It was just a matter of time....

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Good afternoon! So, my closest nursing school friend and I had a falling out. We are in our second semester of nursing school and became quick friends last semester. Everything was great until this semester had started. At the end of last semester she had started a friendship with another classmate who was not well liked by a majority of the class after she cried bully on each of our classmates that she felt she didn't like to try to get them kicked out of the program (even though they did nothing to bully her except they steered clear of her because of her attitude and I don't think she liked that). Fast forward to the current semester in which my friend has now become close friends with this other girl (which is fine with me because I don't mind sharing friends). However, my friend started to take on the same attitudes and principles of this other classmate. All of a sudden all she did was talk about bullying and how we need to put a stop to it. There is one girl in our class who does tend to be arrogant which can get on your nerves at times and they don't like her because of this (one of the same people that was turned in for "bullying" last semester). They started a full blown yelling argument with her in class a few weeks ago, they have turned several more people into our instructors claiming they are bullies or make up stuff to try to get them kicked out of the program. It's like once they don't like you, they will try anything. We had one girl drop because she couldn't handle them. Anyways so my friend and I had a falling out in front of a few other classmates including her new found friend and the others weren't close friend with any of us so they were neutral. Even her new friend told her initially that she was wrong in what she was saying to me and how she was treating me and the others were wondering what happened because she blew up out of no where when we are all just having a friendly conversation seconds before. Prior to this we were close friends and I am well liked by most of our class and now I guess I have conflict with her. I know how her and her friend work since I hear about the things they have done to try to get people kicked out or in trouble and I don't want to be their next "target". I have worked very hard to get into school and make very good grades. I'm afraid to have my nursing career ruined just because someone has a problem with me. They are constantly crying bully and in reality, only a bully would do what they do. I guess I should have seen the signs that it was just a matter of time before she turned on me. My plan is to not even give her the time of day. I mean I'm not going to be mean or anything, I will be professional and civil, but I'm not going to give her any ammunition. Does anyone have any additional advice, as I now have to spend the next year with her until graduation?

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Just study and keep to yourself.

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Specializes in L&D, infusion, urology.

I agree with the PP- stay out of the drama, keep to yourself, and focus on getting through school. Nursing school is stressful enough without catty drama.

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Allow them to remain in the sixth grade while you move on to the world of adult behavior.

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Specializes in Med-Surg.

It's interesting that the bullies are complaining about others being bullies.

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Specializes in Critical Care, Med-Surg, Psych, Geri, LTC, Tele,.
It's interesting that the bullies are complaining about others being bullies.

It happens.

I observed it occur in a place I worked. They would get together and ask other people to go to the admin to say they all felt intimidated. When, in reality, 1 or 2 people with "power" or "social rank" just were mad at her.

Admin was oblivious to this type of power play.

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I agree with just study and keep to yourself.

It is a shame that you and your classmates are having to deal with them, but in the end, they are going to be the ones to look bad. I'm sure the instructors will find it hard to believe that everyone in your cohort is a bully and is bullying them. They can only complain so many times. Don't get involved in the drama. If you get involved in the drama and are having screaming matches, that may end up reflecting poorly on you whether you did something or not.

Has anything been done or happened to those that have had their names turned in?

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I agree with just study and keep to yourself.

It is a shame that you and your classmates are having to deal with them, but in the end, they are going to be the ones to look bad. I'm sure the instructors will find it hard to believe that everyone in your cohort is a bully and is bullying them. They can only complain so many times. Don't get involved in the drama. If you get involved in the drama and are having screaming matches, that may end up reflecting poorly on you whether you did something or not.

Has anything been done or happened to those that have had their names turned in?

There was a point in time at the end of last semester when about half my clinical group went to my instructor because they were tired of being treated poorly by one of the girls. Again, she cried bully and our instructor took her side over the others even after they explained everything that she was doing to intentionally cause issues and get others in trouble. I was not involved in any of this. I would never even dream of embarrassing myself by having a screaming match with her in class, if she wants to try, she can go ahead and embarrass herself. I think as everyone has said, it is best to keep to myself and study. This is my future and it's a shame that there are people out there as adults that still try to ruin the future of others just for the simple fact that they don't like them. Something I have discovered through the 10 years I have been in the workforce (a majority being in health care) is that you won't always like every single person that crosses your path and not every single person will like you; however, your job or classroom are still professional settings and regardless of your feelings you still must carry yourself professionally and learn to work with others despite your differences.

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Ever see Bruce Almighty? If you did, remember the scene where Bruce asks God for a sign and a city truck pulls in front of him with all these road signs...caution, stop, danger, slippery road....

There ya go :)

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There was a point in time at the end of last semester when about half my clinical group went to my instructor because they were tired of being treated poorly by one of the girls. Again, she cried bully and our instructor took her side over the others even after they explained everything that she was doing to intentionally cause issues and get others in trouble. I was not involved in any of this. I would never even dream of embarrassing myself by having a screaming match with her in class, if she wants to try, she can go ahead and embarrass herself. I think as everyone has said, it is best to keep to myself and study. This is my future and it's a shame that there are people out there as adults that still try to ruin the future of others just for the simple fact that they don't like them. Something I have discovered through the 10 years I have been in the workforce (a majority being in health care) is that you won't always like every single person that crosses your path and not every single person will like you; however, your job or classroom are still professional settings and regardless of your feelings you still must carry yourself professionally and learn to work with others despite your differences.

Why are their so many screaming matches in your classrooms? This all sounds so strange and catty. Sounds like you aren't a fresh out of high school nursing student since you've been in the work force 10 years.

Just focus on getting your degree and socialize with people outside of your nursing program.

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Specializes in ICU.

This program sounds like a freaking mess. Are you guys in high school? Who goes and does that in college?

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Who has the time for that in nursing school?! I know one girl in my program hated me and tried to talk behind my back to one of my friends who was friends with everyone, but I remained civil with her throughout the program. I'm pretty sure the only problem she had with me was that I had higher grades than her on everything and she was jealous. But I still paid no mind to it and overall we all got along as a class because we were in the same stressful boat.

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