If you are an LPN are you married or in a relationship?

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I'm just taking a poll to see if any LPN has managed a good life/work balance? Are you married? In a relationship? Have kids?

Specializes in Med/Surg, LTACH, LTC, Home Health.
Ahhhhh intimidation I've encountered that before...but are you single now?
Yes, I am. Still have similar issues due to an ill (dementia) elderly parent, and issues with an adult daughter who is bipolar. Ironically, my daughter (while in 'one of her moods'), also stated a similar belief as you, in that she felt that I should be in a better place in my life since as she stated, "you're an RN". Impossible to live "the good life" when those near and dear to you are mentally unstable, yet stable enough to fly just below the commitment radar.

These family issues having been falling on my shoulders in what seems like forever since I'm the only daughter to my mother and the only mother to my daughter....and I just happen to be a nurse. But, I maintain my PRN float pool status to allow for 'family flair ups'. Just this past April, I had to quit my full time position when my mom got kicked out of the nursing home.

S*** doesn't stop flowing simply because one has moved up an educational notch.

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Specializes in SICU, trauma, neuro.

I've never been an LPN, but was a CNA for 5 yrs prior. During those 5 yrs, I got married and had a baby about halfway through my ADN program. My husband was employed full time, but made peanuts (his BS in Finance was essentially useless. He didn't get a halfway decent paying job until he had his MBA.)

We made it work. Our old-fashioned phonebook always came with coupons, our favorite being a 4-course dinner for two at our local Teppanyaki place for like $25. (Now there's Groupon and mailers.) We went to Barnes and Noble to study -- me my nursing notes, he whatever topic interested him -- and get a coffee or tea. Our parents would occsionally babysit for a date night, otherwise she came along and we took turns holding her. During one spring break we got cheap-ish airplane tickets and went to visit his sister and her family in the Seattle area. We drove to Kansas one weekend to visit his best friend, we went to a Six Flags another weekend. We joined my grandma, parents, and extended family for the big farm-wife Sunday dinner my grandma prepared herself up until maybe 10 yrs ago when she lost most of her vision.

We lived most of our life very frugally so that we had some wiggle room for fun stuff. I worked every other weekend at my CNA job, so we just made any plans around that routine.

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Hello the message is directed to LPNS trust me as a LPN I notice the difference between LPNS and RNS you make more money and your options are definitely better than ours so I'm just referring to the lpns

RNs get to do more assessments and give more drugs and have more opportunity to specialize. It's not like they're treated like queens and never wipe a butt.

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If you have a supportive husband than the work life balance is no problem. I am fortunate to have that so it makes things a whole lot easier. I know of many divorced nurses that just couldn't take a non-supportive spouse. Same goes for women dating.

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Specializes in Acute Care, Rehab, Palliative.

I'm divorced and not in a relationship. That has nothing to do with being an RPN. I don't see why you think PNs would be different than other professions.

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Specializes in Pediatric Critical Care.

I'm single with no children. I have a cat. I could work overtime, but I choose not to. I find my work-life balance to be good!

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Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.

Moved to the LPN / LVN Corner forum.

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I'm single with no children. I have a cat. I could work overtime, but I choose not to. I find my work-life balance to be good!

Im wrong I should say nurses in general...im referring to the long ours we work do you find time for a social life?

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Im wrong I should say nurses in general...im referring to the long ours we work do you find time for a social life?

Nurses in general? You just snubbed every RN in this thread. Do you mean mandation? 12 hour shifts? I work 50-60 hour weeks, but always have two days off, minimum. I make it work. There are 142 hours in a week. Make the most of it.

I manage to make dinner for my family about five nights a week, maintain my hobbies, exercise, spend a lot of time with my family and friends (ie. husband and children and friends in the area). I don't have a lot of time for dumb crap like Alzheimer's walks and bake sales and maintaining relationships with people I don't give two ***** about. When someone asked me for the fourth time if I wanted to participate in an Alzheimer's walk or donate money, I told her the truth: I had already slotted aside that money for buying cashmere and deerskin gloves for my husband, because I find animal exploitation that pleases him far less offensive than the emotional masturbation of "helpy walks."

Here is what my week looked like:

Sunday: Work 8 AM - 11 PM.

Monday: 8A - 8P. Dinner.

Tuesday: Day with husband. Hobbies with friends in evening after nice dinner.

Wednesday: Work 8-8. Dinner. Chores.

Thursday: 8A-11P. Still made dinner.

Friday: Errands. Dinner and games with friends. Exercise. Cleaned house.

Today: Lunch out with family. Farmer's market. Shopping. Exercise. Cleaning as i write this.

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Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.
There are 142 hours in a week. Make the most of it.

Psst... check your math. There's 168 hours in a week!

OP, it all depends on what you are willing to work on. If the relationship is important, people work to keep that relationship healthy and strong regardless of the obstacles. If the relationship isn't as important, it sort of falls by the wayside on the list of things that need work.

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Nurses in general? You just snubbed every RN in this thread. Do you mean mandation? 12 hour shifts? I work 50-60 hour weeks, but always have two days off, minimum. I make it work. There are 142 hours in a week. Make the most of it.

I manage to make dinner for my family about five nights a week, maintain my hobbies, exercise, spend a lot of time with my family and friends (ie. husband and children and friends in the area). I don't have a lot of time for dumb crap like Alzheimer's walks and bake sales and maintaining relationships with people I don't give two ***** about. When someone asked me for the fourth time if I wanted to participate in an Alzheimer's walk or donate money, I told her the truth: I had already slotted aside that money for buying cashmere and deerskin gloves for my husband, because I find animal exploitation that pleases him far less offensive than the emotional masturbation of "helpy walks."

Here is what my week looked like:

Sunday: Work 8 AM - 11 PM.

Monday: 8A - 8P. Dinner.

Tuesday: Day with husband. Hobbies with friends in evening after nice dinner.

Wednesday: Work 8-8. Dinner. Chores.

Thursday: 8A-11P. Still made dinner.

Friday: Errands. Dinner and games with friends. Exercise. Cleaned house.

Today: Lunch out with family. Farmer's market. Shopping. Exercise. Cleaning as i write this.

I snubbed then un-snubbed !! But whoa I disregarded everything you said about nursing and confused by the animal explotation part! What?

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Psst... check your math. There's 168 hours in a week!

I have no clue why I docked 26 hours. Too much looking at the schedule has killed my ability to use math.

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