My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES

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My husband doesn't want me on ALLNURSES. He thinks it is dangerous to post anonymously.

I told him that I don't write that which should not be read. And anything written can be read. Am I the only one with an overprotective husband?

^ I agree with the above, and it is hard to be careful, especially when you feel comfortable with those around you.

It IS hard to be careful but it definitely pays off, in following the HIPPA laws. There was a lady in the hospital, whom I suspected was a relative to my mom. I really wanted to ask Mom but didn't due to HIPPA--knowing it would be a violation. The woman later died. Mom found out through the paper obituaries and indeed she was her relative. She which hospital the lady had been at and knew that I worked the floor the pt had been on. She asked why I never let her know that she was there. I did feel bad but told her that I can never divulge that information. Sometimes it's hard, but never take chances.

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I definitely think the best advice is to stay safe for sure and find your inner voice. Don't let others dictate your actions.

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Specializes in Private Duty Pediatrics.
It IS hard to be careful but it definitely pays off, in following the HIPPA laws. There was a lady in the hospital, whom I suspected was a relative to my mom. I really wanted to ask Mom but didn't due to HIPPA--knowing it would be a violation.

In a case like this, depending on the patient, it might be OK to tell HER who your mom was, especially if you could bring it up in conversation. Whether or not to tell your mom would be your patient's choice.

Always be careful to follow HIPAA.

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Why is this even a topic? It has nothing to do with the field of nursing. Nothing.

Do you feel a need to sic on your husband nurses from all over the U.S. (and in other parts of the world) to show him how silly he's being?

If you're going to post here, please make it relevant to our profession.

Go complain to your friends and family about your husband's viewpoint.

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OP, this is an awesome topic! Thank you for posting it!

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Specializes in CPAN.

My husband doesn't know and probably wouldn't care...I love sharing things with other nurses. ..they are the only ones who could possibly understand. ..plus I learn a lot from other nurses circumstances..thank God for allnurses!!

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Specializes in Med Surg.

Your husband is trying to look out for you. There are many things that I wish that I could post and ask for assistance with and I just can't because I feel they would tend to identify me if anyone from my organization was reading.

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Hi Kitiger,

You said your husband thinks it is dangerous to post anonymously on AN.

I'm not sure I understand....dangerous because of how other people might respond to an anonymous post, dangerous because you've got less accountability about what you say, or something else?

- Tricia

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Specializes in Private Duty Pediatrics.
Hi Kitiger,

You said your husband thinks it is dangerous to post anonymously on AN.

I'm not sure I understand....dangerous because of how other people might respond to an anonymous post, dangerous because you've got less accountability about what you say, or something else?

- Tricia

He thinks it's dangerous because he thinks I might end up with a HIPAA violation, but I know when to keep my mouth shut. There are some things that we just don't talk about. That's what confidentiality means.

It helps me to see that it's a balance that other couples have had to figure out, too.

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Specializes in Geriatric Med/Surg.

You're ALLOWING your husband to have possessive control over you.

You need to think deeply about what you're allowing him to do and what you're allowing yourself to fall into. That is the beginning of an abusive relationship if it isn't already. Please stay safe

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Specializes in Critical Care.

My thoughts exactly. Happened to me before, but back to the OP

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Specializes in Psych,LTC,.

In her later posts she clarifies the husband non-issue.

You're ALLOWING your husband to have possessive control over you.

You need to think deeply about what you're allowing him to do and what you're allowing yourself to fall into. That is the beginning of an abusive relationship if it isn't already. Please stay safe

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