I quit nursing in my second year, feeling really bad, expressing my thoughts...

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I am male student who was studying nursing in Europe, I quit and i really feel very bad at the moment because i really enjoy helping people.

Why I quit? It was really difficult for me to adapt to a women enviorment in general. I know a lot of men who can feel very comfortable in a women dominated enviornment, not my case. I really try very hard to connect with the people in the unit but it was impossible. I dont have nothing in common with them.

Another thing why I quit was because everybody was treating me like shirt, some patients, doctors and even coworkers, no respect at all.

People are saying that the stereotype is disappearing and it doesnt exist anymore, in my opinion that is not true, what i percieve is that there is still an stereotype for men in nursing, is fading yes but slowly.

I felt that if I continued nursing I was going to feel bad in the future because in my country there is no carreer progression in nursing or very little carreer progression, you can expect a salary of 1.500-2000 Euro each month for the rest of your life that´s it.

Now I have to redirect my carreer to something else, i am coming back to computers maybe that is my niche. I will try to help people in another way maybe with robots and computers i can create something for people in need.

Thank you very much and it was an honour.

You are judging me basing your opinion in a few posts you read ok. I didnt treat any of them bad at all you just imagine that reading my posts lol. I just say to them thank you for everything and leave. Frankly they treat me very bad but it is impossible to you to know it because you were not here to see it. That's it.

You seem to be saying they are treating you poorly because they are women. I think that's what people are taking issue with and the reason you're being called sexist. Women fight against stereotypes of being b*tchy, bossy, gossipy, mean, etc all the time. So when people feed into them it can be pretty frustrating.

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You are judging me basing your opinion in a few posts you read ok. I didnt treat any of them bad at all you just imagine that reading my posts lol. I just say to them thank you for everything and leave. Frankly they treat me very bad but it is impossible to you to know it because you were not here to see it. That's it.

You've told us a lot about yourself in those posts we've read. If one person treats you badly, they're a jerk. If everyone you meet treats you badly, then you're the jerk. It seems as though everyone you meet treats you badly, therefore --

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I hope you keep your license current, it's nice to have something to fall back on. Also every workplace is different. I thought the one I'm at now and hate would be like my old one that I loved.

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I hope you keep your license current, it's nice to have something to fall back on. Also every workplace is different. I thought the one I'm at now and hate would be like my old one that I loved.

The OP never made it out of nursing school. He has no nursing license to maintain.

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In that case I guess he wasted a lot of time and money

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I will say the same thing to you as I have said to all of the people I have met in my life with your circumstance. Buck up buttercup.

Whether it be Europe or here I am so sick of how everyone strives to be a victim. Years ago when I got my history degree I had a (female) prof who complained in class that she was the only female history prof at the university. I pointed out that in our graduate level history class of 20 there were exactly 3 females. She told me "That is the problem, women are not encouraged to go into history" which I thought was such nonsense. Ironically, I responded saying (because at the time I never thought I would be in nursing school), "What do you propose we do? Go down to the nursing department and tell the students there they can't be nurses because the history department does not have enough females?"

Recently I had a prof say to me that "Ya, most male nurses I meet are gay". That wasn't insulting, or a stereotype, that is just the way it is. And for anyone to get all bent out of shape over it I believe has some real issues with their sexuality. I am not only going to nursing school, but I can cook. I listen to musicals... and oh ya, and I can bench press over 300lbs. What someone else thinks of me means very little. I have a life, not a lifestyle.

The one thing I would like to point out though is that the OP's original argument as foolish as it is, is not unique to males. Yesterday there was some absurdity about "A day w/o women". First of all, if any of you here skipped work and screwed your fellow nurses; shame on you. Secondly, like I said at the start of this "Buck up buttercup". Not showing up to work reflects on you and your poor judgement.

For the record, I don't think hardly any nurses did because our job is important (not that other jobs aren't, but people can die if we don't show up).

edited to add, there is nothing that the OP said that is sexist; and I don't believe he is. He is a complainer. For some reason he believes that the world revolves around him, and it does not; and that makes him mad.

News flash OP, work is called work for a reason (or school in your/my case). It does not have to be some great social event for you. If you wanted 'guy time' at work, could you have picked a worse career than nursing?

The only possible mitigating thing I can say from his standpoint is that I know a woman who has been a nurse for 30 years. When I asked her about this kind of thing she told me "It is not a coincidence that most soap operas take place in a hospital". Personally, I can do w/o melodrama.

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Being body slammed on the ground or trying to get out of choke holds in training by my various large male instructors & doing drills trying to maintain my weapons while they, being stronger than me, tried to wrestle them away was difficult for me to deal with as a woman.

That situation understandably made it a mental challenge for me to feel like I fit in with my male counterparts.

I guess most of us here just don't understand your "reasoning" for not fitting in other than your coworkers are female. Sorry, that comes off as sexists whether you mean it that way or not.

You are right, we don't know your full story, just what you have given us & what youve given isnt flattering unfortunately. You may or may not be that person that you're coming off as, but maybe some self reflection is needed on your part. Not trying to insult, just a suggestion for your future endeavors which hopefully turn out better.

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Im not sexist at all, i said it was my problem having difficulties to work with all women because i cant deal with the constant gossip for example. I felt vulnerable being the student there i couldnt express myself like i really am, i wasnt comfortable in that place particularly maybe in another place i would have been better who knows.

I have no problem with all the girls of my class i have a very good relationship with them. I realize i cant choose the place i am gonna work in the future so i have to deal with that kind of problems or leave. I choose leave. I will be more calm just working with my computer.

;)

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In that case I guess he wasted a lot of time and money

Yes i wasted it, i am kind of depressed about it and people are calling me sexist LOL and having no empathy about the situation. Because i am a man i have to be strong, double standards.

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Im not sexist at all, i said it was my problem having difficulties to work with all women because i cant deal with the constant gossip for example. I felt vulnerable being the student there i couldnt express myself like i really am, i wasnt comfortable in that place particularly maybe in another place i would have been better who knows.

I have no problem with all the girls of my class i have a very good relationship with them. I realize i cant choose the place i am gonna work in the future so i have to deal with that kind of problems or leave. I choose leave. I will be more calm just working with my computer.

;)

Well that fills in some of the gaps of what we didn't understand, in that case, good luck in your future endeavors.

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What I see in the US is that men in the profession are treated better in many situations, including nursing school, and statistically they are frequently paid more than their female counterparts.

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Im not sexist at all, i said it was my problem having difficulties to work with all women because i cant deal with the constant gossip for example. I felt vulnerable being the student there i couldnt express myself like i really am, i wasnt comfortable in that place particularly maybe in another place i would have been better who knows.

I have no problem with all the girls of my class i have a very good relationship with them. I realize i cant choose the place i am gonna work in the future so i have to deal with that kind of problems or leave. I choose leave. I will be more calm just working with my computer.

;)

You're not just sexist, you're misogynist. Your assumption that working with women is "constant gossip" is erroneous, especially if you maintain that men don't gossip. Men DO gossip, and they to be just as gossipy as women, if not more so. (I'm judging that based on the male nurse that I married and the male nurses with whom I work.) Half of our staff (give or take 1-2 orientees) is male.

You're not at work -- or clinical, for that matter -- to "express myself like I really am" or to be comfortable. You're there to work and learn. Most of us are better off NOT expressing ourselves as we really are -- especially us introverts. We have to work hard to be friendly and social.

You CAN choose the place where you work in the future, but as a nurse, probably will not be able to choose to work with all men.

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