How RN supervisor handled domestic dispute at work?

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We have an RN who is known to be rather "colorful" and animated at times. Today was a nice, quiet, rainy day at the facility and a CNA's sister (who is having trouble at home) pulled around to the side of the wing where her sister works and was talking to her outside the door. This woman's husband apparently followed her in his truck and was revving his engine, squealing tires, driving back and forth like a maniac, pulling up behind her and backing out...so I went and got this supervisor, and she came with me to see what the commotion was. He pulled up and started to get out of his truck and we heard children screaming in terror and crying. There were 3 little girls in the car. This RN saw those children upset and she totally lost it, I guess you could say. She ran over to this guy (she's about 5'2" 120 pds. and he is about 6' tall) in a rage and told him to get the #$%% away from here and she was going to call the police. Then, this man's wife chimed in that he will go to jail because she has a restraining order out on him. And this RN started screaming LOOK WHAT YOU'RE DOING TO THESE CHILDREN, GET OUT OF HERE YOU SON OF A _____!!! He pulled out and was driving off. This RN ran to the children and was so upset she was shaking, and telling them everything was going to be alright. She has been upset about those children ever since, and says she absolutely can't stand to see children mistreated. But do you think this guy could call the office tomorrow and report her? She was kind of acting out in the heat of the moment, but do you think they would try to punish her for this?

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I think you need to concentrate on your work. The RN can worry about what will happen out of this. She should have called the police if she felt that was appropriate.

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the supervisor didn't do a darned thing wrong...

except maybe being too emotional.

but 1: she was solicited for help;

and 2, it was indeed her responsibility to avoid further drama at the facility.

not only was it distressing to the children, it's also distressing to the residents who hear/see this.

i don't see any reason why she'd get in trouble.:confused:

if anything, she got his sorry a$$ out of there, to which she should be commended.

leslie

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Specializes in M/S, MICU, CVICU, SICU, ER, Trauma, NICU.

Drama at work is very distracting to care.

The police should've been called immediately.

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What a fine person she is, if she wanted to get personally involved it is fine with me. I would call the police and give them a complete report. The guy was putting every one in danger and should have the book thrown at him. Maybe a few months in jail will give him something to think about. Those poor kids. Do you know that will have repercussion on them all their lives? I can just imagine what else they have seen.

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She's lucky she didn't get shot. She should have called the police and she should have probably reported suspected child abuse.

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What a fine person she is, if she wanted to get personally involved it is fine with me. I would call the police and give them a complete report. The guy was putting every one in danger and should have the book thrown at him. Maybe a few months in jail will give him something to think about. Those poor kids. Do you know that will have repercussion on them all their lives? I can just imagine what else they have seen.

The kids probably deal with this on a daily basis. When the foolish parent brings the drama out into the street for the public to witness, they are asking for involvement by the authorities. Hopefully action will come about to get the children into a more stable environment.

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Specializes in Peds Homecare.

Why would the RN supervisor be in trouble? I would have given her a hug and said thank you. I don't know about you, but any facility I worked at had rules. That we were to be working, unless on our breaks or lunch. Why would anyone be visiting their sister at work? I commend your supervisor and if I were you I would ask my friend why her sister would bring her troubles to her during working hours?

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She was kind of acting out in the heat of the moment, but do you think they would try to punish her for this?

I consider acting out something you say about a child misbehaving and doing something wrong not a grown woman trying to help children in need. Why would she be in trouble when she did nothing wrong? I would follow this up with a police report ASAP.

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Once I was working with an aide in a room on the second floor of a small hospital surrounded by a park. The aide and I saw a person being mugged right under the window of the room in which we were working. The aide charged down the steps/fire escape, the door of which was right outside the room and jumped on the back of the mugger. Big hero that I am I just dialed 911. The mugger threw her off his back and fled. The victim was very, very grateful. I admired this person because she was always the type to get involved. I just don't know if I was right or wrong not to do the same thing. The aide and the victim were not harmed, nothing ever came of it. I was half waiting for the mugger to sue the hospital or something, more bizzare things have happened.

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Specializes in ORTHOPAEDICS-CERTIFIED SINCE 89.

That's why you call 911. get a good description and try to keep everyone nearby safe.

The boys is blue have the Kevlar and the thingies with bullets in them, they also know most of the bad boys by sight.

There was potential here for 2 victims here and an angered perp could go postal and increase that number.

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Specializes in trauma, ortho, burns, plastic surgery.

Very dangerous situation with many alternatives:

1. If she knew the man and/or she is very self confident on her power of perssuasion... she did PERFECT RIGHT.... acting like a real woman, BUT she was stepping out of the supervisor position policy (she needed to call 911 first).

But she seen like an emergency situation what was happend with kids... she tried to protect the kids first, she knew that the man could not make much more worst that he did, she knows that she could control situation...

2. If she didn't knew the man.... and she let her self drove by emotions then is bad.

Wrong thinks could be happend..... and was possible that she could not control the situation and put kids in danger by her uncontroled emotional behavior, much more she was out of her controled supervisor policy.

What could be happend if "the creepy" acted uncontrolable also???

A tragedy!

She needed to call 911 and keep safe all, until police is coming.

No one could not doing to her nothing wrong, because nothing wrong was happend....but could be...

The man need to say her thank you, when he is back mellow because he is not with police now....because she didn't call 911!

Professional: you need to call 911

Personal ...you already know my opinion....go gurl go...

Balancing: call 911, and talk nice keeping on control the situation

Not worries....

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