I quit nursing in my second year, feeling really bad, expressing my thoughts...

[Matucm]

I am male student who was studying nursing in Europe, I quit and i really feel very bad at the moment because i really enjoy helping people.

Why I quit? It was really difficult for me to adapt to a women enviorment in general. I know a lot of men who can feel very comfortable in a women dominated enviornment, not my case. I really try very hard to connect with the people in the unit but it was impossible. I dont have nothing in common with them.

Another thing why I quit was because everybody was treating me like shirt, some patients, doctors and even coworkers, no respect at all.

People are saying that the stereotype is disappearing and it doesnt exist anymore, in my opinion that is not true, what i percieve is that there is still an stereotype for men in nursing, is fading yes but slowly.

I felt that if I continued nursing I was going to feel bad in the future because in my country there is no carreer progression in nursing or very little carreer progression, you can expect a salary of 1.500-2000 Euro each month for the rest of your life that´s it.

Now I have to redirect my carreer to something else, i am coming back to computers maybe that is my niche. I will try to help people in another way maybe with robots and computers i can create something for people in need.

Thank you very much and it was an honour.

[Laur318, BSN, RN]

SMH why did I even read this?? Glad he will NEVER be my nurse :)

[opalbee]

Yes i wasted it, i am kind of depressed about it and people are calling me sexist LOL and having no empathy about the situation. Because i am a man i have to be strong, double standards.

I see women on here all the time getting told to be strong and to "suck it up" and to stop with the whole "woe is me" attitude. It has nothing to do with you being a male. No one is going to better themselves or overcome obstacles unless they decide to toughen up and get ready to take the punches.

[opalbee]

Lol feminazi detected hahahahahha

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I'd been giving you the benefit of the doubt up until now.

[opalbee]

Bull shirt!

I've been married to two nurses. In both cases, I had more nursing experience, more experience in the field and my HOURLY rate was less than theirs. In one case, he was a new grad in his first job and he got a very big increase after one year "because he has a family to support." Thereafter, pay raises were granted as a percentage of your basic rate, so his 2% raise was bigger than my 2% raise, etc. When he polled the other male nurses in the unit, all of them got the big "merit raise" after one year that NONE of the female nurses got. That was in 1982.

In 2004, my now husband and I moved across country and started new jobs in the same unit on the same day. I had five years more nursing experience, five more years experience in the specialty, a BSN, a graduate degree, had been published in the field and had led a committee to introduce a new medical device into the community. DH had a diploma. We started at the same hourly pay rate. We were told that at the end of our first year, if we completed a project, took extra classes and jumped through a number of hoops, we'd be promoted up the clinical ladder and would receive a huge pay jump. I jumped through all of the hoops. DH announced that he wasn't going to jump through any of the hoops because it was stupid.

At the end of our first year, DH, having completed none of the work required for the next rung of the clinical ladder got the promotion and the pay jump. I, having done all the work, did not. For the next 11 years, the pay gap got wider and wider as his 4% raise was calculated on his higher pay rate while mine was calculated on the lower rate. When our manager quit, the new manager, in looking through the files, confided that ALL the male nurses in the unit got the maximum pay raise at the end of the first year while the females got the minimum.

Male nurses somehow get paid more per hour than their female colleagues, and that has not changed in the past forty years, even as we're getting more and more men in nursing.

THANK YOU! I've heard other people make similar arguments.. "Women aren't paid less; that's illegal!!!" *face palm* Along with "well men CHOOSE higher paying jobs, and they work harder than women so that's why they deserve to get paid more."