Why do some nurses use their titles as a big ego boost?

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Specifically talking in social settings. I understand if you're at work or at a job interview, your title needs to be specified. I have a friend who I've been doing pre-reqs with years back. Our goal was always BSN. We took different paths and now she is an RN and I just finished my LPN. I feel like she rubs it in my face alot with the distinction of LPN. Instead of asking about NCLEX, she'll say, "how was your test for LPN?" "Are you going to continue on to be an LPN?" "Are there any LPN jobs you can find?" She loves that distinction. It's petty, it's catty, it's typical female behavior and I try not to let it get the best out of me but's frustrating sometimes.

I'm sure all of you understand that not every nursing path is the same and is different. Everyone has their own goals and a difference of degree doesn't make you a better nurse. I was included in a conversation of new grads at an ICU (where my mom happens to be one of the older ones that DO take care of the young). One nurse was in her 30's and said, "Why should I get a master's? It's all preference, honestly. In the real world, people can care less about how many degrees you have. At the end of the day, you're a nurse. your co-workers judge you on how you work with everyone else...how you are with your own patients and how you are with your fellow co-workers. No one could care less about a masters"

This is what I go by and this is what drives me. If it's anything I learned in psch of mental health nursing, there's a thing called "defense mechanisms" haha (if you all remember). Sometimes people who compete are compensating for something else.... I'm not going to go there. I think it's cool when people have goals and continue on with education - more power! But it shouldn't be used to boost their own ego...

I'm confused by the original post. I understand if the nurse is really happy with her job and doesn't want to change it, but a masters in nursing is a great way to move into advanced practice work, management, research, teaching, etc. I don't understand why the nurse was acting like a masters isn't useful? If someone is interested in pursuing more education, then that's great. Education is a good thing. What is wrong with nursing?

Agreed. Y'all missed the point.

Or we're not feeling defensive about our education.

Specializes in ICU.

You said you took different degree paths. She is an RN and you are an LPN. I think you are being too sensitive. However, I have known LPN's who tried to portray themselves as RN's when in fact, they had never even been to any classes for the RN. As a matter of fact, I have known a few who claimed they "know just as much, and make just as much money as an RN." We have a few who claim they do not want to go back to school, because they already know "just as much as an RN." I am not saying that is your attitude, so please do not flame me. Maybe your friend just wants some recognition from you for her achievement.

I feel like I have the opposite fear. I'll be graduating in a year with my BSN, but I have no work experience. I worry that the BSN title will come with increased expectations, like "You have a BSN you should know this..." While i'm there just trying not to pee my pants. These kinds of divisions can be really dangerous you know? If I get on the floor and can't get any help or advice from the ADNs and LPNs... I'm screwed. Very proud of my education but at the end of the day we all work the same floor :inlove:

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Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.

I can see it from both perspectives.

On one hand, I know what it is like to have competitive people always rubbing their success in others' faces. In fact, I have an ex-friend who would post my test grades next to hers on facebook, as if to brag about doing 2% better than myself. Needless to say, I cut her out of life.

On the other hand, I do think you are being sensitive, and it is obvious that you have some insecurities about yourself, or else you wouldn't have made this post. If it bothers you so much, ignore her or just smile and continue to do what you are doing. I work with this ex-friend (unfortunately), and I ignore her or just smile when she continually is nosey about my life (and in her case, she DOES have other issues).

I'm thinking that it is a mixture of both. The fact that she has to continually "remind" you that you are going to be an LPN instead of an RN signals to me that she may be rubbing it in your face.

Next time she asks, just say, "You ask about this a lot. Why do you care so much?"

So let me ASK just one question @hellostudentnurssee Are you happy being an LPN?

a. If yes the next time your friend says something smart ask her if she is proud of you for this accomplishment and watch her response. A true friend will not lie to you or put you down.

b.If you are not happy being an LPN then change that. BUT change it because YOU want to not because of snotty comments.

Remember friends build us up not tear us down. I speak from experience. I used to be a home health aide then CNA , then LPN, now RN (with a BSN) and hoping to get in a BSN to DNP program. Stay strong I am PROUD that you worked hard and have this accomplishment and YOU should be proud too.

Maybe your friend has someone doing the same thing to her that she is doing to you and its a way of coping for her.

They call themselves "practitioners" or "clinicians". They have a distinct loathing of nurses.

Odd. I work in a facility with two nurse practitioners. We don't really work together but we do interact because we share different aspects of the same patients from time to time.....anyway, they call themselves "nurse practitioner" or "advanced practice nurse". No loathing involved, thankfully!

Specializes in HH, Peds, Rehab, Clinical.

Totally off topic--but at first glance I thought "titles" said something else....

Well some people definitely use their education/title/status/whatever to make themselves feel superior and feed their ego. This happens in all job settings. It can't really be labeled as a "LPN vs RN" problem. I've seen floor RNs get promoted to supervisors and turn around and lord it over their former RN colleagues. It's just tacky and low class.

Totally off topic--but at first glance I thought "titles" said something else....

"stop shoving your big titles in everyone's face"

Ugh, I can just see this turning into another LPN vs RN vs BSN vs MSN vs APN thread. Why do these keep being allowed on AN?

Ditto lol...

Specializes in NICU, adult med-tele.

Word. I read it like that as well. :roflmao:

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