Moms who are nurses, please give me your opinion!!!!! Please!

mama_d, BSN, RN · Feb 21, 2012

Why not have baby now and work on getting pre-reqs out of the way while he/she is little, then transition to full-time nursing school when the time comes? I was back in school full time when I found out I was pregnant with our youngest (he's 5 now) and took a semester off, then returned to school part-time. It's worked out so that I'l start my full-time, clinicals and all, nursing classes in the fall, when he starts kindergarten.

the_london_sky · Feb 21, 2012

This is totally a personal decision. Me and my sister are 8 years apart and we get along fine...... Talk to your husband and see what he says

gottagetmyrn · Feb 21, 2012

Oops sorry, I have already taken all of my pre-reqs. I wanted to re-take my anatomy's so that I would have a refresher and get a better grade in them though. I guess, I know in the back of my mind how hard it will be with 2 kids, and I am afraid that I will make it worse having 3. I know I could have the kids, and then when they are all in school... I could go back. Its just one of those things I am afraid won't happen if I keep putting it off, ya know! I hate looking at my life on a darn timeline! If only I could have finished when I was younger:(

iluvhrts · Feb 21, 2012

I have an 18 yo (I had her at 17), 13 yo, 10 yo, 6 yo. I waited until I was though with nursing school to have my six year old and had been nursing for a year. I do not regret my choice. We were not blessed with my 10 yo daughter until she was 3 yo and my baby was 6 months old. All of my children are spaced out and they all have a wonderful relationship with each other. I have a special and different relationship with each one. And I have a career I love. Because I started so young I was able to space my children out and enjoy them at all phases of my life. I am going to be a grandmother in May and I can't wait! Good Luck!

CT Pixie, BSN, RN · Feb 21, 2012

Nothing wrong with kids being spaced out. (my two are almost 9 years to the day). They get along just as well (or badly, depending on the day) as siblings who are closer in age.

Nothing wrong with being in your 30's having a child. Had my little one a few months before turning 33.

But as you said, its a personal preference. And there is nothing wrong with having a baby before starting back to school. I myself would probably work on that next baby. Issues could come up and you might not conceive right away. School will always be there, but you're biological clock is ticking. Not to say you are old by any means.

NoviceRN10 · Feb 22, 2012

Have your babies while you are young, enjoy your kids. Maybe your husband to get a better job so you can quit the one you don't enjoy.

mickeypat · Feb 22, 2012

Ok, I do totally understand what your thinking is. Here is where I was! When I started my LPN classes, I had just found out I was pregnant! My oldest was 2 at the time. We started classes in November. In January, I found out I was pregnant with TWINS!!!!!!!!!!!! Ok, so major shock with that!!! Fortunately, we were only going part time for classes and hadn't started with clinicals yet. So, my twins came along a little early and by C-section, I was able to keep up with the classes. Even with my son in the NICU! My instructors were willing to work with me and I was able to finish my classes then. Wasn't easy having a set of twins and studying, but I did it. I wasn't working outside of the home at the time either. Well, the following January, I found out I was pregnant again! (Long story on that one!!!!!) So, in August of that year, my youngest was born. I was able to continue with my schooling, clinicals, etc. I had 3 babies under the age of 18 months!!!!! Mind you, it was a challenge to get everything done, but I was able to do it! It meant a lot to me to finish! And when I could walk into my externship and have the nursery nurse ask me what my experience was with babies, and to have her tell me, "Well, I don't think I really need to tell you much on how to manage that many babies!" and "Go for it, you know what you're doing!!!" (There were at least 3 babies in there)

I passed all my classes and all my tests and even state boards without much trouble! I wrote all of that to say this, you can do whatevery you put your mind to!!!! I did it and I'm not the brightest bulb on the tree! I had to make my studying a priority for me and the family knew that also!

You can do it, I know you can! :yeah: If it's something you really want and to have kids too, you will find a way!

Good Luck!!!!!

Michelle

Twinmom06, ASN, APN · Feb 22, 2012

we're not planning on anymore kids (I'm 38 and hubs is 42) but I will tell you having kids in your 30's is not horrible! I didn't have my twins till I was 32 - having a bit of a space between kids is also not a deal breaker - if nursing is your passion, then taking 3 years to finish school and then have another baby (while working per diem for example) might fulfill both needs! by then the 2 year old will be starting K and you'll have one on one time with you and the baby and doing what you love

Dixielee, BSN, RN · Feb 22, 2012

This is an extremely personal decision but since you asked for opinions I will offer mine. I went to nursing school before I had kids but did go back for my BSN when they were still at home. Nursing school is very demanding, and your family will likely suffer because of it. Being a new nurse is very demanding and it takes a good bit of time (possibly years) to feel confident. Yes, it can be done, yes people have done it, but you only have 24 hours in a day to work with, so trust me, something will suffer for it. You can have it all, just maybe not all at once!

There is a season for everything. Maybe this is your season to have children and be home to raise them properly. You have ONE shot at getting your children raised, you cannot return to this time in their lives ever again. So make the best of it. If you want another child, then have another child, but remember there is not another job in the world more important than raising your children in a loving home. Take time to do it properly, love their father and have no regrets about it.

A very wise man once said, "No amount of success in the world can compensate for failure in the home". I agree.

Choose wisely, my child. This is a most important decision. Good luck and may you appreciate the blessings of motherhood.

RNMom2010 · Feb 22, 2012

Have your 3rd LO and after they are old enough that you feel the SAHM gig is getting close to being over, go back to school. Nursing will always be there waiting for you. And you are YOUNG! You have a lot of quality "breeding" years left haha as well as career years. It really will be a personal decision for you. Oh, and being a parent in your 30's is far from eeek :-)

fyrefaye · Feb 22, 2012

I started an accelerated BSN program with a 4 month old, got pregnant half-way through and had my baby two weeks after graduation! You can do whatever you put your mind to, just believe in yourself!!