I might fail OB clinical, nervous and kinda suicidal

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So I have been having some suicidal thoughts with clinical. I have been informed by my instructor that I received an F for the midterm. I have an 85% in the course. However, when I asked why I was failing she said that I was lacking in sufficient health teaching, but other wise was doing a good job. So I'm lacking in one area, bust my ass in clinical and nothing is shown for it. I have received little positive comment on performance, but when I told a few others in my clinical group about, they said they were shocked and confused. I cannot fail clinical. I don't have money for winter classes.

Compounding the problem is that tomorrow evening is my last night on the unit and I am nervous as hell. Its driving me crazy and is making me depressed 24/7, and I can't sleep well.

I don't know what to do. I'm scared, like a lot. My mom threatened to cut me off financially and socially, and without her I cannot afford school period. I'm really scared and upset. I'm a man and I don't like OB so that makes it worse I suppose.

Specializes in Critical care.

Everyone else has already given you the numbers- use them.

Realize that OB clinicals do not define your life or your worth! You are more than a clinical grade. You CAN make it through this, even if your fears come through and you fail. You can find a way! Support is a necessary thing for anyone attempting an endeavor as hard as nursing school. It sounds like you are lacking that and it must be really hard. Know that we are here for you. If you want to tell us about how your mom is making you feel we will listen. So will the person on the other end of the suicide hotline number.

please don't end your life. You are a worthwhile person and you offer something unique and valuable to everyone you meet.

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I talked to my friend Kate and that helped a little. I talked with my mom about the possibility of failing and she didn't react well till I started crying on the phone. She thought I was slacking more and more at college because I didn't make deans list (At our university I have a 3.29) I set up a scheduled appointment on Monday with a counselor. Probably just going to address extreme stress issues with him or her. Just so nervous tomorrow. My mom told me she was proud of me and that I am very smart. Now I might feel bad if I let her down though :/

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Specializes in Community Health/School Nursing.
I talked to my friend Kate and that helped a little. I talked with my mom about the possibility of failing and she didn't react well till I started crying on the phone. She thought I was slacking more and more at college because I didn't make deans list (At our university I have a 3.29) I set up a scheduled appointment on Monday with a counselor. Probably just going to address extreme stress issues with him or her. Just so nervous tomorrow. My mom told me she was proud of me and that I am very smart. Now I might feel bad if I let her down though :/

You are worthy and deserving of all good things. Grades do not define who you are. Your heart speaks volumes and your moms love is not conditional. She loves you as her son not as what title is behind your name. I hope for calmness and peace today during clinicals for you.

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How was your clinical?

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A lot better I felt today. I busted my ass and got things done. My friend in clinical texted me saying that our instructor appeared impressed with how I did. She would come up to me and would say that I'll be with you to get charting done, and I'd have it done prior to her getting their. I honestly don't think I could have done a better job.

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Specializes in Cardiac, Home Health, Primary Care.

Great! You might meet with your instructor again to get more feedback and see what else you can do to get your grade back up. And make sure the instructor agrees that it's going well (as you feel).

Nursing is full of ups and downs so you just have to roll with it as best you can.

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
A lot better I felt today. I busted my ass and got things done. My friend in clinical texted me saying that our instructor appeared impressed with how I did. She would come up to me and would say that I'll be with you to get charting done, and I'd have it done prior to her getting their. I honestly don't think I could have done a better job.

((HUGS)) Nursing school is tough...it can be overwhelming at times....but never enough to hurt yourself over. I think you are overwhelmed and a talk with someone ...professionally...is a good idea.

You got this!

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Specializes in pediatric neurology and neurosurgery.

I'm so glad you had a good day at clinicals, and that you're feeling optimistic! Your life is precious to you and to your mom, at the very least, and suicide is never the answer. Problems, even ones that seem insurmountable or permanent, are generally fleeting in the grand scheme of things. I beseech you to reach out to a suicide hotline or other counselor who can help you work on some good coping techniques to have in your emotional toolbox, because there may be other difficult or hopeless-seeming situations that you may face in the future. Best wishes and take care. Keep us updated!

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Specializes in Gerontology RN-BC and FNP MSN student.

Rocktheman......OB is TOUGH!! Cut yourself some slack...ok? It's gonna be ok. Suicide is never the answer.

I'm so glad your doing better today. My only sibling oded on purpose over a broken heart. And my family will never be the same! It's been 3 years ago and we still cry.... my mom also went into depression, distorted and prolonged grieving.

Please know you are loved and beautiful and wonderfully created and feelings WILL PASS. OK? Glad your ok. God bless you!(((hugs)))

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I talked to my friend Kate and that helped a little. I talked with my mom about the possibility of failing and she didn't react well till I started crying on the phone. She thought I was slacking more and more at college because I didn't make deans list (At our university I have a 3.29) I set up a scheduled appointment on Monday with a counselor. Probably just going to address extreme stress issues with him or her. Just so nervous tomorrow. My mom told me she was proud of me and that I am very smart. Now I might feel bad if I let her down though :/

Glad to hear your talked to your mom. Coming from a mother......there is NOTHING my kids could do.....NO WAY that they could let me down that would change my love for them. Do your best...and your mother will still be there for you when you're done, no matter how you do. she just wants to see you do your best and be successful but she will still be your support if you have issues.....just do your best.

Coming from the wife of someone who has suffered from some severe depression..... TALK TO SOMEONE......I saw how depression (stemming from stress of a crappy work situation) took over my husband's life. One of the hardest parts is admitting that you need help. But talking with someone who can help you sort everything out with helps SO much. There is no shame in reaching out for help. But nursing school does not define you.....nursing school is just a small part of the picture. You are so much more than any grade you make and the people who love you know that. So try not to worry so much about letting people down and be sure to get yourself the help that you need....whatever help that may be...

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Specializes in ER, ICU, Education.

Others have given the most important advice, to seek help and address your mental health as first priority asap. If you had crushing chest pain and were short of breath, you'd prioritize that, right? This is no different, simply a different organ (your brain) is the cause, and not your heart. Mental health issues are nothing to ignore or be ashamed of.

When that is addressed, I hope you will realize that potential or actual failure of one course has little to do with intelligence. As a professor, I respect my students who try their hardest whether they are my strongest or weakest student. When some of the fog of depression clears, I hope you will explore all of your options, like scholarships, signing a contract with a hospital, and loans. You may not even need these noptions. Have a frank talk with your mother. Most people are clueless that nursing school is more difficult than many degrees. I would also suggest a positive chat with your instructor, along the lines of "I know I can succeed. Today, I'd like to teach a patient about x, would you be willing to observe?" Make a plan of action. Don't think of it as just women's care. A post op c-section is a surgical patient! Most of the same risks as any surgical patient. Review the basic teaching for postpartum. Most of my male students enjoy postpartum more because they are more comfortable providing education, and if a male partner is present, can also teach him. For example, learn some basics. How often should baby eat? Pee? Poop? Does breast-fed poop and bottle fed poop look different? Go in and ace it. Each time you enter the room, give a small piece of relevant information. Giving the first bath? Tell family about temperature regulation and skin care. Bringing diapers? Talk about expected voids and stools. Giving immunizations? What are they for? Etc

Get assistance with your mental health on an ongoing basis, learn positive coping and stress reduction, then go forth and shine. You are a young fellow and will soon be independent. Start building the skills to succeed and to cope with stress and mental health now, and go show your instructor your capabilities. The world has a funny way of looking really dark at times, often just before you learn a big life lesson. A failure only has the ability to dent your self esteem, don't forget who you are in the process.

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I failed a class before and i retook it now im an ER nurse my friend failed 2 times dropped out for a year came back and finished now shes a nurse in a hospital don't give up and stop with crazy thoughts its life its a b&$@ch but don't make irrational decisions

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