It was just a matter of time....

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Good afternoon! So, my closest nursing school friend and I had a falling out. We are in our second semester of nursing school and became quick friends last semester. Everything was great until this semester had started. At the end of last semester she had started a friendship with another classmate who was not well liked by a majority of the class after she cried bully on each of our classmates that she felt she didn't like to try to get them kicked out of the program (even though they did nothing to bully her except they steered clear of her because of her attitude and I don't think she liked that). Fast forward to the current semester in which my friend has now become close friends with this other girl (which is fine with me because I don't mind sharing friends). However, my friend started to take on the same attitudes and principles of this other classmate. All of a sudden all she did was talk about bullying and how we need to put a stop to it. There is one girl in our class who does tend to be arrogant which can get on your nerves at times and they don't like her because of this (one of the same people that was turned in for "bullying" last semester). They started a full blown yelling argument with her in class a few weeks ago, they have turned several more people into our instructors claiming they are bullies or make up stuff to try to get them kicked out of the program. It's like once they don't like you, they will try anything. We had one girl drop because she couldn't handle them. Anyways so my friend and I had a falling out in front of a few other classmates including her new found friend and the others weren't close friend with any of us so they were neutral. Even her new friend told her initially that she was wrong in what she was saying to me and how she was treating me and the others were wondering what happened because she blew up out of no where when we are all just having a friendly conversation seconds before. Prior to this we were close friends and I am well liked by most of our class and now I guess I have conflict with her. I know how her and her friend work since I hear about the things they have done to try to get people kicked out or in trouble and I don't want to be their next "target". I have worked very hard to get into school and make very good grades. I'm afraid to have my nursing career ruined just because someone has a problem with me. They are constantly crying bully and in reality, only a bully would do what they do. I guess I should have seen the signs that it was just a matter of time before she turned on me. My plan is to not even give her the time of day. I mean I'm not going to be mean or anything, I will be professional and civil, but I'm not going to give her any ammunition. Does anyone have any additional advice, as I now have to spend the next year with her until graduation?

Specializes in Allergy/ENT, Occ Health, LTC/Skilled.

How old is everyone involved? I'm guessing quite young and I don't say that to insult you but most people I know, including myself, are do busy with school/family/jobs ain't no one got time for all that drama. The type of people your describing always seem to screw things up for themselves by creating constant conflict. You will run into these people your whole career. Study, make friends with less dramatic students, and put this in your rearview mirror. Your professors will eventually see who is causing unnecessary problems. You do not need to work anything out with these class mates, you just need remove yourself from having as little to do as possible with them. GL!

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I'm waiting for the part where Facebook drama has something to do with this nonsense (grabs popcorn)

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Specializes in Pedi.

I'm sorry, are we talking about nursing school or middle school? Everyone involved needs to grow up. My nursing program was a traditional BSN program with people who entered directly out of high school. I never dealt with anything close to what the OP describes in 4 years, and we were all 18-22.

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I'm sorry, are we talking about nursing school or middle school? Everyone involved needs to grow up. My nursing program was a traditional BSN program with people who entered directly out of high school. I never dealt with anything close to what the OP describes in 4 years, and we were all 18-22.

To be honest it really just has to do with these 2 girls. One is in her early 20's and the other is in her late 30's. Everyone else gets along amazingly. Btw the issue that happened with us happened outside of the classroom, but I refuse to bring it into the classroom. I transferred from a nursing program in another state and we NEVER had any issues with this. I don't even think there was anyone who disliked anyone else. This whole thing is childish!

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To be honest it really just has to do with these 2 girls. One is in her early 20's and the other is in her late 30's. Everyone else gets along amazingly. Btw the issue that happened with us happened outside of the classroom, but I refuse to bring it into the classroom. I transferred from a nursing program in another state and we NEVER had any issues with this. I don't even think there was anyone who disliked anyone else. This whole thing is childish!

Facebook?

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Omg this sounds like extractly what's going on at my school? What school do you Go to are you in Az

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Facebook?

Lol nope! Hard to believe that non of this has anything to do with Facebook!

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Omg this sounds like extractly what's going on at my school? What school do you Go to are you in Az

That's crazy, but no we are not in Az!

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Specializes in Critical Care.

Jesus Christ on a bike. I agree with previous posters, just keep your head down, study, be polite to everyone, etc. And don't share your grades with people. I was a straight A student through my first degree and was at community college with a lot of kids fresh out of high school who constantly asked about grades and all that. It caused a lot of drama if I shared that I was getting all A's (because they were all lazy, party animals, entitled, and also had no idea how to study), so I just gave vague answers when they asked, like "I did okay I guess," or "Could have been better" and then would instantly switch to asking how they did and commiserating or saying "Hey, I need to study now."

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Specializes in HH, Peds, Rehab, Clinical.

1) PARAGRAPHS

2) Grow up

3) Surround yourself with people who can act like adults.

4) rinse, repeat

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1) PARAGRAPHS

2) Grow up

3) Surround yourself with people who can act like adults.

4) rinse, repeat

Thanks for the advice; however, it's a posting in an online forum, I hardly think paragraphs are a main concern here. I'll try to remember that for next time though.

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Thanks for the advice; however, it's a posting in an online forum, I hardly think paragraphs are a main concern here. I'll try to remember that for next time though.

I'm starting to get a clear picture of what actually happened lol

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