are and make them right or get out of nursing. There is no point in being so miserable that you say you aren't a good nurse. You have to be good at something. Maybe you just haven't figured it out yet. I am not a doctor but I am working on becoming one. I won't diagnose you. I do work in mental health and from your post I sense a lot of sadness with how things are turning out for you. There are other jobs out there, and at your age, if you can change direction, you still have time to do so without it affecting you in a major way compared to someone twice your age. Grab the bull by the horns and ride him, or let him go so he can stop swinging you around without a firm grip on him. Most of the time there will be an employer willing to take a chance but if you keep having the same history for whatever reason, it increasesyour chances of being overlooked for jobs. In the beginning of my career I was a job hopper. I even got fired from a job. What I eventually understood is that I like nursing but I want to be a doctor to have more authority for the patients care. Had I realized it early on, I probably would have went for doctor right away but nothing is lost. The past is the past and yes the future can be different for you despite your anxiety. Everyone has anxiety (some worse than others), it is all a matter of learning the coping skills, respecting and knowing your limits in life. If something is too stressful to the point it is detrimental to your health you may need to reconsider it, especially if you have spent most of your life fighting it and it is costing you too much. Pick and choose your battles. Nursing may not be it for you, it may be but you will definitely have to keep employment going forward in order to have a somewhat of a successful career. Good luck!
Agency is a good way to see what facilities are REALLY like before you get hired there. Sometimes if you are good at a facility they will offer you a job. When I did agency for a few months, I was signed on with 3 agencies. I could have worked 24/7 if I had wanted to between the 3 agencies. Sometimes you are cancelled because a regular staff decides to pick up, no reflection on you.
Your management will RARELY give a **** about you. Your co-workers might, but you almost never get a thank-you, we used to be told "work it out among yourselves, but someone has to stay." We never thanked the person who stayed, but we tried to take turns as we could so not one person was stuck every time. I guess that was our way of thanking, kind of taking turns. We worked together, but I don't remember us thanking each other in so many words, we just all pulled together to get the job done. It was understood, and I worked on that floor for 23 years. We had a fairly stable staff for that time, most of us long -term, but some would quit and we'd get a new person in. In nursing you kind of have to be "self-contained," because you don't always get filled up by others.
Be sure it's what you want before making any decisions with your license. I got cancer and was at a very low point in my life. I thought I was going to die and gave up on life. I tried to voluntarily relinquish my license, but the board would not let me. So, I just stop paying for renewals. Cancer treatment is very expensive and we needed every dime... Fast forward 11 years... I'm a completely different person and in a completely different mindset. And what a pain in the rear end to get relicensed via endorsement. Stop, take a breath. Do table waiting if you have to... There is no shame in table waiting, my friend who is a school psychologist does it in the Summer at a country club, because the money is good. Don't shoot yourself in the foot, you're gonna need that foot. Explain to us what happens to you, why you feel you make med errors. Get a new medication book, look up every med you give. It will take longer, but you'll grow in confidence. I agree with the poster who suggested you do private duty. One patient, look up every med and become familiar with the differences in the meds that are spelled similarly.
Alright, this thread has gone on long enough. At this point everyone has given sound advice.
It took a lot of your time to respond to this thread, and all the other threads you've posted. Maybe now it would be more beneficial to use your spare time to find real, in person, face to face help.
We don't know you, and it's hard to decipher what the real issue is here. Perhaps in person a real therapist or support group would be a better way to get what you are looking for :-)
I have similar issues; I have a hard time keeping a job due to anxiety and unable to get on with coworkers. All this "get therapy"/"learn to love yourself" advice is rubbish beecause it's not going to help your most immediate problem which is keeping stable employment and finding job opportunities. Your landlord and the bill collectors aren't going to wait for you to become an fulfilled, balanced person so you need advice to help you deal with this situation regardless of your emotional/mental health so, here it is:
Your best bet is a work-from-home job. Go on Indeed and Craigslist. It's still a lot of work and stress but you don't have the added pressure of coworkers and patients. You can also do those "case manager" jobs where you drive to people's homes but those are less than ideal.
Private duty/hospice. Be careful with hospice though because you have to deal with the families of the patients and they can be very volatile due to the circumstances. Hospice care is very easy though if you can learn to schmooze the family members and are comfortable with dead bodies.
Second best option: travel nursing. Even if things aren't working out, your contracts are short so you don't have to deal with it for too long. And if the contract does get cancelled, you just get moved to another facility. Good ones that get you to work fast: Primetime Health, Workbeast
Your management will RARELY give a **** about you. Your co-workers might, but you almost never get a thank-you, we used to be told "work it out among yourselves, but someone has to stay." We never thanked the person who stayed, but we tried to take turns as we could so not one person was stuck every time. I guess that was our way of thanking, kind of taking turns. We worked together, but I don't remember us thanking each other in so many words, we just all pulled together to get the job done. It was understood, and I worked on that floor for 23 years. We had a fairly stable staff for that time, most of us long -term, but some would quit and we'd get a new person in. In nursing you kind of have to be "self-contained," because you don't always get filled up by others.
Wow what mature coworkers! I'm afraid mine would say "I can't! I have school! I have a family" etc. We all have something that is important to us. That's awesome yours would take turns. And you're absolutely right. Nursing is a self pride kind of thing. I will have this mentality going forward
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