Nurse dates doctor openly at work.

[castle]

What do you think about a nurse who dates the doctors she works with. We have a nurse in our unit that is doing that. It is quite embarrasing when relatives of the patients are asking how long they have married. When doctor is actualy married to someone else. Our unit has brought this to the attention of the unit manager, but she does not share our concerns. Is this right.

[coral_cosmo]

I wonder how things would be different if they were both nurses?

HA! I was thinking the same thing! Noone would blink an eye... :chuckle

[Dalzac, LPN, LVN, RN]

I worked with a nurse that did that. There were many problems. The worst problem was when I needed to cal him in the middle of the night she wouldn't let me call him. She would do it. She stated that was her charge nurse job. Of course if it was anyone but him it was my duty to call. Since it was ICU, the calls were usually important and she never relayed the right info I was calling for. I went to administration over it and they told her to stop. Then she made my life miserable.

This looney tune stalked Doctors. I would be giving docs report on their pts. and she would walk up snuggle oh so close and give them her phone #. It would embarress the he!! out of me.

[jimthorp]

I see nothing wrong with nurses dating doctors, as long as neither is already attached to someone. I would call HR.

If it doesn't adversly impact patient care I think people should mind their own business.

[blueheaven]

Just give it time, trust me the wife WILL find out.

[penguin2]

I think it's unprofessional, but nobody's business unless: A. he's married & they're blatantly flaunting it & B. it affects their work/assignments, etc.

Someone mentioned telling HR-- in my experience they don't care. It's sickening to watch if the doc is married & the nurse is an opportunist; but 99% of the time the nurse gets dumped-- seen it happen more times than I can count. It's like watching a movie w/a predictable ending!

[penguin2]

I worked with a nurse that did that. There were many problems. The worst problem was when I needed to cal him in the middle of the night she wouldn't let me call him. She would do it. She stated that was her charge nurse job. Of course if it was anyone but him it was my duty to call. Since it was ICU, the calls were usually important and she never relayed the right info I was calling for. I went to administration over it and they told her to stop. Then she made my life miserable.

This looney tune stalked Doctors. I would be giving docs report on their pts. and she would walk up snuggle oh so close and give them her phone #. It would embarress the he!! out of me.

What's sad is MOST docs are actually susceptible to this kind of manipulation.

[teeituptom, BSN, RN]

What's sad is MOST docs are actually susceptible to this kind of manipulation.

Most guys are in general, Temptation can be difficult to resisit.

[Agnus]

What do you think about a nurse who dates the doctors she works with. We have a nurse in our unit that is doing that. It is quite embarrasing when relatives of the patients are asking how long they have married. When doctor is actualy married to someone else. Our unit has brought this to the attention of the unit manager, but she does not share our concerns. Is this right.

You might resoponde with "they are not." Or "I don't know the details or their relation ship." or "why don't you ask them?" Or Just a simple, "I don't know."

Why are you embarrassed? It is they who should be. If patients start asking them Especially the MD this questions they might change their behavior. Sooner or later someone who knows he is married and maybe even knows the wife will see this and you can bet no one will be wondering about this anymore.

[suespets]

thanks to happy girl.it's interesting how people want to say "bet the wife knows" or "bet the wifes a b***.!head in the sand or...? It seems to me to be a slap in the face(towards staff) to flaunt as they do, which may make all "observers" to be of the same ilk,according to the 2 perpetrators.

[misserella8036]

i always take the stairs. one time a surgeon & circ nurse were smooching in the stairway. they immediately stopped when they saw me. both are married to other people.

i know peeps who know the surgeon socially. i have never said anything to any one (until this post).

my philosophy is that "what goes around will come around." it was none of my business. it's their conscious, not mine.

:stone

that's exactly what i was thinking!

[orangepink, NP]

Regardless of the fact that they flaunt their affair, their personal lives are none of our business. As long as it doesn't affect their patient care, then so be it.

[orangepink, NP]

I am an RN and my husbad is a MD in the same facility. We treat each other just like any other staff memeber. However many patients have asked me how long we have been married, because my coworkers feel the need to tell pts and families about our personal lives. Also our facility requires last names on name badges, and ours is pretty unique, so it is easy to comprehend some sort of relationship on that info alone. I find that my coworkers often times are the inappropriate ones not us. It was never an issue any place else we worked only here.

I agree. Sometimes, it's your co-workers who instigate malicious rumors.