So I resigned from a med surg unit within my 120 evaluation period to see if I would be a good fit for the unit.
Things were not working out sociably and team work wise too. There were some real smart *** nurses their with 6-10 years of tenure.
They would give me bullying looks. I just don't know what is up with this kind of attitude. I felt this same thing in nursing school. Really snakey and vicuous classmates. I just don't understand what one gets from being like this. I don't think I will ever understand. It is not like we are making bank with this job. We are more likely to get back injures and all sooner than a mechanical engineer or something.
So to my main question since I resigned within the trial period, am I for rehire or based on my performance and if the manager liked me or not they can put "Not for rehire" or can they not do that because I was within my 3 month trial period?
Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
It wasn't just bullying looks, but also not saying hi or if I need help to help me.
My opinion will probably be unpopular...
It is my opinion that no one in this world, not even coworkers, owes us acknowledgement with a "Hi" or "Do you need any help?" The only places where people regularly say these canned statements are fast food joints and retail ("Hi, can I help you? Do you want fries with that shake?").
Collegial relationships are earned through the passage of time, grace, and reciprocal trust. I find that genuinely nice people are almost always acknowledged with a "Hello" and offers of help because coworkers trust these people to reciprocate in another time of need.
In a nutshell, my advice is to give a little, and you'll receive in return. Treat others as you'd want to be treated. Acknowledge people, and soon they'll acknowledge you. Good luck!
How is it misrepresentation? What if the employer has discovered other information about the employee that caused the employer to decide to flag the person as ineligible? Employers can get sued because some mid-level manager or some flunky in HR choked and tried to be nice, spare someone's feelings (telling someone they are eligible for rehire when the employer intends differently), and avoid an awkward scene? Would someone actually sue for something as lame as that?
But at work I never said anything of those remarks. I am not that stupid either. Looking at majority of the attacks already on this forum relates well to the work place too. It is they just don't say it to your face. They find other many many clever ways to screw you.
I just don't understand the super cutthroatness in this profession. Actually wait let me take back the word profession. I will consider it a profession when majority of the nurses act like it, but I know there are good nurses out there so don't take this so personal.
I think the main reason why it is so cat fight type sneaky nasty in this profession is because 98% are women. They got nothing better to do. Probably over think and over gossip about stuff. Maybe I am wrong. Someone please fill in. Let's start a long forum argument. I will come back next year to check when I am in a different degree program that is actually professional. Goodluck trying to change nursing. The truth is all nurses are stuck. It is a crap profession which some fell for and ones who know it sucks they make the best out of it.
Nursing has only made me hate people more to the fullest. No wonder dictators kill millions of people or rise above them all.
Are people in general all that nice? You answer this for yourself. I am done justifying anything about this profession.
And thanks to all who helped me answer the HR question. Take care.
Specializes in OR, Nursing Professional Development.
OP, you mentioned seeing this kind of treatment (not saying hi or asking if you need help is most definitely not bullying, so I won't use that word) in both nursing school and in your first job. You may want to reflect on a component present in both areas- you. Before starting another job, some self-reflection may be in order.
Notwithstanding any comment on your previous remarks/posts, I could only advise you to prepare for future employment arenas to be similar to what you just left. Running the gauntlet can take as long as the better part of a year, before enough of the frozen tundra thaws that a new hire feels like the group has finally accepted them. Your peers, to some degree, will always test you until they make their individual and collective minds up about admitting you to the "group". You can't always run away when you encounter this negativity otherwise you will never stay anywhere long enough to maintain employment, much less have a chance at joining or surviving the "group". Just my observations about nursing as employment.
Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
Someone please fill in. Let's start a long forum argument.
No, let's not start an argument. I am beginning to think the intent of all of these 'poopy' threads is to incite peoples emotions and start an argument.
Specializes in Orthopedic, LTC, STR, Med-Surg, Tele.
I think the main reason why it is so cat fight type sneaky nasty in this profession is because 98% are women. They got nothing better to do. Probably over think and over gossip about stuff. Maybe I am wrong. Someone please fill in. Let's start a long forum argument. I will come back next year to check when I am in a different degree program that is actually professional. Goodluck trying to change nursing. The truth is all nurses are stuck.
CNA work than RN work and if RN work is not done then you will for sure be in the managers office and if silly patient demands are not done samething. Ice water, can you scratch my butt hole, can you give me pain meds or no I want 5mg and not 10mg. I mean the demands were through the roof and I was running around like a chicken all totally insane and losing it. Then after doing everything patients still complain. Just plain evil. And the managers of course always believe the patients. Then I had this super crappy charge nurse too at night shift. Turning patients was hell too on this unit.
This is all nursing. this is why nursing sucks. the customer service aspect has made 95 % of pt's rude people. But unfortunately, this is what nursing is. Unless you find a non clinical job, which everyone and their brother wants , this what will be. we cant change it.
So if you want a nursing job, that is pretty much the only thing available. If that.Might want to go find a different vocation. I wish I could but not gonna happen at my age.
Sorry to say though , i laughed when i saw poopy nursing job. yup, that it is. That it is.....
LOL. Games just like this one are played (rude and disrespectful) : Women because many have nothing better to do. Scatter brain and like a spider crawling in every direction without any motive. Just plain evil, zero humanity and nothing to do with care.
Women = care
is a false representation. 98% of the profession is women. One person I met thought women do this job because they have the caring portion because they are women. Oh boy, looking deeper, it is horrifying. Just like some women sneakingly kill their husbands over a period of 10-20 years and show fake love, but too scared to leave because they are insecure.
Men care just as much or maybe more. I will never let this notion fool me again.
Men cry too, but just not in public.
Men have feelings too.
And by all means I am not a women hater just caution of what I have observed so far.
Especially in a profession of caring I have felt pure animosity. I am so torn a part to this reality.
Like I said there is no understanding to this. this is why dictators take over everything for themselve and kill the rest.
There is no nice or kindness in this world besides your family and some friends.
I could be real nasty to but I don't plan on stooping to someone else's low mentality.
Hate takes energy when one could apply the energy to more useful things to grow and expand their horizon.
Anyways I will stop typing here before I write a PhD thesis of morals and ethics philosophy, lost love and lust etc.... blah blah blah
TheCommuter, BSN, RN
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It is my opinion that no one in this world, not even coworkers, owes us acknowledgement with a "Hi" or "Do you need any help?" The only places where people regularly say these canned statements are fast food joints and retail ("Hi, can I help you? Do you want fries with that shake?").
Collegial relationships are earned through the passage of time, grace, and reciprocal trust. I find that genuinely nice people are almost always acknowledged with a "Hello" and offers of help because coworkers trust these people to reciprocate in another time of need.
In a nutshell, my advice is to give a little, and you'll receive in return. Treat others as you'd want to be treated. Acknowledge people, and soon they'll acknowledge you. Good luck!