3 nursing jobs in 2 years. Unhirable?

[LPNewbie]

Without getting into too much detail:

I've had 3 jobs.

1. Assisted living facility: Fired after 2 years

2. Clinic: Quit after 3 months

3. Assistant living facility: Fired after 3 months

My resume looks bad. I wanted to not include my last job but when recruiters ask what I did during those 3 months, i reallly don't know what to say. I really don't want to discuss why I got fired (you can view my post to see how bad of a nursing I am).

At at my Core, I love my job and feel that with all the lessons I've learned, I will be a great fit someone else if given the opportunity. I am working for an agency as a per diem nurse and my job was cancelled this morning. I am afraid of not being able to pay my bills.

Thanks to to all in advance

[LPNewbie, LPN, LVN]

You wrote "social" group. You need a structured support group so you can talk about your issues in a healthy way with others who will be able to understand you and give you what you need. And again with the snark? Unbelievable.

Because it's not hard to see what I meant. Thank you and goodbye

[Wuzzie]

Because it's not hard to see what I meant. Thank you and goodbye

A social group and a support group are polar opposites and since you started asking for help from an internet forum (a social group) in the first place no, it really wasn't clear if you understood what I meant. I'm beginning to see why you're having problems and it starts with you. This behavior is why you don't have any friends (your words). I gave you well-meant, concerned advice and you responded by being a snot. Keep it up and you will soon find that nobody will want to help you here or anywhere else. FTR, I don't plan on going anywhere.

[Amethya]

Nah, you have more of a chance than I do. I got fired my first job after a year, I got fired of a job after A WEEK and currently I am holding a job longer than I have and I love it (2 years and possibly longer.) So if I can find a job after getting fired after a week, I'm pretty sure you are hireable.

[LPNewbie, LPN, LVN]

Nah, you have more of a chance than I do. I got fired my first job after a year, I got fired of a job after A WEEK and currently I am holding a job longer than I have and I love it (2 years and possibly longer.) So if I can find a job after getting fired after a week, I'm pretty sure you are hireable.

Thanks that is so nice to hear!!

[Funsize BSN, RN]

A quote from Einstein says the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.

I've read a couple of your previous posts and have noticed a recurring pattern from both your own personal shared stories and the behavior that you choose to exhibit in this forum.

The common denominator in all of these "failed" experiences you are having is you. You seem to have this eternal victim mentality. I recognize myself in you so I promise you I am not judging you. Instead, I am relating in hopes that a glimpse of my story can help accelerate your healing process.

I used to always blame other people or circumstances for my repeated failures; chalking it off to "bad luck" or that other people are just giving me a hard time. So many haterrrrs...lol. Anyone who tried to help me or give me advice would be reciprocated with my defensiveness due to my intense insecurities and insatiable need to protect my ego.

I job (and relationship)-hopped all the way into my late twenties until one day I decided to take my power back. I decided to take accountability for my own choices in life and especially for my bad attitude. I didn't like who I was as a person. I didn't have any friends and continued to struggle for some stability in all aspects of my life. My epiphany brought me down to my knees in sobs. I was ashamed of the person that I've become. But the turning point was when I chose to accept myself for who I was flaws and all. I made a conscious choice not to wallow in my pain and not to continue this victim mentality. Most importantly, I forgave myself and the people who have hurt me growing up which is mostly my family. I let go of years worth of resentment. But I didn't do it for them, I did it for myself. From there began my journey of self-love and compassion.

My long journey of self-discovery was accidental and happened during my cleanse of eating right and practicing meditation & yoga...all during the heat of nursing school. My classmates all noticed a palpable change in me. I found a new lease in life. I fell in love for the first time..first with myself and then with LIFE. Without much effort, the toxic people in my life slowly dissipated while new healthy friendships formed. We attract the same energy that we choose to put out.

Maybe you can start by letting go of the past. What's done is done. Nothing you can do about it now except learn what valuable lessons they might provide. Worrying about the future will only increase your anxiety. Focus on the present moment. Every day is a new day. This too shall pass. I hope you find the serenity to accept the things that you cannot change, the courage to change what you can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Best of Luck to you and your journey...wherever that may take you.

[LPNewbie, LPN, LVN]

A social group and a support group are polar opposites and since you started asking for help from an internet forum (a social group) in the first place no, it really wasn't clear if you understood what I meant. I'm beginning to see why you're having problems and it starts with you. This behavior is why you don't have any friends (your words). I gave you well-meant, concerned advice and you responded by being a snot. Keep it up and you will soon find that nobody will want to help you here or anywhere else. FTR, I don't plan on going anywhere.

Okay. Thank you. Have a nice day. In all my 26 years of life, I've never seen anyone continue speaking to someone they didn't care for.

[Wuzzie]

Okay. Thank you. Have a nice day. In all my 26 years of life, I've never seen anyone continue speaking to someone they didn't care for.

Read what you just wrote. I'm still responding.

[LPNewbie, LPN, LVN]

A quote from Einstein says the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.

I've read a couple of your previous posts and have noticed a recurring pattern from both your own personal shared stories and the behavior that you choose to exhibit in this forum.

The common denominator in all of these "failed" experiences you are having is you. You seem to have this eternal victim mentality. I recognize myself in you so I promise you I am not judging you. Instead, I am relating in hopes that a glimpse of my story can help accelerate your healing process.

I used to always blame other people or circumstances for my repeated failures; chalking it off to "bad luck" or that other people are just giving me a hard time. So many haterrrrs...lol. Anyone who tried to help me or give me advice would be reciprocated with my defensiveness due to my intense insecurities and insatiable need to protect my ego.

I job (and relationship)-hopped all the way into my late twenties until one day I decided to take my power back. I decided to take accountability for my own choices in life and especially for my bad attitude. I didn't like who I was as a person. I didn't have any friends and continued to struggle for some stability in all aspects of my life. My epiphany brought me down to my knees in sobs. I was ashamed of the person that I've become. But the turning point was when I chose to accept myself for who I was flaws and all. I made a conscious choice not to wallow in my pain and not to continue this victim mentality. Most importantly, I forgave myself and the people who have hurt me growing up which is mostly my family. I let go of years worth of.

I understand what you are saying and I get it but all this cannot be my fault. I do a lot of good and no one cares but even I do something wrong it means I'm horrible person. You're right. I'm angry. I hate my life and who I am. A lot of it wasn't even my fault and I'm the one who has to pick up the pieces.

My father gave me my anxiety. I didn't ask for that as a kid. My father is not a good person and I see so much of him in me. The CNAs I worked with loved me. I would always help out. I stayed after when no one else did. Did I get a thank you? NO! I make one mistake and they can me.

It's clear being on this forum how much mental illness is misunderstood. I always get the "oh you're only in your mid twenties what do you have to be stressed about". I'm just so done with everything. I'm not a bad nurse. I just need support. Family members ask personally for me. Residents light up when they see me. My managers never saw it. I'm always the problem!

[LPNewbie, LPN, LVN]

Read what you just wrote. I'm still responding.

Okay. There is nothing to respond to. At this point it's just childish. Good day.

[Funsize BSN, RN]

I understand what you are saying and I get it but all this cannot be my fault. I do a lot of good and no one cares but even I do something wrong it means I'm horrible person. You're right. I'm angry. I hate my life and who I am. A lot of it wasn't even my fault and I'm the one who has to pick up the pieces.

My father gave me my anxiety. I didn't ask for that as a kid. My father is not a good person and I see so much of him in me. The CNAs I worked with loved me. I would always help out. I stayed after when no one else did. Did I get a thank you? NO! I make one mistake and they can me.

It's clear being on this forum how much mental illness is misunderstood. I always get the "oh you're only in your mid twenties what do you have to be stressed about". I'm just so done with everything. I'm not a bad nurse. I just need support. Family members ask personally for me. Residents light up when they see me. My managers never saw it. I'm always the problem!

I'm not saying all that is happening to you is your fault. What I am saying is that maybe you can start by taking accountability for your choices which includes your reaction to your circumstances.

I'm sorry to hear that you feel under-appreciated. Being a people pleaser myself, I've taught myself to only "do good" when I WANT to give and do something kind and not because I need others to recognize my act of kindness or to validate me. Never donate your time and/or services with the expectation of receiving something in return...because that's when your "act of kindness" becomes selfish. You also set yourself up for disappointment.

Why do you feel like others need to thank you when you choose to stay after and help out? That's great that you chose to stay when others did not volunteer. But no one forced you and it's not like you're working for free..you are getting paid. It is not your co-workers responsibility to show you appreciation. You need to appreciate and validate yourself. Don't blame others for your lack of self-worth.

That's great that you see qualities of your father reflected in your own personality. This means that you can break the cycle. Awareness is a powerful thing.

[Wuzzie]

Okay. There is nothing to respond to. At this point it's just childish. Good day.

Are you really that obtuse? My point was I'm still responding because I DO care. I don't care for your behavior but I care about you as a person. And I will still care for you as a person no matter how ugly you are to me.

[LPNewbie, LPN, LVN]

I'm not saying all that is happening to you is your fault. What I am saying is that maybe you can start by taking accountability for your choices which includes your reaction to your circumstances.

I'm sorry to hear that you feel under-appreciated. Being a people pleaser myself, I've taught myself to only "do good" when I WANT to give and do something kind and not because I need others to recognize my act of kindness or to validate me. Never donate your time and/or services with the expectation of receiving something in return...because that's when your "act of kindness" becomes selfish. You also set yourself up for disappointment.

Why do you feel like others need to thank you when you choose to stay after and help out? That's great that you chose to stay when others did not volunteer. But no one forced you and it's not like you're working for free..you are getting paid. It is not your co-workers responsibility to show you appreciation. You need to appreciate and validate yourself. Don't blame others for your lack of self-worth.

That's great that you see qualities of your father reflected in your own personality. This means that you can break the cycle. Awareness is a powerful thing.

I feel like I should be thanked because of me no one had to be mandated. I don't expect things but it would be really nice for people to appreciate me. I'm not cut out for any job I'm learning