I wonder why that on the boards, threads that are started with a negative twist (eg: new grads with attitude; the good/bad/ugly of US's; catty nurses; nurses who shouldn't be nurses) grow to multiple pages while threads with a positive twist (eg: amazing stories in nursing; why choose nursing; high school inquiries; etc) fall to the bottom of our screens with hardly a whisper.
Seems like we always have something to say or an opinion about something bad, but nary a positive thought or opinion related to what is good.
The repetitiveness of negativity is very disheartening. Those threads really bother me. Am I alone?
Ya know what, Jessica. Let's just shake hands and be friendly. I think a lot was lost in the online aspect of our communication here. You are sharp enough; maybe I am the one failing to get the point across. :rotfl:
Hey, what was the point? I can't even remember.
*extending a friendly hand to shake yours*
absolutely NO hard feelings here. I enjoy the freedom to express ourselves here as need be. It's a great board! Let's just forget the small stuff.
deb
Hi Deb
Don't you worry about anything. Online, you could never express yourself the way you want to. Each mind is it's own world. I may interpret things just the opposite as you and vise versa. One tiny word or something like that can change the meaning of what you were Trying to say.
Let me share something with you. My husband always tells me that I need to be more "aggressive" in life because when we disagree and begin to argue I am always the one who justs looks at him with the blank face and will not argue back . He gets so annoyed because he says that makes him more mad than the original argument. :rotfl:
It is just the way I am, and needless to say so many people in real life try to take advantage of me because of my personality. I come across as prey to them or something :chuckle . I just think that the world is filled with way too much aggresiveness and arguments that I need not contribute to it.
On the other hand, I love to express my opinions but not in a "heated" way. I just say what is on my mind and that is it.
Ironically, I grew up with a very abusive mother and step father, later on placed in foster care until I aged out. I certaintly refuse to follow the steps of any of my family members. That is a promise I made to myself and the Lord.
And see, that is funny Tweety. Because I was just thinking what a great moderator you would be. You are always respectful and kind. And you know just how to put things that will get your point across w/o offending others. My hat is off to you. I have so much to learn yet.
In fact I was asked to be a moderator once but declined. Don't want to be the bad guy shutting down threads. I'd rather be in the heat of the fire I guess. LOL
I read your answer to Smiling Eyes, and one thing I noticed is that you were perhaps a little overly effusive in your apologies. Now, I've noticed that trait sometimes in others, and I think it can sometimes be misinterpreted as defensive, weak, or overly ingratiating. Humble is great, but sometimes folks will misinterpret overly humble. It always makes me a little uncomfortable myself, it seems sort of groveling.
When people are overly humble with me, it makes me feel like I'm in some sort of dominant position to them. I feel uncomfortable when that relationship is blatant. More agressive types will eat you for lunch, however. They view it as a sign of weakness and go for the jugular.
So, my advise is to be more matter of fact. Don't ever overdo apologies. :)
Thanks for the advice Mystery. Will try not to be so apologetic. Certaintly I mean no harm to anyone. Thanks for understanding
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Hi Deb
Don't you worry about anything. Online, you could never express yourself the way you want to. Each mind is it's own world. I may interpret things just the opposite as you and vise versa. One tiny word or something like that can change the meaning of what you were Trying to say.
Let me share something with you. My husband always tells me that I need to be more "aggressive" in life because when we disagree and begin to argue I am always the one who justs looks at him with the blank face and will not argue back . He gets so annoyed because he says that makes him more mad than the original argument. :rotfl:
It is just the way I am, and needless to say so many people in real life try to take advantage of me because of my personality. I come across as prey to them or something :chuckle . I just think that the world is filled with way too much aggresiveness and arguments that I need not contribute to it.
On the other hand, I love to express my opinions but not in a "heated" way. I just say what is on my mind and that is it.
Ironically, I grew up with a very abusive mother and step father, later on placed in foster care until I aged out. I certaintly refuse to follow the steps of any of my family members. That is a promise I made to myself and the Lord.
Jessica :icon_hug:
Your story could be mine in so many ways. Let me just be succinct and say I understand you very well and respect you. I am glad we got to 'air" out things a bit here. Friends?
Tweety, you would be a great moderator; I know I am not alone in seeing that. Trust me, no one will be asking me to moderate too soon here....I am way too opinionated and loud-mouthed for it!
Your story could be mine in so many ways. Let me just be succinct and say I understand you very well and respect you. I am glad we got to 'air" out things a bit here. Friends?
Tweety, you would be a great moderator; I know I am not alone in seeing that. Trust me, no one will be asking me to moderate too soon here....I am way too opinionated and loud-mouthed for it!
I babysat my 2 year old cousin a couple weeks ago. We had the TV on PBS ... were watching Mr. Rogers, Arthur, etc .... and then all of a sudden Barney came on. My cousin ran to the TV, started yelling and waving his arms, while singing. Creepy. That was the only show that he acted like that with. It's like Barney has a little cult.
Barney is creepy, I agree. Do you notice the insidious overemphasis on friendships as pseudo-family? I don't like that. It's as if those kids don't have parents. They never, ever mention the kids' own families...:uhoh21:
RosesrReder, BSN, MSN, RN
8,498 Posts
Hi Deb
Don't you worry about anything. Online, you could never express yourself the way you want to. Each mind is it's own world. I may interpret things just the opposite as you and vise versa. One tiny word or something like that can change the meaning of what you were Trying to say.
Let me share something with you. My husband always tells me that I need to be more "aggressive" in life because when we disagree and begin to argue I am always the one who justs looks at him with the blank face and will not argue back . He gets so annoyed because he says that makes him more mad than the original argument. :rotfl:
It is just the way I am, and needless to say so many people in real life try to take advantage of me because of my personality. I come across as prey to them or something :chuckle . I just think that the world is filled with way too much aggresiveness and arguments that I need not contribute to it.
On the other hand, I love to express my opinions but not in a "heated" way. I just say what is on my mind and that is it.
Ironically, I grew up with a very abusive mother and step father, later on placed in foster care until I aged out. I certaintly refuse to follow the steps of any of my family members. That is a promise I made to myself and the Lord.
Jessica :icon_hug: