My boyfriend and I (20s) have been dating nearly 2 months. In the beginning when I met him, he told me he hadn’t had his first dose yet. But he said he will get it soon. Every single time it’s the same story, he swears he’ll get it, then the next time I see him he still hasn’t gotten it. He says he’s just lazy. Swears he’s not an anti-vaxxer.
Recently the gov’t mandated vaccine passports to enter restaurants and other indoor establishments like theatres. He showed me a forged receipt he made with Photoshop. I was upset at him and said he shouldn’t be doing that. He asked me why I care so much.
Almost everything is perfect about our relationship except this one thing. I work for Public Health in Covid response and I have literally done everything this pandemic, last year I’ve worked in the hospital as a floor nurse treating Covid patients, I’ve done contact tracing and health education for Covid patients as part of public health, I even spent months giving and preparing vaccines.
He knows all this, I tell him how horrible this Covid *** is, and still he is too lazy to do the one thing he can do to help end the pandemic. He cannot take 30 minutes out of his day to go to ANY pharmacy and get the shot.
I tell him if he doesn’t care about his health, fine, but do it for me. I know fully vaccinated people have less chance of getting sick but there’s still a chance that I could carry it.
My friends are judging me because my boyfriend is unvaccinated. They don’t know why I’m with him. I love him and I care for him but I’m reaching the end of my rope. He always says he’ll get it but he never ever does. I’m seriously tired and hurt by his inaction and indifference.
Am I overreacting? Sometimes I feel like I am, but sometimes I feel like I’m not reacting enough.
He made a fake vaccine passport. He's dishonest. It will be something else soon. You are ignoring all of the relevant problems here that go beyond the vaccine.
He made a fake vaccine passport. He's dishonest. It will be something else soon. You are ignoring all of the relevant problems here that go beyond the vaccine.
Don't say you weren't warned.
The parenting dynamic is a HUGE red flag for me too. But what do I know, it's only been the cause of massive resentment in my ending marriage LOL. Like I'm all for vaccine mandates and getting as many people vaccinated as possible but from a relationship standpoint the fact that she had to march him in to the pharmacy to get it done is bad news bears.
The parenting dynamic is a HUGE red flag for me too. But what do I know, it's only been the cause of massive resentment in my ending marriage LOL. Like I'm all for vaccine mandates and getting as many people vaccinated as possible but from a relationship standpoint the fact that she had to march him in to the pharmacy to get it done is bad news bears.
I am pretty sure this sad story is actually in the fiction department.
Unless somebody actually created an account here to get relationship advice on a pandemic forum.
He’s willing to lie and falsify documentation just to shut you up? Yep, sounds like a winner. You will never change a guy you’re dating. If he’s showing his true colors then move on. Don’t be stupid like I was. It’s a lot easier to move on after 2 months than a year and a half (his manipulative behavior got worse the longer we were together). If he asks why, tell him you can’t trust deceitful people.
As someone who has been married a few years , I'll say this....If you're in your early 20s and have been with a guy for 2 months, how can you say you're in love already? ? That is something to think about. His lies and lack of support of you by not getting vaccinated should be something to think about as well.
If he's showing these red flags already and it's only been two months, might be time to move on. You're young. There's plenty of guys out there that won't lie to you and not support you in things that are important like the COVID vaccine. Take your time and don't be in rush to be in a relationship.
Horseshoe, BSN, RN
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He made a fake vaccine passport. He's dishonest. It will be something else soon. You are ignoring all of the relevant problems here that go beyond the vaccine.
Don't say you weren't warned.