Nurse dating former patient?

  1. Unethical? What are your thoughts on this?! Thanks
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  3. by   Sour Lemon
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    Unethical? What are your thoughts on this?! Thanks
    In general, it's a poor idea. On the other hand, was the nurse-patient relationship brief and twenty years ago? I'm OK with that.
  4. by   mzsuccess
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    In general, it's a poor idea. On the other hand, was the nurse-patient relationship brief and twenty years ago? I'm OK with that.
    Yes outpatient quick relationship. Thing is I said no. Told him it's crossing the line and just plain unprofessional. But he's very persistent. Went out his way to somehow get the nurse ext. and continues to call but not in a stalking way������
  5. by   Sour Lemon
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    Yes outpatient quick relationship. Thing is I said no. Told him it's crossing the line and just plain unprofessional. But he's very persistent. Went out his way to somehow get the nurse ext. and continues to call but not in a stalking way������
    That's a major NO in my book. He'll be just as "persistent" when things go wrong. Cut him off now. If he continues to call, he's either getting mixed signals from you or he's a complete creep.
  6. by   NurseBlaq
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    Yes outpatient quick relationship. Thing is I said no. Told him it's crossing the line and just plain unprofessional. But he's very persistent. Went out his way to somehow get the nurse ext. and continues to call but not in a stalking way������
    That's not persistence, this IS stalking. Who harasses someone on their job after being initially turned down? No ma'am, cut him off and don't be playful, be stoic. He needs to know you're serious and mean business. That is not acceptable. Even my children know they better not call me at work unless somebody died or the house burning. Nobody has time for that!
  7. by   mzsuccess
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    That's not persistence, this IS stalking. Who harasses someone on their job after being initially turned down? No ma'am, cut him off and don't be playful, be stoic. He needs to know you're serious and mean business. That is not acceptable. Even my children know they better not call me at work unless somebody died or the house burning. Nobody has time for that!
    Thanks!
  8. by   mzsuccess
    Thanks!
  9. by   RNperdiem
    You needed a bit of confirmation about what your intuition was telling you: this guy is trouble; stay away.
  10. by   AnnieOaklyRN
    I would say no, more so because he is so persistent which spells controlling and desperate to me!! RUN. I would also ask him to stop calling you at work and tell him that you will have to speak to management and possibly the police if it continues, as it is not appropariet for work. You could also have you co workers tell him you don't work there anymore.

    It is not appropriate for patient nurse dating anyway, but again I would be more worried this guys is not normal.

    Annie
  11. by   Wuzzie
    He sounds like trouble. Watch your back.
  12. by   Jedrnurse
    Quote from AnnieOaklyRN
    I would say no, more so because he is so persistent which spells controlling and desperate to me!! RUN. I would also ask him to stop calling you at work and tell him that you will have to speak to management and possibly the police if it continues, as it is not appropariet for work. You could also have you co workers tell him you don't work there anymore.

    It is not appropriate for patient nurse dating anyway, but again I would be more worried this guys is not normal.

    Annie
    I wouldn't even wait for more calls to speak with management. Let them know about the situation now...
  13. by   Have Nurse
    One word: BOUNDARIES.
  14. by   Horseshoe
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    Yes outpatient quick relationship. Thing is I said no. Told him it's crossing the line and just plain unprofessional. But he's very persistent. Went out his way to somehow get the nurse ext. and continues to call but not in a stalking way������
    The fact that you are trying to re-frame this into something relatively okay is concerning.

    Calling someone repeatedly at work to initiate a dating relationship with someone who said no is the very DEFINITION of stalking. Reading between the lines, it doesn't sound like you have been very firm with him, and the fact that you are asking if this would be appropriate reveals that you have considered it on some level.

    DON'T do it.

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