New Grad and Newlywed

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I just have a question about being a new grad and a newlywed. I graduate in December and will be getting married in April of 2017. I want to get some experience just so I can get my career started. But what about starting a family? I want kids, my husband will want kids. How do I balance that AND being a new nurse????

Tell me your opinions and experiences.

Theres a difference between ¨wanting kids¨ and wanting kids immediately after getting married at a very young age.

I dont really get what kind of answer you were wanting...what is there to say besides maybe it would be best to wait a few years?

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You brought your issues to the internet. The fact that people disagree with you doesn't mean that they don't understand you. It doesn't mean that they are rude or unfriendly, either. If you wanted only responses agreeing with you, perhaps you didn't lurk long enough to understand what you were getting into before you posted.

You don't get to dictate who replies to you. If you're not here to argue with anyone, perhaps the negative and unfriendly (and yes, rude, even) posts you made would have been better off NOT made.

It would be a good thing for you to learn to take criticism, even when you don't like the way it's delivered. As a new nurse, you WILL make mistakes, and you will get negative feedback, correction and even criticism. You don't have to like the way it's delivered, and it isn't going to make you feel good. But our job is too important to blow off the feedback just because you don't like the delivery.

You're welcome.

Thanks!

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The unfortunate thing about a forum is, once you make a mistake, there will be nine people who don't read the whole thread and then chastise you again for an issue you have already acknowledged.

But moving on...

Ignore the snarky women on this thread. You have your reasons for asking and you don't need to apologize. Personally I would wait at least a year for benefits and your sanity. You are 21 and have lots of time!

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Theres a difference between ¨wanting kids¨ and wanting kids immediately after getting married at a very young age.

I dont really get what kind of answer you were wanting...what is there to say besides maybe it would be best to wait a few years?

As someone who has had major issues with fertility, I think it's a great subject for young women to explore. Biologically, age 21 is a great time to have children ...bonus points for someone who's married and educated. If there are issues, finding out young gives you a lot more time to troubleshoot and a much greater chance of eventual success. If you want a large family, that's another strong consideration for starting young.

There is never a "right" time for kids. They're just not very convenient. After the OP gets over her new grad stage, she may decide that she wants to continue her education even further, change specialties or start a new job. Then what? My fertility doctor's office stays full of women who put kids off for a few years, then a few more, then a few more... These things can sneak up on you.

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As someone who has had major issues with fertility, I think it's a great subject for young women to explore. Biologically, age 21 is a great time to have children ...bonus points for someone who's married and educated. If there are issues, finding out young gives you a lot more time to troubleshoot and a much greater chance of eventual success. If you want a large family, that's another strong consideration for starting young.

There is never a "right" time for kids. They're just not very convenient. After the OP gets over her new grad stage, she may decide that she wants to continue her education even further, change specialties or start a new job. Then what? My fertility doctor's office stays full of women who put kids off for a few years, then a few more, then a few more... These things can sneak up on you.

Really, I understand how my question was really not one that could be answered by anyone but myself. I just wanted to know if anyone else was in this situation as well. I'm sorry you experienced issues with fertility and I hope that they have been solved in some way. There is definitely never a right time for kids! lol I just hope that I can get a good foundation as a new nurse before I start a family. :)

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Really, I understand how my question was really not one that could be answered by anyone but myself. I just wanted to know if anyone else was in this situation as well. I'm sorry you experienced issues with fertility and I hope that they have been solved in some way. There is definitely never a right time for kids! lol I just hope that I can get a good foundation as a new nurse before I start a family. :)

My issues are solved ...after lots of time and money, but they are solved. :dummy:

You do have lots of time to play with, but I think you'll probably be fine whether you start right away, or not. There are broke, unmarried people who have five kids before they even bother with school. You're already ahead of the game.

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

The OP has rec'd some excellent advice and we wish her the best with her new career and life.

BTW her user name is fine as she has indicated that she attains her BSN in 2016.

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