I quit nursing in my second year, feeling really bad, expressing my thoughts...

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I am male student who was studying nursing in Europe, I quit and i really feel very bad at the moment because i really enjoy helping people.

Why I quit? It was really difficult for me to adapt to a women enviorment in general. I know a lot of men who can feel very comfortable in a women dominated enviornment, not my case. I really try very hard to connect with the people in the unit but it was impossible. I dont have nothing in common with them.

Another thing why I quit was because everybody was treating me like shirt, some patients, doctors and even coworkers, no respect at all.

People are saying that the stereotype is disappearing and it doesnt exist anymore, in my opinion that is not true, what i percieve is that there is still an stereotype for men in nursing, is fading yes but slowly.

I felt that if I continued nursing I was going to feel bad in the future because in my country there is no carreer progression in nursing or very little carreer progression, you can expect a salary of 1.500-2000 Euro each month for the rest of your life that´s it.

Now I have to redirect my carreer to something else, i am coming back to computers maybe that is my niche. I will try to help people in another way maybe with robots and computers i can create something for people in need.

Thank you very much and it was an honour.

Im not sexist at all, i said it was my problem having difficulties to work with all women because i cant deal with the constant gossip for example. I felt vulnerable being the student there i couldnt express myself like i really am, i wasnt comfortable in that place particularly maybe in another place i would have been better who knows.

I have no problem with all the girls of my class i have a very good relationship with them. I realize i cant choose the place i am gonna work in the future so i have to deal with that kind of problems or leave. I choose leave. I will be more calm just working with my computer.

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Nursing isn't for you. Why post about it? There are plenty of great nurses and they are needed. In the U.S. they make great amounts of money in a great environment. This isn't Europe. We aren't mad at you. Let's move on from the situation.

I believe honesty is the best policy. There is such a thing called "freedom of speech." What is wrong with this guy expressing his opinion, just because you disagree with it, do you really have to retaliate with name-calling. I thank God for male nurse. It has been my experience that females are nasty to each other. Gossiping, bullying and back-stabbing, unlike the male nurses who are much nicer and easier to work with. My advice is to work wherever you feel happiest. If computers are your expertise, then go for it. It's your life. Don't quit. We've all had bad experiences. Work on your confidence and social skills. Get the hell out of Europe and emigrate to a country where nurses are well respected, well paid with plenty of career advancement opportunities. I am European and emigrated to the US because I knew I would never own a house, a car or have a comfortable standard of living with the atrocious wages and lack of respect for nurses in Europe.

I don't know how people can make it to adulthood without understanding the concept of free speech. It means you can say whatever you want, but it doesn't mean that you don't face consequences.

I also resent the fact that calling someone displaying sexist behavior sexist is worse than using the phrase "feminazi". As if.

As to the bold: you are part of the problem. Your "experience" is confirmation bias. I suggest you stop lumping females in one large pile and consider each individual on their own merits.

Specializes in Med Surg, PCU, Travel.

Dude/ OP you gonna get kick back no matter what you say on here, it's dominated by women..hehe. But as a RN in the field I do think some of the things in nursing are folly and a waste of time and I'd probably be best suited for the medical model. In any case the male stereo type does still exist. Especially the patients and females trying to kill your back cause they you should be able to lift anyone with 1 finger. Just 2 weeks ago had a patient like that, I got another male nurse to help me pivot her to the commode and that lady literally put all her weight on us. I was like hold up lady we not here to lift you up, you gotta help us. The second time she called I was like no, I not doing that again and 2 little nurses one of them like 50 or 60 got her to commode with no problem. I was like its a miracle!

Then theres the patient who always be laying flat when it time to get up they like give me your hand and pull me up. I'm like no way, I only got 1 back, you help yourself or put the bed in a sitting position.

Of course there's the occasional person who doesn't want a male nurse or doesn't want a male nurse to do procedures like foleys, at this point I'm like whatever you say, you the patient and you got the right.

Far as relationship with female nurses, I get along pretty well. Those that are strong A types I would butt heads with once in a blue moon, but once they realize I'm not a push over, if they respect me they get it in return. But that happens whether one is male of female. Even with the doctors. In general tho I like the people I work with. Too bad it did not work out for you man.

Yes i wasted it, i am kind of depressed about it and people are calling me sexist LOL and having no empathy about the situation. Because i am a man i have to be strong, double standards.

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Hun, I don't believe people are saying you need to be strong because you're aman.. it seems like people are giving advice with the assumption that you arean adult and can take criticism. However, it may be too soon for you to hearany of that which is understandable. At the end of the day you felt yourconditions were so unbearable that you couldn't go on in nursing school, youmade a decision which as an adult you are entitled to do. Now you must livewith the consequences good or bad of course, I'm sure you are aware of that.When you post your personal life decisions on a forum like this the consequencesare that people will see you for who you have shown yourself to be through theforum. However, incomplete the picture it is a picture that you have created.Now it is understandable that you are struggling with the reality of yourdecision on the plus side it doesn't necessarily have to be a permanent onethere are other programs other medical careers that can be pursued if you arereally into computers nursing informatics is a possibility. If you are a grownadult which it seems you are I'm sure you have realized you don't really havetime to wallow in self-pity if you plan to be successful if you didn't planyour plan B before ending school now is definitely the time to do that. You cancome back from anything you decide to come back from.

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If you want you can give it another go. However if servicing people is your thing, you don't have to be a nurse to do that. Go with computers, sounds like you know what best suits you. You can work in the healthcare field on computers. Gosh you will make a ton of money and be happy doing something you like. Don't stress over the nursing anymore. The computer guys at the hospital seem to always be happy from what I have noticed. Best wishes.

Hello again!! Im back with news, after quiting nursing last year I am in University again studying Computer Enginieering and I love it. I really enjoy building software and i will find a way to help people in spite of quiting nursing.

That was an horrible moment of my live, leaving nursing, but i am more happy now.

Now i am in an enviorment that i am comfortable, with no gossip at all, just being productive and learning new things constantly, my opinion is heard and i am not treated like a kid, i am treated like an adult.

Good luck for all

Good for you. Hope that you continue to be happy with your career choice.

Hello again!! Im back with news, after quiting nursing last year I am in University again studying Computer Enginieering and I love it. I really enjoy building software and i will find a way to help people in spite of quiting nursing.

That was an horrible moment of my live, leaving nursing, but i am more happy now.

Now i am in an enviorment that i am comfortable, with no gossip at all, just being productive and learning new things constantly, my opinion is heard and i am not treated like a kid, i am treated like an adult.

Good luck for all

Oh thank goodness you went back to your safe little bubble of manhood. Masculinity so fragile.

"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people."

Nursing is full of the last one and it has nothing to do with gender.

Good luck!!

"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people."

Nursing is full of the last one and it has nothing to do with gender.

Good luck!!

...didn't you just get done talking about the women you worked with in nursing...through this entire thread?

Specializes in Palliative, Onc, Med-Surg, Home Hospice.
"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people."

Nursing is full of the last one and it has nothing to do with gender.

Good luck!!

And you wonder why some of us thought poorly of you? This is just one shining example.

"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people."

Nursing is full of the last one and it has nothing to do with gender.

Good luck!!

Thank you for that. Your respect for the profession really shows.

Hope computer engineering works out!

Your gender will be missed but from what I have read so far...you not so much.

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