I just can't

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**This is a in the moment, frustration to the point of tears, rant or vent or melt down**

I give up! I just can't! I am tired of feeling like I'm being manipulated by an elementary school student. I feel like I have failed before I was even given a chance to try. I am sitting at my desk, shutting down, and fighting back tears. Maybe I'm just not cut out for this. Maybe I need to walk away now. Maybe I can find a job in a quilt shop, cutting fabric. I have serious doubts about being able to make it the next 40 days until the end of the year.

2 minutes ago, SaltineQueen said:

I can't watch that one. Feet are gross. :yuck:

I think feet are gross too, but like Dr. Pimple Popper, it's oddly satisfying. Give it a try #peerpressure ?

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Your not alone...I promise, i’m glad you shared. Old Dude is of course, right on the mark. Follow that plan and reach out.

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Specializes in School Nursing, Ambulatory Care, etc..

First, THANK YOU hugs and kisses to all! I was having a pity party and needed both the "get over it" A$$ kicks and the "it's ok, we understand" reassurances.

To give a little more detail, it has to do with my 4th grader who I am trying to move toward self cath. I had a long talk with her on Tuesday morning about moving toward independence and she said she is "comfortable doing it at home but not at school" so I asked her what she needed from me and my HA to help her get comfortable. Her answer was, "to keep doing it at home". I told her we couldn't help her with that, and she needed to think about what she needs at school. I then had a conversation with mom who said that LD had said she didn't have a problem working on it at school and mom just doesn't know why she would say one thing to her and another to us. Mom is resistant to going back to OT and admits that at home "working on it" means either mom just gets in a hurry/frustrated and does it herself, or dad inserts the cath and LD holds it after it's in.

Yesterday my HA suggested to me, in front of LD that we have her wash her hands and glove up and help hold the labia open, as this is what mom says is one of the issues. LD nods her head when asked if this is something she thinks would help, and then when I asked her to repeat it to me, looked me dead in the eye and said, "what? I don't know what she (HA) said." That's when I cracked. This is very normal for her, she'll have a conversation with you about girl scouts or the school play or chorus but the minute I say something she doesn't want to talk about (like self cath) all of the sudden she didn't hear me or she doesn't understand what was said or, and this is one of my least favourites, will just not answer and will leave the health room (after we're done).

Now, on to other issues - I absolutely love Train Wreck Television! 90 Day Fiance, Seeking Sister Wife, Sister Wives, etc. Absolute dumpster fires and I can't stop watching them! Last nights therapy of choice was mac and cheese (not even good m&c, it was Kraft - mac and orange powder) for din, a nice long walk with Mr. BunnyBunny and the pups, and then The Orville.

I love you all! THANKS AGAIN! Someday, we'll all get together and have a drink!

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Specializes in School Nurse, past Med Surge.

Kraft Mac & Cheese the NEXT DAY is life!

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Specializes in Community and Public Health, Addictions Nursing.

All I can say is kudos to you with your patience and persistence in working on self-cath independence for this kiddo! Not easy to deal with for anybody, and you are being a nurse in the truest sense of the word in how you're trying to help this LD. Thumbs up from me, and happy Friday!

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Specializes in School Nurse.

My self cath LD caused me to bang my head on the wall many times. She was not self cathing at home even though she was fine at school. I did catch her going to BR, and not cathing. I had gone to the bathroom after her and found the unopened quickcath in trash. I called her right back in and asked if she had done it - puppy dog eyes - 'why yes'. I dumped the trash and showed her the evidence. Lecture begins - you are only hurting yourself, integrity, from then on I left the door cracked and stood and listened. My LD ruled the roost at home due to disability, therefore no accountability, didn't wear leg braces (horribly pigeon toed, tripped a lot.

Make a written contract. Her responsibilities, your responsibilities. This gives her a little control and she won't conveniently forget since it is written down.

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Pimple poppers and feet? You guys are gross.

Horror movies are where it's at.

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I'm just curious, what did the child do? I know they are a handful. Hang in there

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Specializes in Wound Care, Med-Surg, Rehab.
On 4/25/2019 at 12:10 PM, OldDude said:

OK girl...that's enough of that! When you find yourself in an emotional hole - stop digging!

Do you have any idea how profound this statement is?! I think I have found my new mantra!! ♥️♥️♥️

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Specializes in NICU.

Wow if this is what he does to the nurse ,can you imagine the teacher all day with this heap of useless DNA.

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Wow! I can’t imagine being in the 4th grade and having to self cath. Not to be funny, but I feel manipulated by my own children at times. God bless school nurses, because I don’t think I could deal with all those kids.

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On 4/26/2019 at 9:34 AM, jess11RN said:

I think feet are gross too, but like Dr. Pimple Popper, it's oddly satisfying. Give it a try #peerpressure ?

I see what you did there...

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