Nurses love DRAMA???

melmarie23, MSN, RN · Dec 20, 2009

I don't think that nurses gossip any more than anyone else. Its human nature and you find it virtually everywhere.

Best you can do is ignore it, not participate, mind your own business and stick to the task(s) at hand.

Trauma Columnist · Dec 20, 2009

Agree that best advice is to ignore the gossip and drama and don't get involved. If someone tells you stuff, ignore it.

Most nurses have enough to do and don't need drama at work.

~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN · Dec 21, 2009

Drama and stuff is not limited to nurses, HARDLY. People don't always agree, and some threads on here, their is arguing. Are we all supposed to have the same opinions and get along and hold hands and skip off into the sunset?? People should be allowed to voice their opinions, even if others disagree. Doing it respectfully is what is Key!

Threads likes this are not any less drama provoking then anything else.

It actually seems a tad hypocritical, you can make a post making judgments on others and venting about your dislike of people, all the while complaining that others do the same exact thing LOL

Join in or ignore.

DLS_PMHNP, MSN, RN, NP · Dec 21, 2009

DRAMA is everywhere.

Ever watch the evening news? Ever listen to people talking in the checkout line at the local grocery store?

Ever eat at a restaurant and hear other diners talking?

Ever been at a place of business and hear employees arguing/talking about others?

I could go on and on and on.....

Is drama limited to nursing? no freakin' way.

sweetiepeas · Dec 21, 2009

I always say that I am a drama free zone. I do not partake in gossip. I don't mind hearing it but I don't get involved in it.

I am student nurse as well and I must be pretty lucky because my class is very supportive of each other.

Just choose to not partake in the drama.

Butterflyrn83 · Dec 21, 2009

Drama may not be limited to nurses but I can say that what I find quite annoying is that while reading some of the threads, it goes off topic and people start arguing over the internet.:argue: This site is supposed to help each other. It is not a place for going back and forth and calling each other hypocrites and whatever else. I am on this site looking for helpful advice and instead I have to read through dumb, off topic, insulting and childish comments. It's pretty frustrating and some people really need to grow up.......for real.

morningland · Dec 21, 2009

I see what you are saying but in comparison to other forums, people are pretty tame here. On most forums people are absolutely cruel and brutal (epecially people who comment on youtube) but even when people get argumenative here it never goes to the level of other forums.

rn/writer, RN · Dec 21, 2009

Where there are people, there will always be some fireworks. It goes with the territory. But AN is relatively low-drama compared to many sites. This is, in part, due to the Terms of Service, which make it clear that personal attacks and violent virtual clashes are not welcome. And it's partly due to the members themselves--most support and appreciate the goal of having a flame-free atmosphere.

Without non-verbal cues like tone of voice, body language, and facial expressions, virtual communication is susceptible to misinterpretation. Sarcasm and teasing can come across as attacking. Asking for clarification can seem like a challenge. And some are quick to jump to conclusions and take offense.

When reading something that wrankles or upsets, it's generally wise to take a step back and let your spirit settle. It's also good to give the writer the benefit of the doubt that they don't intend to be offensive or obtuse. Even when it's clear that offense was meant, readers still can choose not to receive the bad vibes. And they can disagree without responding in a hostile manner.

In real life, miscommunication may not happen as easily, but it still happens often enough. Sometimes the best you can do is keep your head down and keep moving through your day.

Creating and airing drama can give person the illusion of having power when she actually feels like some part of her life is out of control. Gossiping about others or sharing personal soap opera details is a back door way of asking for attention. Unfortunately, as human beings, we're attracted to the "excitement" and prone to listen unless we draw some internal lines.

And, too, I think there is a temptation to listen to someone else's catastrophe and chaos so we can feel better about our own lives.

With certain people in my life, I have to change subject when the conversation veers toward gossip and negativity (gossip is rarely positive ), but I don't do this to be judgmental. I do it because it's far too easy to join in the "fun."

Anyone who has a supportive home, family, school, or workplace is blessed indeed. The tougher things are in the world, the more we need to build each other up, correct with kindness, and just offer a bit of safety and decency when we can.

Let me start here.

I so appreciate the abundance of wisdom, talent and genuine goodness of the members here at allnurses. It's a great privilege to share this forum with such a tremendous variety of people and to be able to discuss our profession along with just about anything else on the planet. Any time I have a question, I come here with the hope that someone will either have an answer or be able to give me ideas about where to look next. I am rarely disappointed.

Thank you all for being there. :yeah:

aerorunner80, ADN, BSN, MSN, APRN · Dec 21, 2009

ok... so what's up with this issue? do nurses love drama or what am i missing? i'm a student nurse and the nurses have drama on my floor all the time... as a student, students talk about each other behind their backs and discourage others... being on all nurses, people have heated conversations on here!!! what is wrong with nurses??? this is an internet where people write what they feel and i believe if you don't like what it is ignore it!!!! nothing should be personal or judgemental here??!! and why do nurses gossip about each other soo much? omg!!! anyone see this...?

it's easy to think of the "ivory tower" when looking from the inside but it's not all that. nurses are stressed and one way of a human being's way of dealing with that is to talk/gossip. i'm not saying it's right or wrong. it is what it is.

nurses are just normal people like everyone else.

nobody is surprised to hear about office gossip and offices are filled with normal people so the same should be thought of in the hospital.

nurses, doctors, techs, cna's are all normal people with real life stresses.

jennylouwho · Dec 21, 2009

It is the nature of the beast I'm afraid. I've seen it in anything from restaurant work, bar work, retail work, office work, etc.

bluehippo · Dec 22, 2009

Ya, it stinks that people talk so much smack and can be pretty judgemental. 95% of the time I stay out of it. But I don't think RNs talk more than people in other businesses.

I can kind of see your point because as students we are taught (or drilled) that we are to act professional and not judge.

I will be entering my last semester in January and have been very lucky because most of my class is supportive and honest.