New Grad and Newlywed

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I just have a question about being a new grad and a newlywed. I graduate in December and will be getting married in April of 2017. I want to get some experience just so I can get my career started. But what about starting a family? I want kids, my husband will want kids. How do I balance that AND being a new nurse????

Tell me your opinions and experiences.

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Thousands of women manage every day just fine.

Even if you immediately become pregnant, by the time you have the baby, you'll have a year under your belt.

Also, talk to your future husband. He's much better equipped to give you input on your lives than us.

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Same as any of the other millions of working women in the US.

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How old are you and how important are children to you? I don't necessarily need to know the answers, but those are definitely questions that you should ask yourself. I would further caution you that babies don't always happen when you plan them. I see so many people plan to "get pregnant in July" or "have a baby next fall". Sometimes they're still trying ten years later.

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I understand that millions of women working have had kids. I'm just trying to figure out since I will be a new nurse how it would be if I immediately got pregnant.

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21. I want a family. He wants a family too. Just didn't know how it would look on my employment, how it would look to employers, etc. I know really the first 3 years is hard for a new nurse while they are developing their skills and better nursing practice.

How old are you and how important are children to you? I don't necessarily need to know the answers, but those are definitely questions that you should ask yourself. I would further caution you that babies don't always happen when you plan them. I see so many people plan to "get pregnant in July" or "have a baby next fall". Sometimes they're still trying ten years later.
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I wonder if your username reflects you and how to comment on other peoples stuff? lol

Same as any of the other millions of working women in the US.
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I just have a question about being a new grad and a newlywed. I graduate in December and will be getting married in April of 2017. I want to get some experience just so I can get my career started. But what about starting a family? I want kids, my husband will want kids. How do I balance that AND being a new nurse????

Tell me your opinions and experiences.

Well I got married two days before I started Nursing school and pregnant half way through the program. It all depends on the priorities you have - nothing is impossible.

Hppy

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At the age of 21 you have the luxury of giving your marriage time to form a strong bond before having kids. Even a strong marriage feels the strain when a baby is born.

You have the time to give your new job your full attention and work any shift without having to worry about childcare. Your ability to make a good living is your most important financial asset. Invest in it now and build yourself a good emergency fund/savings account.

I was married a couple of years and established in a job I liked when I had kids. Since I was well known, my manager let me work per diem so I could arrange my schedule the way I liked.

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Well I got married two days before I started Nursing school and pregnant half way through the program. It all depends on the priorities you have - nothing is impossible.

Hppy

I agree. Thank you.

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21. I want a family. He wants a family too. Just didn't know how it would look on my employment, how it would look to employers, etc. I know really the first 3 years is hard for a new nurse while they are developing their skills and better nursing practice.

You have plenty of time to start your family. You only have one chance to get your foundation in nursing. Having babies will require your full time and attention, so will your first couple of years in nursing. Have you thought about how you would juggle a newborn and your career? It is very hard and costly to obtain quality childcare. Also very hard to leave the little critters with someone else, when you go back to work.

Best of luck with your decision.

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I wonder if your username reflects you and how to comment on other peoples stuff? lol

My username reflects a 1970's Chrysler advertisement. You posted on an internet forum. I commented my thoughts. That's how this works.

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