Seriously, my fiance has no common sense at all. He is either extremely inconsiderate or a complete and utter moron. I am going into my second week of working overnights and I can not sleep if he is home. Should I have to tell you not to vacuum while I am trying to sleep? Should I have to tell you not to come in the bedroom and put away your laundry while I am trying to sleep? Do we really need to have a converstaion about not using the darn treadmill with music blaring in the room right next to where I am trying to sleep?
And I get this stupid look from him, that when exhausted, makes me want to harm him. I swear if he does not get a clue and start being a little more considerate,this is not going to work. He is a very heavy sleeper and can sleep through anything. I AM NOT!!!!! He doesn't get it. He does not think before doing these things.
I just don't know how to make this work. He is normally a smart guy. I think I am going to have to treadmill and vacuum tonight! I am tired and crabby and this is not a good combination.
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Everybody said what I wanted to say, but I also just want to say I hate lawnmowers!!!!! Everybody on my block knows I work night shift and I don't expect my neighbors to be quiet because my schedule. BUT my neighbor across the street mows his lawn 3 times a week during the summer, then I hear a chain saw sound. My boyfriend doesn't bother me with his noise, but oh boy....I swear my neighbor has OCD tendencies with mowing his lawn.
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Of course I have discussed it with him. And we continue to discuss it each time something comes up. Really, he is a keeper. He cooks and cleans up after himself. He just genuinely does not think about things before he does them. He now has a list of things NOT to do when I am sleeping and the list continues to grow. He is a sweet kind guy and I love him to pieces. However, when awoken by the vacuum or the treadmill, the beast in me comes out. Tired me= scary beast. Tomorrow he is going to go to the movies. :) Peace for me.
Sometimes they are feeling alone or lonesome and are acting out. You aren't there at night to snuggle and you aren't awake when they are so they can "reconnect" and they act like pertulant children. Maybe for the next , anniversary, birthday, celebration get him a gym membership so he can work out while you sleep. Or suggest he stay up cleaning all night while you are gone and sleep with you during the day.
Everybody said what I wanted to say, but I also just want to say I hate lawnmowers!!!!! Everybody on my block knows I work night shift and I don't expect my neighbors to be quiet because my schedule. BUT my neighbor across the street mows his lawn 3 times a week during the summer, then I hear a chain saw sound. My boyfriend doesn't bother me with his noise, but oh boy....I swear my neighbor has OCD tendencies with mowing his lawn.
Sorry I had to vent... soft spot.
My neighbor upstairs vacuums the entire apartment every night between 8 and 10 PM. It doesnt bother me but I've always thought it was so odd.
Not being a smart butt and unless I have missed it in reading, have you actually discussed it with him what is going on?
As someone who just went back to night shift, this made me laugh. Perhaps OP just thought she would start sleeping all day and being gone all night to see if her husband would notice.
Night shift is a pretty big decision I am sure he was aware.
Everybody said what I wanted to say, but I also just want to say I hate lawnmowers!!!!! Everybody on my block knows I work night shift and I don't expect my neighbors to be quiet because my schedule. BUT my neighbor across the street mows his lawn 3 times a week during the summer, then I hear a chain saw sound. My boyfriend doesn't bother me with his noise, but oh boy....I swear my neighbor has OCD tendencies.
When you next move, look for the neighborhood with the crappy looking lawns?
maybe he can take up a hobby that will get him out of the house for a few hours on the weekends while you sleep. I hear saturday afternoon bowling leagues are fun!
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Everybody said what I wanted to say, but I also just want to say I hate lawnmowers!!!!! Everybody on my block knows I work night shift and I don't expect my neighbors to be quiet because my schedule. BUT my neighbor across the street mows his lawn 3 times a week during the summer, then I hear a chain saw sound. My boyfriend doesn't bother me with his noise, but oh boy....I swear my neighbor has OCD tendencies with mowing his lawn.
Sorry I had to vent... soft spot.