Nurse sleeping with coworker

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I work at a nursing home and one of my fellow nurses is sleeping with a male CNA on the job. Well I don't think they are having sex there but they are fooling around. Even in patients rooms. Could she lose her license for this???

Hopefully in EMPTY patient rooms......

They are not having sex, but are "fooling around"?!?!? Is there a difference if they get caught?

Someone will see them and report them eventually. There was an incident I knew of that it was considered "sexual harrassment" as the discovering party was mortified. And no one wants that on their record over playing grab butt with a co-worker.

My only concern would be if I were charge when the 2 of them are on and disappearing. Because then it could be an issue that if someone else catches them, it could be on you if you are in charge of the unit. And to have to deal with the impending drama, the spouses/s.o.'s (cause if they were not in other relationships they'd be doing all this at home) just a whole lotta nonsense.

Excuse yourself from the drama/situation all together with your friend if you are not in a charge position. When you know nothing, see nothing, talk about nothing--then you do not need to involve yourself. "I really appreciate your friendship, but I can't talk about you and the CNA anymore. Ya'll are gonna get caught, and it is just a bad idea"

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We had a situation when an older married CNA (who had several young children) was chasing a young, single CNA around the facility at night. It was emabarassing as much as anything else. Everybody squirmed when her husband came into the facility in the morning to pick her up to take her home. We all expected there to be a conflagration some time. Since the male caught up in this lost control of his drinking at the time, the situation moved toward resolution as he was progressively disciplined for his drinking. Meanwhile the charge nurses made certain to keep the two separated in assignment. When she went out to chase him at his unit, then they had to tell her that she was forbidden to go outside of her unit. It was very uncomfortable around there at night, and more so in the morning.

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Specializes in NICU, PICU, Transport, L&D, Hospice.
Not going to report her. I'm friends with her and just worried she's putting herself in a position that could get her in real trouble. No drama on my behalf. And no she doesn't do anything in front of patients.

Then I would recommend that you speak to her as a friend and tell her about your concerns and thoughts relative to her sexual behavior. If it is adversely affecting the work environment tell her you are going to report it to the supervisor if they don't change that.

I wouldn't waste one minute of sleep over this unless I was somehow complicit in the questionable behavior.

Otherwise, getting paid to have sexual intercourse with my loved one sounds like a great deal, where can I sign up?

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Specializes in hospice.

"Not going to report her. I'm friends with her and just worried she's putting herself in a position that could get her in real trouble. No drama on my behalf. And no she doesn't do anything in front of patients."

For some reason the quote function isn't working correctly for me on this post so I just copied and pasted.

Your first post said she's doing this in patient rooms. So I guess you meant empty ones? (Well, actually, THEY. He's just as wrong she is of they're fooling around in patient rooms and/or on the clock.)

Show me who your friends are and I'll show you who you are. Why would want a friendship with someone who thinks it is okay to act this way? Have you talked to her about this? What was her response?

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Academics.

Talk to her, if she's really your friend. If she gets upset about the truth of her situation and "de-friends" you, she wasn't much of a friend to begin with!

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.

You really need to sit down & talk to her about this situation because someone will end up finding out & reporting her.

Like the PP said, if she brushes you off then she really isn't your friend.

I don't know if either of them have a significant other but they need to take that business to their house or at least a hotel.

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I think that if you've said your part, that's really all you can do. They are both adults and should be aware that what they're doing can have dire consequences. I agree that you should distance yourself from the whole situation - her openly talking about it with you, a coworker, could also lead to disciplinary actions.

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Specializes in Emergency, Telemetry, Transplant.
I get so sick of the knee-jerk "none of your business." If they were in one of their bedrooms, it's none of your business. When they engage in sexual activities in patient rooms at MY WORKPLACE it becomes my business.

It's not a knee jerk reaction. If someone came up to me and told me that they heard that 2 staff members were "fooling around" or whatever...either you go to the staff members and say something such as "people are saying that..." or you dismiss it as another stilly work rumor. Unless you actually catch them in the act, you can't report them. I have heard various rumors at work....some juicy, some not so much. I think many of them are started by a coworker who does not like the subject of the rumor. You can't turn someone in based on that. If you walk in on them...different story.

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Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
It's not a knee jerk reaction. If someone came up to me and told me that they heard that 2 staff members were "fooling around" or whatever...either you go to the staff members and say something such as "people are saying that..." or you dismiss it as another stilly work rumor. Unless you actually catch them in the act, you can't report them. I have heard various rumors at work....some juicy, some not so much. I think many of them are started by a coworker who does not like the subject of the rumor. You can't turn someone in based on that. If you walk in on them...different story.

Exactly. Unless there is proof, no boss wants to hear rumors. If you just go on hearsay the person the rumors are based upon will just deny everything unless there is proof.

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Specializes in MDS/ UR.
Any time you wanted some entertainment at a facility where I once worked, you could walk out to the parking lot on night shift and watch one of the nurses with her legs up in the air inside a car. She was well known. Since there were apartment buildings around the facility and parking lot, I imagine she provided entertainment for a lot of those people too. Nothing new about this type of activity.

Thanks for that earwig. :(

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

Clearly a case of MYOB unless resident/pt care is compromised or their behavior is affecting your clients (doing the deed on premises, yes, a problem). Really, unless all that is true, leave the rumor mill alone. It always comes back around if you don't.

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I hate to say this. But it seem life the nurse life is a hoe's life. Me and my wife have come across this. So many nurse screwing there co workers on break or after hours. I'm sorry but nurse do it to them self. I just had to go threw something like this. My wife fell into this cycle. I have yet to find out what cause her to take this leap of faith. I can say I'm lucky cause I found where she was at and stop what was happening before it started. It's insane how nurses thats are mother and wife are willing to Throw everything away. I can only try to keep my family together. Not sure if this will happen again but this really put a hurt in our relationship. As a man I can only do my best keeping my family together. But I not going to play the fool. If she want to step out like that then this will be the end. The hospital has to have rules or something help against this cycle.

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