Nurse dates doctor openly at work.

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What do you think about a nurse who dates the doctors she works with. We have a nurse in our unit that is doing that. It is quite embarrasing when relatives of the patients are asking how long they have married. When doctor is actualy married to someone else. Our unit has brought this to the attention of the unit manager, but she does not share our concerns. Is this right.

At the unit I work at now there is a (married) dr. having an affair with one of the nurses who is also in a serious relationship. I don't approve but since it's been going on for over 2 years, and neither of their partners seem to mind enough to do anything about it then who am i to say anything about it? 'Till now it hasn't negatively affected much of anything- other than the fact that there is always fodder for the rumour mill for those seeking....;)

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Specializes in LTC, Acute Care.

In a nut shell, that type of behavior is tacky and inappropriate. I say this because I've worked around people who have engaged in this behavior. In hospital/office romances only breed resentment especially when the parties involved are married to other people.

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I think it is their business, however, it should be kept between them and not made obvious to staff or patients. When this happens it creates an enviornment of poor morale by the staff having to "put up with" an open affair that has negative effects on the unit as a team. The nurse and doctor ought to have class enough to take their affair outside of their work place. One or the other should leave.

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I think it is nobody's business to teach morality to others. I am sure a whole lot of all these moral high roaders are themselves in questionable relationships, hey! but that is their private business. What would bother me very much would be a couple, even if they had been married for 40 yrs act unprofessionally on at work. I would definitely find out if their acts are against company policy and I don't care if they are sleeping with half the town at home.

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Specializes in Pre/Post OP.

This happened at an outpatient surgery center I worked at between a nurse manager and a surgical scrub nurse. The nurse manager (female married) was reprimanded and eventually fired. Her boyfriend ended up transferred to another surgery center owned by the same co. She was the best boss I ever worked for...but I think people felt it was disgusting. She ended up divorced, lost custody of her kids and lost her job! She was devastated. I felt we lost an incredible manager and was disappointed in what she did. We all felt it was a huge facility loss! We loved her professionally..it was hard on the surgery center for everyone. I don't think that many of these type relationships work out. I would advise staying clear of your coworkers and find relationships elseware. It never ends up working out the way you think it will. :nono:

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Specializes in LTC.

Married or not workplace relationships should be kept aloof around staff and patientsl. Not hide it, but not openly flaunt it.

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Specializes in Pediatrics Nursing.
Morally at least it is not right at all. If he already has a wife, he shouldn't be dating someone else and this nurse should not be flaunting her indiscretions.

See it's very simple !

It is their fate that they could not keep their integrety and morale and run behind lust. Its our duty to maintain our intigrity and keep ourself away from the things which our morale dose not allow. If iam healthy enough to control my temptation and think well, nothing can shake me.

Anyway, you can not cheat yourself.

Bye

:nono: Basant

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Although it may not be right for this doctor and RN to be having an affair, it really is none of anyone else's business...who is anyone else to judge the situation. However, it should not be flaunted at work, they should leave their private business for before or after work.

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Not a great idea, at least not for this nurse--- if she values her reputation (but, apparently she does not if she's openly flaunting her affair with a married man). The odds are that this romance won't last, and when the doc dumps her she's still going to have to deal with him being around all the time since they both work at the same place. Even if she's really in love with this man (and not his money/title) the fact remains that he's married...probably even with kids. Perhaps this nurse feels comfortable about being a homewrecker, but even if the doc were to leave his wife for her, this nurse can never be sure he wouldn't cheat on her with some other woman later on. For all we know, she may not even be the only woman he's seeing on the side.

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Not a good idea, you can see the end results. No winners here!:nono:

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Specializes in aged -adolescent.

I don't think any nurse should get her meat where she gets her money.

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i agree with u gompers

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