I cant stand the attitude of many nurses

[Lostsoull]

Right so i work at hospital as a receptionist

I had fixed places and also replaced people on different ward/clinics

i find some can be really cold (lack of friendlienes)Maybe they are unhappy about their carrer and just do it for the money??maybe they need more customer care courses?also many are in groups most will just ignore you and just talk to each other.I also have a feeling that those who replace ppl on sick and on vacation leave are badly mistreated NOT BY ALL PLACES but by the majority ,something which i swear i wont ever do in my life.

I had quit one clinic due to mean Nursing officer and coworkers made life hell.

I even see cases where patients shall be on constant watch and they go on break and no one is replacing them and if a relative gets mad which is reasonable they will all gang up on the relative and will call them stuff and justify their wrong doing

is this normal?? I admit that in the beginning i didnt have much experience but who does when he/she start a new job??That was intense the bullying and i sometimes used to cry. But ofc by time you realise how unfair it was and how many can try to put a lot of pressure on the receptionist unit clerks who can be underrated and seen as inferior.

sorry about my english as its not my first language

[caliotter3]

So you quit, you find another job, and that job is worse. At some point, you are going to have to buck up and learn how to deal with it. You can find thread after thread over the years on this site about people and toxic workplaces. Start looking around for some ideas. Meanwhile, it all boils down to how much do you need your income and how are you going to learn job survival skills. Decide how much you will tolerate and take it from there. Start a "soft" search for a new position, so that you can make the change when you need to, if you need to.

[Lostsoull]

11 minutes ago, caliotter3 said:

So you quit, you find another job, and that job is worse. At some point, you are going to have to buck up and learn how to deal with it. You can find thread after thread over the years on this site about people and toxic workplaces. Start looking around for some ideas. Meanwhile, it all boils down to how much do you need your income and how are you going to learn job survival skills. Decide how much you will tolerate and take it from there. Start a "soft" search for a new position, so that you can make the change when you need to, if you need to.

I just dnt know what to do

part of me says as u said just be strong and ignore them but the other part tells me you shall just move on its only parttime and my money is low..no way i would survive on part time only...

i need to analyse things

is it worth all the stress?

am i overreacting?

jobs are hard to come especially parttime jobs so it wont be easy

[Nurse SMS, MSN, RN]

We don't know you and can't answer that. Only you know how to weigh these issues out in the reality in which you live.

I suggest you visit a licensed mental health professional who can guide you to better self insight.

[Lostsoull]

i do see one but ioth weeks apart as i cant afford but i hope she helps me

1 minute ago, not.done.yet said:

We don't know you and can't answer that. Only you know how to weigh these issues out in the reality in which you live.

I suggest you visit a licensed mental health professional who can guide you to better self insight.

[caliotter3]

I don't give a rat's rear what job you go to, people are going to talk about you. Ignore it or become a recluse, shut in and never work in the outside world. Nobody makes you engage with them. Don't give them space inside your head.

[Rose_Queen, BSN, MSN, RN]

57 minutes ago, Lostsoull said:

Yes but tell me ,our lives revolve around jobs how cant i not do that? a bit unrealistic

Your life should not revolve around your job. Mine are doesn’t and neither does the lives of my coworkers. I spend 8.5 hours per day at work (0.5 of that being my lunch break) and the majority of my day outside of work. There’s a reason the phrase “work to live, not live to work” exists.

[brownbook]

Please seek the help of a mental health professional.

If one person you met is rude, unpleasant, unprofessional, mean, bullies you, that is on them.

If everyone you meet is rude, unprofessional, unpleasant, mean, bullies you....seek the help of a mental health professional.

Can both of Lostsoull's threads be combined? They are very similar.

[Davey Do]

3 hours ago, Lostsoull said:

Hi again im posting a new thread

i will discuss all this with a professional as i cant take it anymore

PS i know no one likes me..i have a long history of being bullied

It is so good that you see a need to change a pattern, Lostsoull, and are in the process of seeking professional assistance in dealing with situation. Your insight and desire to grow is admirable and worthy of respect in and of itself.

You mentioned that it will be sometime before you will be able to meet with you professional. I suggest that a search for self-help materials be done.

You've already begun the therapeutic process of dealing by posting here on allnurses seeking opinions, perspectives, advice and support. Put a few words in the search engine and see what pops up.

A classic which comes to mind is Addicted to Unhappiness by Drs. Martha and William Pieper. Conceptually, the book explains why we repeatedly get into situations where we're unhappy and what we can do about changing our behavior.

Other books that I consider helpful classics are Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman and Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert.

There's also 12 step Emotion Anonymous meetings which one can attended at no cost that can be extremely helpful.

Good luck, Lostsoull and the very best to you!

[Meriwhen, ASN, BSN, MSN, RN]

1 hour ago, brownbook said:

If one person you met is rude, unpleasant, unprofessional, mean, bullies you, that is on them.

If everyone you meet is rude, unprofessional, unpleasant, mean, bullies you....seek the help of a mental health professional.

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There is validity in this. If you feel like you are coming across this attitude in everyone, then it may be due to how you are perceiving things. This is no slur upon you, it just suggests that perhaps you need to examine what's going on that is making you perceive this in everyone and everything you come across. A therapist or other professional will be able to help you work through what you are feeling. Davey has posted some excellent suggestions for you to check into while you're waiting to be seen.

Best of luck

[benharold1, BSN]

It is sad that there are some work environments with not a lot of emotional support for nurses and co-workers who take advantage of those of us who work hard and do the best for our patients. I was recently written up by a manager for not delegating a bath to a PCA. I was helping her out and wanted to assess the patient's skin but was still criticized. I often help with their work because if I didn't the patient would not get a bath. Some always find an excuse, but when a patient is under my care everything is my responsibility.

[Lostsoull]

12 hours ago, Davey Do said:

It is so good that you see a need to change a pattern, Lostsoull, and are in the process of seeking professional assistance in dealing with situation. Your insight and desire to grow is admirable and worthy of respect in and of itself.

You mentioned that it will be sometime before you will be able to meet with you professional. I suggest that a search for self-help materials be done.

You've already begun the therapeutic process of dealing by posting here on allnurses seeking opinions, perspectives, advice and support. Put a few words in the search engine and see what pops up.

A classic which comes to mind is Addicted to Unhappiness by Drs. Martha and William Pieper. Conceptually, the book explains why we repeatedly get into situations where we're unhappy and what we can do about changing our behavior.

Other books that I consider helpful classics are Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman and Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert.

There's also 12 step Emotion Anonymous meetings which one can attended at no cost that can be extremely helpful.

Good luck, Lostsoull and the very best to you!

Thanks so much ?

[Tacocat, ADN, RN]

20 hours ago, Lostsoull said:

She is always invited everywhere by the nurses while Not even once was i invited by no one.

You need to be realistic about this. If she's full-time, she's seeing these nurses more than you and is able to build more of a rapport. I'm closer to the full-time people I work with because I see them more often.

It seems like you need validation from your co-workers.

As a receptionist/unit secretary, what could your co-worker possibly be calling you to do at home? I genuinely don't understand how you can do anything if you aren't physically there.