a lot of students were talking negatively about me behind my back

UM Review RN, ASN, RN · May 12, 2005

Honey, with all due respect, if I'm the patient who's Coding when you come into my room, the last thing I care about is what YOU look like.

Please, while you're in school, keep an eye on the Big Picture, ok? And don't let the shallow ones get you down. You have something valuable to contribute to nursing and don't let anyone tell you differently.

:icon_hug: Best wishes for a successful semester.

**canoehead, BSN, RN** · May 12, 2005

Who cares what they think? Truely- they are judging someone by how they look, not how hard working or caring they are. Idiots.

DenaInWyo · May 12, 2005

And what exactly was the person who told you this stuff hoping to gain? I suppose it's possibly a good thing to know when people are being two faced to you, but it's not exactly like they were spreading crap that could actually do harm to your goals. Why would he tell you this stuff when the only result it could have would be hurtful to you, and make you uncomfortable.

Shame on him.

In some ways, nursing school is a lot like highschool. It seems to matter a whole lot at the time, but years from now you will look back on it and it won't matter at all anymore. The best revenge is living well (that's the problem with cliches, they're so often true :rolleyes: ). Do great in school, become a kick butt nurse. Bill Gates was a funny lookin' kid, too :chuckle

Hugs to you..keep your eye on the prize.

kahumai, RN · May 12, 2005

I used to be one of those people who cared about what others thought. I was under the impression that when I started nursing school that I was going to make friends with everyone and we were all gonna hang out, study together, etc. I was more concerned with what others thought until I realized that when I'm a nurse, I most likely won't even talk to these people, so why do I care? It's not like I don't have friends at school now, it's just that now I put grades first and worry about me only. I even had a teacher comment on how much more mature I've become and how much she can see an improvement in my personality, attitude, and grades. Forget what these people said about you. I know it's hard to hear, but find a way to deal with it and finish your program. You'll do fine, as long as you focus on YOU!

live4today, RN · May 12, 2005

Today, my friend told me that a lot of students talked behind my back and said bad things about me. Some said I was wierd or funny looking. My friend mentioned about 4 to 5 names in the class. Some of these people are in friendly terms with me but now I know they are not my allies just classmates. I know in school that people have their cliques and people don't like each other. But why do they have to say bad things behind people's back and appear all friendly and in reality it is not that way? I do not really care about people in class and I never ever said anything bad about a person there. Do you think I am taking this too personally? The friend who told me this, said he is not that shallow in judging a person.

I'm hoping you are very young still which is why this is bothering you. You will go through life always crossing paths with others who won't like you, with others whose mission in life is to gossip about you and others, and with nurses who won't give you the time of day on the job. Brace yourself...the reality of this can make or break you in life, and especially in the workforce.

On the opposite side of that evil coin is hope. You will meet people who will embrace you for who you are, and not for how you dress or don't dress...look or don't look...you will be admired for the special person you are. Exhibit inner beauty and you will attract others who possess inner beauty. Forget about the rest.......well....pray for them to receive a deeper understanding of who they are, and how to embrace others for who they are without passing judgement on them. ((((((((warm hugs))))))))) :icon_hug:

dkelly4972 · May 12, 2005

I find as one of the ones in my class that was gossiped about the the ultimate revenge is doing the best that you can do and liking yourself for it. It used to bother me until a friend told me how silly I was being. People who gossip or tell tales about other people often feel threatened by a persons inner strength. They see something that they don't have and they are envious of what you have. They know that they are lacking and the only way for them even the score is to try to tear you down. Be content with who you are. Like who you are and don't give their talk another thought. As you succeed in your nursing career and be a great nurse there will be more of them. I suggest that they can just eat you dust as you pass them by. Remember that cream floats to the top.

DKelly4972

not now, RN · May 12, 2005

But why do they have to say bad things behind people's back and appear all friendly and in reality it is not that way?

To keep the peace.

There is a woman in my class who gets on my last nerve 95% of the time. I'm completely civil with her but to be honest when she's got me so frustrated I want to scream I'll gripe about it to my friend. On the flip side, it's pretty obvious that I get to her also. We are so different we can't help but get irritated by one another. Since it's a small class and we've been around each other for the entire program we just stay civil, keep our distance when we can, work together when we have to and all is calm.

allnurses Guide · May 12, 2005

And what exactly was the person who told you this stuff hoping to gain? I suppose it's possibly a good thing to know when people are being two faced to you, but it's not exactly like they were spreading crap that could actually do harm to your goals. Why would he tell you this stuff when the only result it could have would be hurtful to you, and make you uncomfortable.
Shame on him.
In some ways, nursing school is a lot like highschool. It seems to matter a whole lot at the time, but years from now you will look back on it and it won't matter at all anymore. The best revenge is living well (that's the problem with cliches, they're so often true ). Do great in school, become a kick butt nurse. Bill Gates was a funny lookin' kid, too :chuckle
Hugs to you..keep your eye on the prize.

Your first sentence was my first thought too. Why in the world hurt someone's feelings by telling them things that won't affect them in any way if they don't know about them. What is your "friend's" motive?

Hold your head high, keep your focus on becoming the best patient advocate you can be and don't worry about gossip.

steph

Twinkie1 · May 12, 2005

Keep your chin up in hang in there! :)

Best Wishes :balloons:

Twinkie

Happy-ER-RN, RN · May 12, 2005

And what exactly was the person who told you this stuff hoping to gain? I suppose it's possibly a good thing to know when people are being two faced to you, but it's not exactly like they were spreading crap that could actually do harm to your goals. Why would he tell you this stuff when the only result it could have would be hurtful to you, and make you uncomfortable.
Shame on him.
Exactly. I would be more concerned about the person who told you these things than the people who were supposedly saying them. I would try to just keep my distance, make it through school, and then you never have to worry about them again. Good Luck.

Franlpntorn · May 12, 2005

Today, my friend told me that a lot of students talked behind my back and said bad things about me. Some said I was wierd or funny looking. My friend mentioned about 4 to 5 names in the class. Some of these people are in friendly terms with me but now I know they are not my allies just classmates. I know in school that people have their cliques and people don't like each other. But why do they have to say bad things behind people's back and appear all friendly and in reality it is not that way? I do not really care about people in class and I never ever said anything bad about a person there. Do you think I am taking this too personally? The friend who told me this, said he is not that shallow in judging a person.

Forget them, little minds you know. Unless their at the job where you want to be, be smarter then they are. Remember you don't have to play nice and see them out side of school. With any luck they won't make it through school. What kind of NURSES will they make?????? I know there is a shortage of nurses but how deep do they dig for students. If this is what they are like in school what will they be like their when working. I can just hear them talking about a Pt. This will get them fired from a job quick.

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