I'm just so sick of all the DRAMA (long)

[Spritenurse1210, BSN, RN]

So, here is my little temper tantrum for the day. I am so sick and tired of self absorbed, trouble-making coworkers who think that they are above reproach and self absorbed. I work with this horrible woman who tries to get every nurse she works with into trouble. recently she tried to get the 3-11 nurse on my wing fired for diverting narcs, even though she wasn't. She consistantly lies and makes up stories about how (the particular nurse she wants to pick on) is incompitant and even goes into thier personal life. She is so vicous, that she even accused this same 3-11 nurse of being a lesbian (not that there is anything wrong with it if she is, that is her business), being an incompitant mother (she recently lost a child to side effects of drowning) and how the relationship she and the DON has is so inappropriate. a month or so ago, she calls me (unfortunately my was on the on-call list, as I was once a PRN employee who went full time) and tells me that since she is a stronger nurse, the supervisor and her talked, and since the CNAs down there need to be "straightened out" that she would go and work on the hall that I was hired for. I have been told by this same supervisor, that the DON and her are aware of the games she pulls and are trying to find a way to let her go and replace her, (we are in diar need of nurses) so she can't torture anyone anymore. Now her sickening game has clamed me as its newest victim, and I over look a lot of crap she shoves my way just to get my work done and go home. It's getting to the point now where if i am not careful about taking my GERD meds, I get such bad reflux that it's gone up my nose. the latest incident has me in such a tizzy. She had the audacity to go to one of the CNAS, IN WALMART WITH ME IN EAR SHOT, and tell her that I am unfairly picking on the CNA under me. When I only looked at her and rolled my eyes and continued on with my task at hand, she spoke even louder, to try to get me to pay attention to her. I am SOOOOOO tired of this. I have gone to my supervisor so many times, and at one point the supervisor told me that if she was able to stay in her stead she would have fired the woman on the spot. GAHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thanks for listening......I just had to get that off my chest.

[rubystar]

I'm sorry you have to put up with such an immature coworker. She sounds like an overgrown child and she will get what's coming to her sooner or later.

[Keepstanding, ASN, RN]

sounds like she has a lot of insecurity's in her life and it makes her feel better to put others down. so sad !!

praiser :heartbeat

[Neveranurseagain, RN]

Sounds like a hostile work environment to me! You may want to start documenting dates and times!

[nurse_mo1986]

Just LAUGH at her with her in sight. Nothing will tick her off more than the fact that she can't get under your skin.

[RCHRTRN]

Even though your place of employment is very short-handed, it sounds as if you all would greatly benefit from her termination.

[sweetsounds]

Sounds like a hostile work environment to me! You may want to start documenting dates and times!

Let your superior(s) know that you are documenting it too. What she is doing is called horizontal violence. But please watch that you do not let a bad experience with one person have a bad effect on you. If you work well with the CNA's they will attest to your character. Always repect them and everyone that you work with. If you work on it you can have satisfaction that your behavior is impeccable. Unfortunately you may see many people like your unpleasant coworker come and go over your career. Fortunately(hopefully), you can learn to deal. If you don't you may become one of them.

[soulofme]

Just tell her Jesus loves all people....including her.....

[Batman24]

If management knows and isn't doing something about it I would start looking for another job. It's a shame that you will be the one to leave but your health and happiness come first. It's not worth the stress of working with someone like that.

You could try documenting, etc. first and seeing if that gets you somewhere but I fear it won't only because they all seem aware of the problem and unwilling to do anything about it. I'm sorry.

[powers2004]

Try to be extra extra nice to her I bet it works!!!!

[ShayRN]

Now see, I am the nicest person in the world until you mess with me about 1) my family or 2) my ability to support my family.

To say someone is diverting narcs when they are not is slander. To say someone who has LOST a child in an accident is unfit. Well that is just plain evil. I would not kill her with kindness. You want to see wicked mean? Say those things about me and see how fast the tide can turn. She needs to be fired. Yesterday.

[squeakykitty]

Sounds like a hostile work environment to me! You may want to start documenting dates and times!

I agree, document everything to make it easier for the DON to fire her. Everyone has insecurities, but she's dealing with hers in a selfish, toxic way.