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Hi everyone. I think I am a pretty repulsive person. In my program I had one study partner but I think they've moved on to another person or group because I lack any adequate knowledge for basic things that were supposed to have been learned prior to getting accepted into the nursing program. Now Im alone and I feel like this nursing stuff is just too much. I have to worry about 4 exams in near-October and check-offs. It sucks to be alone but it has always been that way for me. I was wondering if anyone on here would like to form an online study group with me? Maybe some of us are taking the same or similar courses and have ideas to share? If anyone would like to do so please let me know.

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Specializes in Neuro, Neuro ICU.

I'm sorry to hear this :( I'm lucky enough to have a bunch of friends who applied & got accepted the same time as I. The downside is that when we are studying we always end up in personal conversation & have to refocus back to the topic. i actually find it easier to study on my own and then before the test we will ask another person to clarify something we arent fully understanding.

Another thing that really helps me is NCLEX review questions. i feel like they really prepare me for the types of questions that are on my exams. If you can, get one that divides the question up in to systems or chapters based on content.

As for an online study group, I'd be intrested but I dont know how much I'd be able to participate because I only get on All Nurses when I have spare time (and thats rare)

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Specializes in New Critical care NP, Critical care, Med-surg, LTC.

I wish I could help you out, but the study group thing doesn't really work best for me. The tone of your post worries me a little for you, though. I'm certain that you're NOT a repulsive person, and if you think you're behind in some of the basics, you should probably seek out some tutoring to keep yourself from falling behind. All the programs I've heard about seem to have decent tutoring resources and that may help you figure out how to best prioritize your time and learning to help you be successful. Reach out to some of your classmates if you're interested in forming a group, but DON'T put yourself down out loud around them. If you go in thinking you can't do it, you won't. Try to be positive and work towards your goals. Good luck.

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

Nursing school and nursing in general isn't what defines YOU! I seriously doubt you are a repulsive person.

I would advise you though to seek out a school counselor or advisor or favorite instructor. THe tone of your post concerns me.

Please let us know how you are doing.

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Oh, that makes me so sad. Have you asked any of the others if you could join their study group? Are you a shy person? Since I have been in school I cant remember a time that we didnt include everyone who wanted to join on the condition that they put forth the effort.

If I get into my program Im going to be really conscious of making sure noone gets left out.

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I'm assuming this is your 1st semester? Perhaps when you start clinicals or get farther along in the program you will start to make some friends you could get together for a study group or partner. Large study groups aren't for everyone, if you can just find 1, 2, or 3 other people to study with that is fine. I lost my own study group because the other 2 people failed out ): So I know how you feel sort of. However you are NOT repulsive, you just haven't found your niche yet. Good luck, and rest assured there is not anything wrong with you, if other people don't get to know or give you a chance that is their loss. Best wishes (:

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Specializes in Labor and Delivery.

Hi! I just wanted to let you know I'm sure how you feel is not the case. Sometimes its hard being on the outside but sometimes its better. For me personally I stick to my self a lot, I seem to study better that way and sometimes in study groups it can get more social then serious as well as I've had times where we will all be discussing something and I'm pretty sure I understand it and then someone else will say its different and everyone will agree then you find out in class or even worse on a test that what your classmates thought was correct wasn't, so my point is being on your own isn't always bad. It also leaves free of any arguments or gossip taht may be going around. Sometimes though it does suck.... I knwo I keep to myself for teh above reasons but also because I feel a little out of place at my school. Most are very very young, single, and live near campus. I on the otehr hand am a little older, married with kids, and live far away from school so......lonely me-but I just think of the above positives :)

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Like everyone else that has applied to this post, I am worried about your tone, but sometimes feel the same way! I personally study better on my own because I get distracted in study groups. Yes, members of a group can help one another to bounce off ideas but in my experience group study almost always means not getting as much done that we plan to get done. Sometimes I agree to study in a group, just so I don't seem stuck-up or anti-social, but other times I don't because I feel comfortable with my routine on my own. Do I sometimes feel like an outsider, maybe even repulsive, since I see almost everyone grouping up? Yes. But then I see that there are some like me that are keeping to themselves and I feel better. I do have a few people (3) in my class that i talk with, sometimes study with, often vent with, and I have/had a few that I tried to talk to but didn't work out...that bothered me at first but little by little I don't let it. Yes I want more friends because this is only my second semester at the school, and I don't live on campus, but then again it is a blessing because I am almost always free of gossip, drama, and other crap that may come up. I also feel a little out of place because I don't live on campus and I am 27 in a pool of mostly 18-20 year olds ( yay to the older students!). Since the semester just started it may get better, you may find someone (or someones) that are feeling the same as you and make your own group.

As far as a study group, sure I'm game but I only get on allnurses about once a week. What semester are you in? I'm in the first, taking Pharmacology, Fundamentals and Adult Assessment. Let me know

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Want to me my friend or study partner? I am in Level 1. I could go all day without saying a single word to anyone. I have good hygiene and dress appropriately but am just shy/ackward/weird and people don't really associate with me or even sit near me. I feel a lot of loneliness and feel like my grades will suffer for this. In our group project everyone had a partner to work on their part but I got mine and have to do it alone because no one volunteered to work with me. It's pretty depressing.

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OMG, u are me @dollface6! I am 25, live off campus, this school is new to me as well. This semester I am taking pharm, holistic health assessment, fundamentals, clinical skills and techniques...

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