16 Ice creams

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I haven't been on here in a while, but today I just have to share the experience I have had as a nurse this week. I work on a med-surg floor at a small hospital with 29 patients on the floor. We usually have 5-6 nurses, but often have had 4 and even 3 occasionally.

We are the floor you dump all the miscellaneous crap on, which often includes your chf'ers, copd'ers, gib's, dialysis patients, surgery patients, Alzheimer's, and just about anything you can think of. Not to mention all the people who were brought from the local mental hospitals or rehab centers who are just absolutely nuts.

I was told when I was hired by the staff and my boss that it was a very challenging floor and that I would learn a lot, but be very stressed. Well she wasn't lying. It's practically like an ICU sometimes with how critical my patients are and I don't just have 2. I have 6 and that's being in charge on night shift. Anyways, let me tell you about the patient who has sucked the life right out of me within 12 hours of taking care of her. I had a better night the time my first patient died sudden and unexpectedly after s 55 minute code.

This is a 41 yo female who is a frequent flyer and usually comes in with abd pain, diarrhea, and N/V. She has been denied at 5 different hospitals for accusing male nurses of sexually assaulting her and reported at least 4 doctors for not giving her the pain medicine she demands and the diagnostic tests she believes she needs. She comes I with different names all the time. She states she has had cdiff for 5 years and treatment doesn't work. And she thinks she has SMA, but we're just not properly diagnosing her and not doing the right tests.

So my night started with a call that lasted 7 minutes. She first explained how unprofessional we were when answering the call light and stated that several people have hung up on her. Then she went on to say her scheduled pain meds were due 30 minutes ago, followed by requests for 5 ice creams and 3 apple juices, and many other questions about tests, pain meds, diet, how pretty much everyone has mistreated her. I was very polite, said I would definitely let her nurse know and the issues would be addressed. I was in charge that night. Her nurse was slammed like the rest of us, but managed to get her pain meds to her not late. She received a total of 16 ice creams within 7 hours and wanted more. She was told that we were out and that we could not take the other floors supplies when we use all of ours. Well, that was it. She wanted to speak with the charge nurse.

At the time I had a patient who was q1h bg, total care, agitated, no sitter, tube feeds, ativan q4 or she would climb out of bed and that would just be a whole other issue. Also, taking care of a women who demand dialaudid 2mg q4 on the dot and extremely sick with critical labs, admitted by nephrology. My third was a man who we got to know about a year ago when he came in and refused all care, but had nowhere to have dialysis because every place had kicked him out for being verbally abusive to staff and refusing assessments/care. Nephrology wouldn't discharge him because he was so sick. The man yells at everyone and demands everything he wants, meanwhile not taking any meds you have for him or cooperating with what the Drs want him to do. I guess he wasn't actually hard to take care of, until he started calling and yelling because he hasn't got his chocolate Icecream and coffee and then crapping all over the floor and refusing to let anyone clean it. We call him Mr. Personality. Patient #4 is not bad, but wants me to come at different times for her prn meds, like one at 9, then the other at 10, and so on. My other two were new admits. I got one at the beginning of my shift and another by 0300 even though the next one was supposed to go to someone else and it was my 6th patient. The other nurse is older and just refuses to take anymore. She was busy and if I had given the patient to her she would have complained so much that the rest of us might have gone crazy....or crazier. Anyways, my one admit came up on bipap with critical abgs, total care, >400 lbs and the one at 0300 was a GIB.

So that was my group. I had enough to do without this women demanding things and making everyone crazy. She wanted to speak to the charge nurse because they wouldn't give her anymore Icecream. She had had 16! When I went into her room I introduced myself and asked how I could help her. She started off by saying there's a real issue with the way we are answering her calls and hanging up on her without listening to her 25 complaints and that they weren't telling her nurse what she needed. Then that she needed Icecream because she could only have full liquids and she was being denied it. The next problem was not getting paid meds on time, not getting what she ordered for dinner (3 puddings, 3 soups, 4 ice creams), not getting a ct with contrast, which would diagnose her SMA. So far the ct w/o contrast hadn't shown a thing. She never really did shut up and just moved from one thing to the next. I had to interrupt to tell her that I would see to it that her nurse was being notified of all her needs and that I had witnessed her calls being answered and then the message given to the nurse. She argued with me and said that was not true and I explained that they may be listening to her need/complaint, saying they'll let her nurse know, and hanging up because they think she's done. Also told her that I had answered a call from her earlier that night and i was very polite but shocked at how rude she was. I listened and i told her nurse, but there is a list of callers waiting behind her that could be having trouble breathing or chest pain. I explained that we had to answer everyone's calls and could not spend 5 minutes on the call light. All of her needs can be addressed once the nurse knows to go down there and she did. Then I moved on to the issue about Icecream and this is where I got hot. I've never been nauseated by how mad I am, but I swear I almost threw up all over this lady. I told her we have 72 ice creams stocked at beginning of each week and that she had 16 already, so she could not have anymore and even apologized for heavens sakes. First of all she denied she had that many. I had seen them take at least that many down to her room. So I told her of every one had that many there would only be enough for 4 patients and we can't use all of our supplies and then go take another floors, unless it is a need and that is by no means a need. The women had breakfast, lunch, and dinner and snacks! She needed no more. I then asked her why she would want to eat that much if she was in pain and having diarrhea and nausea, plus a diabetic. She just redirected to another thing, such as getting s soft diet order. I explained that Drs do not allow people to eat when they are that nauseated and in pain and that if she was able to tolerate food that would mean she wasn't in pain or sick from it. It's common sense. She then said I was calling her a liar. Well yes I was. I told her I would be glad to page her dr and request a ct with contrast and a soft diet. She argued and said I wasn't listening to her and that that's not what the problem was and neither was the Icecream. I'm thinking well what the hell is the problem lady? I think IBS caused by a good ole case of crazy. Any ways, when she complained about meds being late I apologized and explained that if any meds are late it is because there is a patient that is in more critical condition who we must treat before treating her pain. If someone's having cp the nurse can't give her pain meds before taking care of the cp. she said I was making her problems out to be fake. She said she was told by a "nurse helper or whatever they're called" that her nurse wasn't busy and sitting down when her meds were due. I immediately asked which nurse she had and what tech. She backed out saying she didn't want anyone to get in trouble. I told her nobody would be in trouble, but that I had to go to each source to figure out at what point she misunderstood what the tech said because none of our techs would ever say a thing like that. First of all the nurses hardly ever sit and the techs are smarter than that and know her well. She then went on to say I know you guys get breaks, it's a law that you have to have a 30 minute break and youfe not allowed to work 24 hours. Oh I was getting so mad. I told her that I hadn't taken a lunch and had been up for 36 hours. Clearly we are all proof that what she was saying was ideal, but impossible sometimes. She asked if I was calling her a liar about that and what the tech said and I just said yes ma'am I am because you have now lied to me about at least 4 things that I have proof are not true. At that point I walked out and paged the dr who said no to the ct. I let her know and she said she was gonna report the dr and the hospital for not treating her and trying to find out what's wrong with her. I just apologized and advised her to do so if she felt hat was necessary and walked out. I told my boss when she got there the next morning and she was not surprised. Even she can't stand lady.

My concern with this is that this women is dangerous! She is going to get someone fired and nobody who I work with deserves that! I thought about that the whole way home. What if I actually got fired because of this women when I was working so so hard to make sure all of my patients were taken care of, dealing with everyone's issues as charge, putting out fires all night long, and not ever stopping to eat or pee. I had to stay until 10 to chart. And I continued to work during that time on/off, helping my patients who would come to the desk and catching up with patients I used to have, crying with ones who just break my heart with how amazingly positive and grateful they are even considering they're terrible situation. It just kills me to think I could lose my job over a women like that when I am a good nurse...I may not be perfect or held it together as much as I should have, but I survived hell. And I didn't deserve the way she was wasting time I needed for other patients who were critically ill. Neither did any other nurse or tech. I literally want to report this women to the police. Pretty sure she's got 4 or 5 different identities. Ugh. I guess I just need to get over it. It sure does help to get it off my chest though. I'm wondering if any of you have ever experienced something similar to this and did you get just as frustrated? What would you have done? Although there really is no advice that could help a person deal with this particular patient. Even the dr and nursing supervisor couldn't win with her. The dr was actually requesting someone go with her to see the patient so that she couldn't manipulate the rest of the staff and say things that weren't true or accuse one of them for mistreating her. Just a ridiculous situation. Anyways, thanks for letting me get this out there lol I realize not s lot of people will probably read this, but at least it's off my chest. You guys know how it is. Nobody cares about your nurse problems. They just don't understand. I wish everyone good patients and hope you never ever have to deal with a dreadful person such as this evil women I had the pleasure of taking care of. Thanks for listening.

She sounds like she needs about 4 mg of ativan IV and a psych consult. I could only make it about half way through the original post.

Specializes in Public Health, TB.
She sounds like she needs about 4 mg of ativan IV and a psych consult. I could only make it about half way through the original post.

The patient or the manager, lol

16 ice creams has borderline personality disorder. If your facility doesn't wise up and ban her, call a patient care conference.

Everyone needs to be on the page with Mrs. Baskin. The provider and management must put up a united front, in an attempt to control her outrageous behavior.

Specializes in Med-Surg.

I felt stressed just reading this. What a nightmare.

Your unit sounds terrible with patients that acute, and your ratio. Wow. Makes me grateful for some of my rougher nights!

Do you have a patient advocate available? I would get one as soon as possible, if so. Hinting to the physician that a psych consult could be beneficial would be a good idea too. The pt is demonstrating manipulative and destructive behaviors. She knows the game and is playing it 110%. Kudos to you for setting some boundaries, that's exactly what this patient needs. Strict boundaries that are always adhered to by all staff. I imagine that for the staffs sake, her care is rotated.

I love the idea of just having her write down her complaints. Inform her that the manager and physician may have copies of these written complaints. Staff literally do not have the time to listen to the same 50 complaints multiple times a shift.

I hope your manager backs staff up and actually talks to the patient themselves.

Specializes in Med-Surg.

I also wanted to add that as far as "patient satisfaction" goes, this patient is NEVER going to be satisfied with her care. Her press ganey would be in flames even if every single person bent over backwards for her. It's not really about the ice creams, the ct, or any of her other complaints... It's about her desire to manipulate and control others. She has some major psych issues.

Specializes in UR/PA, Hematology/Oncology, Med Surg, Psych.

Just wanted to add that I totally understand your frustration. These patients for some reason are mostly females and are of a particular type (although I've taken care of some males like this). Drives me crazy working with these sort of patients because they truly take nursing care time from the ones that really need it, like your newly diagnosed cancer starting chemotherapy or your neutropenic patient that is going septic. Honestly that is what frustrates me the most. They always seem to have chronic N/V and abdominal pain (for which all tests are negative) and require high doses of Dilaudid and Phenergan frequently (because Zofran never helps), as they sit in bed like the Queen of Sheba. And mention discharge and they'll get 'severely ill' again perhaps with something new.

Specializes in Med-Surg, NICU.
16 ice creams has borderline personality disorder. If your facility doesn't wise up and ban her, call a patient care conference.

Everyone needs to be on the page with Mrs. Baskin. The provider and management must put up a united front, in an attempt to control her outrageous behavior.

I have bpd. This is NOT it.

Specializes in CVICU.

Why did you have 6 pts as the charge nurse? I've only ever worked ICU but our charge nurses do not have a patient load unless we are severely understaffed. Is it common in med/surg units for the charge to have 6 patients?

PS: This woman is a lunatic and having pts like her makes me seriously hate being a nurse, but that's been well established so I figured I'd focus on something else :p

Specializes in PCCN.
Why did you have 6 pts as the charge nurse? I've only ever worked ICU but our charge nurses do not have a patient load unless we are severely understaffed. Is it common in med/surg units for the charge to have 6 patients?

PS: This woman is a lunatic and having pts like her makes me seriously hate being a nurse, but that's been well established so I figured I'd focus on something else :p

Im on a stepdown unit and 90 percent of the time our charge has a full assignment. It sucks

Specializes in PCCN.

I'd be telling Miss Thing that we are out of ice cream. End of story. She can have a family member bring her in a half gallon if she wants it so bad.Since when did hospitals start supplying ice creams anyway??

For sure Munchausens.She deserves ice cream because shes so sick awwww poor baby.

I am exhausted from just reading the OP's first post. This behavior has to be addressed from the start. Letting them know this behavior will not be tolerated as it puts other patient's lives at risk.

Now I am craving ice cream at 10 am...

I have bpd. This is NOT it.

Thought you were bi-polar? Borderline personality is another diagnosis completely.

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