New Grad and Newlywed

RDBSN16 · Oct 24, 2016

You have plenty of time to start your family. You only have one chance to get your foundation in nursing. Having babies will require your full time and attention, so will your first couple of years in nursing. Have you thought about how you would juggle a newborn and your career? It is very hard and costly to obtain quality childcare. Also very hard to leave the little critters with someone else, when you go back to work.
Best of luck with your decision.

Thank you I appreciate it! I do want that good foundation so, to me, that's the most important for now.

RDBSN16 · Oct 24, 2016

OMPRN- Thanks for you comment, I appreciate it. I will have my BSN in December. Wasn't aware of the rules as I am new to this website. I thought that would have been something that would have been flagged when I created it.

ohmg- THANK YOU!!! I honestly did not know it was THAT big of a deal to put that credential before I "received it" in December. Jeez, shame on me......

Nicugal- you are so right. I did not think about those benefits coming into effect until after a year of employment.

decoda- I agree, I think I should focus more on a good nursing foundation and then worrying about a family later. It's just so easy to get impatient when you're excited about new things coming into your life!

To all: thanks for all of your comments, it really helped me solve my issue.

Sour Lemon · Oct 24, 2016

ohmg- THANK YOU!!! I honestly did not know it was THAT big of a deal to put that credential before I "received it" in December. Jeez, shame on me......

It is actually pretty shady. It's better to earn your credentials and then claim them. There are people who claim to be nurses, doctors, etc. who are not- but is that a group you want to be a part of?

Once you've earned the title, you may feel differently. I know one CNA who went to "nursing school" (one biology class) and is an "RN" (or at least plans to be someday). It's annoying to those of us who've actually earned the title.

RDBSN16 · Oct 25, 2016

It is actually pretty shady. It's better to earn your credentials and then claim them. There are people who claim to be nurses, doctors, etc. who are not- but is that a group you want to be a part of?
Once you've earned the title, you may feel differently. I know one CNA who went to "nursing school" (one biology class) and is an "RN" (or at least plans to be someday). It's annoying to those of us who've actually earned the title.

Good Lord. SO sorry I just didn't choose my username as politically correct as you wanted me to. I will have my BSN in less than two months. Maybe the nursing Gods will forgive me. Like I said, I didn't know of these "rules" when I signed up, and I can assure you I will have that BSN soon. Please, give me a break. I'll fix it for y'all

LOL and to add, I didn't even realize that I had checked the BSN box when I signed up. It's fixed now guys, you can relax.

Ruby Vee, BSN · Oct 25, 2016

I wonder if your username reflects you and how to comment on other peoples stuff? lol

You make an account and start a thread asking a question that shouldn't really even be subject for discussion except between you and your husband. And then you're immediately nasty to established members? Once you put it out there, you get comments. And frankly, many of us who read your original post probably thought the exact same thing.

Ruby Vee, BSN · Oct 25, 2016

Good Lord. SO sorry I just didn't choose my username as politically correct as you wanted me to. I will have my BSN in less than two months. Maybe the nursing Gods will forgive me. Like I said, I didn't know of these "rules" when I signed up, and I can assure you I will have that BSN soon. Please, give me a break. I'll fix it for y'all
LOL and to add, I didn't even realize that I had checked the BSN box when I signed up. It's fixed now guys, you can relax.

It isn't "rules". It's terms of service or, in other words, RULES. You might take a break on the 'tude. It's going to turn off a lot of the same long-time posters you're going to be asking for help.

Mavrick, BSN, RN · Oct 25, 2016

Once you've earned the title, you may feel differently. I know one CNA who went to "nursing school" (one biology class) and is an "RN" (or at least plans to be someday). It's annoying to those of us who've actually earned the title.

I totally concur with Sour Lemon. For folks that have worked hard, seen it through and are rightly proud of that accomplishment, it is a bit off-putting.

For me it's not your minor mistake, it's the pattern of people who try to take a short cut that gets me riled. The posers who steal valor from Veterans by claiming they have earned medals when they have not. The corporate big wigs with fake advanced degrees who have stolen jobs from people with real world experience who are passed over. And especially the "know-it-all" CNA who identifies herself as a nurse fully enjoying the respect and trust that the Real Nurse has earned.

As an RN I'm a serious "rule follower". It's an expectation that you better be prepared to defend should your judgment come into question. Violations caused by not knowing your job description or Scope of Practice do not sit well with the Nursing Gods and can have serious repercussions that will attach to your professional license for the entirety of your future career.

RDBSN16 · Oct 25, 2016

Once again, thanks for all of the comments. The issue has been solved. I will no longer reply to negativity, and if others cant understand my sarcasm or understand where I am coming from on certain subjects, please do not reply to me.

I am not here to argue or fight with anyone. If I had known how unfriendly and rude some people are I wouldn't have joined this site.

Sour Lemon · Oct 25, 2016

Once again, thanks for all of the comments. The issue has been solved. I will no longer reply to negativity, and if others cant understand my sarcasm or understand where I am coming from on certain subjects, please do not reply to me.
I am not here to argue or fight with anyone. If I had known how unfriendly and rude some people are I wouldn't have joined this site.

1. The fact that people disagree with you doesn't mean that they don't understand. It also doesn't mean that they're "rude", "unfriendly" or "negative".

2. You can't control who replies to you (or what they say) on a public message board. If you only want to hear how wonderful and right you are, you should ask your mom for advice instead of taking your issues to the internet.

3. It might benefit you to be less defensive. As a soon to be new nurse, you're going to hear criticism from every possible angle. If you take everything personally, you're going to be exhausted and burned out before you're even off orientation. Try to focus on the content of the messages conveyed instead of reacting to how they make you feel.

RDBSN16 · Oct 25, 2016

1. The fact that people disagree with you doesn't mean that they don't understand. It also doesn't mean that they're "rude", "unfriendly" or "negative".
2. You can't control who replies to you (or what they say) on a public message board. If you only want to hear how wonderful and right you are, you should ask your mom for advice instead of taking your issues to the internet.
3. It might benefit you to be less defensive. As a soon to be new nurse, you're going to hear criticism from every possible angle. If you take everything personally, you're going to be exhausted and burned out before you're even off orientation. Try to focus on the content of the messages conveyed instead of reacting to how they make you feel.

Thanks. I'll keep that in mind. I just wanted people to know that I was not getting defensive, and I did not want to reply to any negative comments as I do not want an argument. It's not easy to express the way you mean things over the internet. :unsure:

Ruby Vee, BSN · Oct 25, 2016

Once again, thanks for all of the comments. The issue has been solved. I will no longer reply to negativity, and if others cant understand my sarcasm or understand where I am coming from on certain subjects, please do not reply to me.
I am not here to argue or fight with anyone. If I had known how unfriendly and rude some people are I wouldn't have joined this site.

You brought your issues to the internet. The fact that people disagree with you doesn't mean that they don't understand you. It doesn't mean that they are rude or unfriendly, either. If you wanted only responses agreeing with you, perhaps you didn't lurk long enough to understand what you were getting into before you posted.

You don't get to dictate who replies to you. If you're not here to argue with anyone, perhaps the negative and unfriendly (and yes, rude, even) posts you made would have been better off NOT made.

It would be a good thing for you to learn to take criticism, even when you don't like the way it's delivered. As a new nurse, you WILL make mistakes, and you will get negative feedback, correction and even criticism. You don't have to like the way it's delivered, and it isn't going to make you feel good. But our job is too important to blow off the feedback just because you don't like the delivery.

You're welcome.

chellard · Oct 25, 2016

Theres a difference between Â¨wanting kidsÂ¨ and wanting kids immediately after getting married at a very young age.

I dont really get what kind of answer you were wanting...what is there to say besides maybe it would be best to wait a few years?