In work related situations I can be like iron and hold my ground very well, but in social situations I have a deep and serious phobia that I might put my foot in my mouth, for example company picnics or hanging out at kids' birthday parties with the other parents.
I avoid social gatherings like the plague. It's bad enough I occasionally put my foot in my mouth online where there is a vague amount of anonymity, but face to face? I'd rather have a megacode in the middle of drilling a skull to put an IVC on a pregnant woman!
At work another nurse was organizing a kickball team for a 6 week recreational league. I was asked to play and then when I said I'd rather not, they promised that I wouldn't have to be sporty and they just needed bodies to cover in case of people's shift schedules. I agreed and had to work through the first day (whew!) but went to the second week. Needless to say I was awful, but I cheered for the good plays the other teammates performed.
The next day I was told by the person who invited me that my name was never on the roster and that I shouldn't have even showed up. She said their roster was full and that she'd put me on the sub list in case they needed me.
I was hurt. I was very very embarrassed. I told my work friend what happened and of course, they told everyone else. This morning when I was reporting off, the original organizer/nurse came up to me and yelled at me in front of everyone. I told her that I felt bad about being invited and then being told I shouldn't have come. I couldn't stay and talk further because I had to get home in time to let my husband go to work.
It's bothering me enough to post about it, and I feel like I did something wrong and now everyone at work will think I'm a bad person for showing up to something I "wasn't invited to".
That is downright strange. Is the day not stressful enough as a floor nurse without being yelled at by a colleague about a social matter, completely unrelated to work? Super unprofessional. But like GrnTea said, problem solved!
Lol what a bunch of yahoos! Atleast you dont have to go to their precious gatherings anymore :) Like the first post said, it sounds like they're still in high school! I'm sorry you have to work with people like that.
Seriously? Your coworker was tacky, rude and ill-behaved. I'm sure there are people at your workplace who think so as well. Some people are apparently eternally in high school. (She was probably tacky, rude and ill-behaved then too).
Specializes in LTC, home health, critical care, pulmonary nursing.
That's ridiculous. What a bunch of children. And I'm exactly the same way...competant and confident at work, with nearly crippling social anxiety. Weird, huh?
"Personable, respectful and compassionate RN who values the delivery of quality patient care"-Wouldn't you love to see your colleagues resumes right now?
Sadly, people do not receive a license or certification in human kindness from nursing school and some people just don't posses a moral compass. Not their fault-so if they can't be accountable for their behavior then the responsibility falls on the organization. After all they hired them, right?
That said-addressing conflict should be immediate and begin with yourself. I have no idea what your relationship is with the roster person, and you did mention feelings of hurt & anxiety (I am sorry, I know what this is like)-but could there have been some mix-up? Take the emotionality out of it-try and consider anything. Or maybe this person is a giant jerkface. I do know this-being unsupportive to your coworker during an activity meant to raise morale? That is bad form. And this organization is not the only game in town-as scary as it is to make a change you will be glad you did. I speak from experience.
And incidentally I am starting the a "Sticker Collecting Society" we meet near the chapel on Tuesdays at 4:30- you are welcome to come. We have 3) rules-
1) check any bad attitude at the door
2) bring a snack to share (if it includes nuts product please indicate for those that have allergies)
Your coworkers sound insane. I think we may work in the same place. lol After working as a nurse for a few years ai am so much more outspokens and assertive/ aggressive in social situations.
I'm so sorry this happened. You decide to go out on a limb, and this is what you get. I'd tell you what I would have said to your coworkers, but they'd ban me from the forum.
I'd rather have a megacode in the middle of drilling a skull to put an IVC on a pregnant woman!
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libran1984, ASN, RN
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Sounds like we work with the same ppl.