3. Assistant living facility: Fired after 3 months
My resume looks bad. I wanted to not include my last job but when recruiters ask what I did during those 3 months, i reallly don't know what to say. I really don't want to discuss why I got fired (you can view my post to see how bad of a nursing I am).
At at my Core, I love my job and feel that with all the lessons I've learned, I will be a great fit someone else if given the opportunity. I am working for an agency as a per diem nurse and my job was cancelled this morning. I am afraid of not being able to pay my bills.
And do you agree when I told her to stop messaging me and she continued to do so? Unprofessional
Unprofessional. That's hilarious. And you aren't the boss of me. I gave you well-intentioned and sound advice. You didn't like it and now you're throwing a temper-tantrum.
I've read back through your previous posts as well. Anxiety seems to be a recurring theme for you. You need to get that under control before you'll be successful anywhere. Are you working with a therapist and or a psychiatrist?
At my current job when I first started I was unbelievably anxious. It made me appear stiff and dumb. It made the experienced people think I wasn't cut out for it, which made me feel worse and perpetuated the cycle. One of my father's favorite pieces of advice was "fake it til you make it." I always thought this sounded hackneyed and dumb. How can I fake away my anxiety? How can I fake being smart when I have no idea what I'm doing?
I decided I had nothing to lose and jumped right in. I volunteered to do extra tasks. I asked for less direct oversight. I found when I was alone without people breathing down my neck I could be myself and actually accomplish things. By the time my one year review came up I got a glowing review from my boss.
My advice for you is to get help for your anxiety. Stop quitting jobs. Ask for help if you need it, but stop calling yourself dumb. Try to present an air or confidence and a can do attitude.
I've read back through your previous posts as well. Anxiety seems to be a recurring theme for you....
I decided I had nothing to lose and jumped right in. I volunteered to do extra tasks. I asked for less direct oversight. I found when I was alone without people breathing down my neck I could be myself and actually accomplish things. By the time my one year review came up I got a glowing review from my boss.
My advice for you is to get help for your anxiety. Stop quitting jobs. Ask for help if you need it, but stop calling yourself dumb. Try to present an air or confidence and a can do attitude.
Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.
And do you agree when I told her to stop messaging me and she continued to do so? Unprofessional
If she is private messaging you can block her. Responding to a thread is not messaging you and you do not get to control who responds and what the response is. You got some warm fuzzies on this thread but they weren't enough. Eventually the warm fuzzies run out and the tough love starts. That's where it starts to get uncomfortable.
That's why people here are recommending counseling. What you need to help you turn things around is not going to be found on an internet forum.
This thread has become a witch hunt. I appreciate the ones who gave me good advice. I am going to take it and apply it to my next job. I will give my job 100% and see where it goes
I wish you the best of luck. I thought I had the meanest preceptor for my 40 hour practicum at the very end of nursing school. But what I found is if I humbled myself to her instruction and seeming harshness, beneath there was a heart of gold. Nurses don't have a lot of time to say flowery things, they may tell you to do something in a matter of fact fashion. That doesn't mean they don't want what is best for you. Don't be afraid to ask for help, if the person tells you correctly, but not so nice, don't sweat it. They still told you correctly. Eventually you'll have a wealth of experience if you don't take tone and inflection personally. Keep asking, keep getting those answers you are after.
LPNewbie, I am an NP and also teach in an LPN program. I also have suffered from depression since age 14 (that I can remember, probably longer.) I started getting help for it when I was almost 40 years old, was prescribed medication that did not help the depression but made me sleepy, I did not like it. I got counseling from a social worker in independent practice, she was VERY helpful. Told me as long as I had been depressed it likely would never go away but I could learn to deal with it and have a good life. You CAN learn to be organized (that was never a problem for me, I am very anal about things.) You CAN succeed, as I mentioned before you need to be satisfied with yourself, and realize nursing is truly thankless much of the time, but you ARE making a difference in your patients' lives (particularly if you wind up in LTC, so many of the elderly have no visitors and you become their family.) You are correct that healthcare is a business, and management does NOT care about the workers, but workers very often care about each other and usually care (sometimes too much) about their patients. I know I worry about mine at night and when I have a day off.
Eventually you'll have a wealth of experience if you don't take tone and inflection personally. Keep asking, keep getting those answers you are after.
Not to mention that tone and inflection is nearly impossible to infer correctly via posts on the internet especially when run through a filter of "everyone is against me".
Specializes in Med/Surg/Infection Control/Geriatrics.
I understand the spirit of this suggestion, but I would respectfully disagree with this suggestion. A new nurse with anxiety issues is not a safe nurse around a child with a trache. I do agree though with the idea of working with "stable" patients. A rehab unit might be appropriate. One where you are working with various adults with physical issues such as MS or recovering C.V.A. You would have a preceptor and a nurse educator when appropriate. You can build your confidence and your services would be greatly appreciated. Every nurse experiences some anxiety in their profession at some point. You can channel that energy in the right environment, with the right kind of mentor. It would also be a good idea to study a bit more online regarding certain medical conditions and nursing considerations to help polish and expand your present knowledge. Sometimes, we need to not only get on the bus, but the right bus and in the right seat before we are really settled. Just a thought.
I understand the spirit of this suggestion, but I would respectfully disagree with this suggestion. A new nurse with anxiety issues is not a safe nurse around a child with a trache. I do agree though with the idea of working with "stable" patients. A rehab unit might be appropriate. One where you are working with various adults with physical issues such as MS or recovering C.V.A. You would have a preceptor and a nurse educator when appropriate. You can build your confidence and your services would be greatly appreciated. Every nurse experiences some anxiety in their profession at some point. You can channel that energy in the right environment, with the right kind of mentor. It would also be a good idea to study a bit more online regarding certain medical conditions and nursing considerations to help polish and expand your present knowledge. Sometimes, we need to not only get on the bus, but the right bus and in the right seat before we are really settled. Just a thought.
It would be helpful if you would use the quote button so we could see whose post you are responding to.
3. Assistant living facility: Fired after 3 months
My resume looks bad. I wanted to not include my last job but when recruiters ask what I did during those 3 months, i reallly don't know what to say. I really don't want to discuss why I got fired (you can view my post to see how bad of a nursing I am).
At at my Core, I love my job and feel that with all the lessons I've learned, I will be a great fit someone else if given the opportunity. I am working for an agency as a per diem nurse and my job was cancelled this morning. I am afraid of not being able to pay my bills.
Thanks to to all in advance
No need to punish yourself. You're quite employable. Assisted living facilities are known to be difficult places to work with high staff turnover. Termination wouldn't be held against you unless your acts were egregiously criminal or negligent in which case your license would have been affected.
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Unprofessional. That's hilarious. And you aren't the boss of me. I gave you well-intentioned and sound advice. You didn't like it and now you're throwing a temper-tantrum.
And no, nobody agrees.