How do you cope with work and co-workers:(

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho, ASC.
Thought it was moved to another area; I'm almost sure of it.

No, it's 2 different threads with 2 different post times and 2 different numbers of responses.

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
i'm experiencing deja vu...didn't i see this thread already?

(just trying to establish if i'm losing my marbles or not)

leslie:)

you've seen it before, but usually worded a bit more delicately than this.

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Specializes in LTC Rehab Med/Surg.

If anybody thinks the problems with co-workers/work is specific to nursing, they might want to work somewhere else for awhile. I was late to nursing. Several other different jobs between the years of 16 and 32. There is fighting, "back stabbing" and difficult employees no matter where you work, or who you work with.

Jobs may change, but human nature does not.

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Specializes in Medical Surgical Orthopedic.

I throw them in the supply closet and prop a chair against the door so they can't get out.

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I throw them in the supply closet and prop a chair against the door so they can't get out.

Go one step further and make sure that the supply closet is filled with bags of dirty briefs for their, uh, smelling pleasure. :smokin: Usually works to make 'em change their 'tude.

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Specializes in Cardiac, PCU, Surg/Onc, LTC, Peds.
In my opinion, I think that most of the people that say "I just show up to work to make a paycheck, I don't need friends there, I don't want to make friends...blah blah blah..." #1 work dayshift, and #2 are dirty dirty liars.

I find that a lot of the people who work dayshift have this mentality and are just "different" than night shift. The night shift nursing staff at my hospitals are much closer than those that work days, especially on weekend nights. Nights have more pitch-ins, go out to breakfast together, and are closer than days.

I say that people who say this are dirty dirty liars because EVERYONE wants to make friends! It's human nature! I think that this token line said by many, is just to protect their ego because deep down everyone is afraid of being rejected.

I have to disagree with your generalization about day shift. We have an awesome day crew, go out, throw parties etc. I am a reformed night shifter and never thought I'd make the switch to the bright side. I have to say we have fun and there's not even very many of those type A folks to panic over every little thing.

I really don't go to work to make friends. It may have been important to feel part of the 'group' when I was younger but now I don't care to exert that much energy wondering if ya'll like me or not ;)

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Specializes in Mental health, substance abuse, geriatrics, PCU.

I deal with it by enjoying every moment I get at home with my loving partner and by having a prescription for Ativan.

Without those two things, I would've drowned in this one horse town a LONG time ago!

:)

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Hello :) How are you? How do you keep your calm and cool when you working with people you can't stand. How do you work with them. How do you stay at a job for years and still have a good attitude. How do people stay at one place for 2 to 5 years or more. How do you deal with annoying and back stabbing co-workers. Thank you.

Don't interact unless needed for professional reasons. Do not give them anything that will be able to be used to stab you in the back. If someone does approach you smile, kind, don't say anything, repeat what they say if you have to say something unless its something mean about another person in which you say something nice about the person and exit with a quickness. Be hard to approach, and who cares what inconsquential meaningless people do, think, or say. If they talk about you. Think of them saying this instead of the rumor Stacey is a traffic light, or paper plate. Its not true and kinda funny right. Same with stupid rumors and stuff, not true who cares it like saying your a stethescope.

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
don't interact unless needed for professional reasons. do not give them anything that will be able to be used to stab you in the back. if someone does approach you smile, kind, don't say anything, repeat what they say if you have to say something unless its something mean about another person in which you say something nice about the person and exit with a quickness. be hard to approach, and who cares what inconsquential meaningless people do, think, or say. if they talk about you. think of them saying this instead of the rumor stacey is a traffic light, or paper plate. its not true and kinda funny right. same with stupid rumors and stuff, not true who cares it like saying your a stethescope.

not sure i understand this. smile and don't say anything? be hard to approach? stacy is a paper plate?

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I agree with SweetseRN. I work at Kroger at the moment and its exactly the same, people leave their crud for you to clean up. Its not fair but you just have to let go, especially if your complaints to you're superiors aren't going anywhere. Just try to do your job the best and let them fail at theirs. Karma has a funny way of smackin ppl back for bad things they've done. ;)

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Specializes in Cardiac, PCU, Surg/Onc, LTC, Peds.
not sure i understand this. smile and don't say anything? be hard to approach? stacy is a paper plate?

stacey is a traffic light or paper plate= too much wine and/or ativan.

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Specializes in Trauma Surgery, Nursing Management.

Here is the bottom line from my perspective:

1.You have worked hard to get through nursing school, sacrificed countless hours of your personal life to graduate from school, finally passed the NCLEX, obtained a job and have some experience under your belt now.

2. By nature, people want to feel that they matter in the big scheme of things. Some people go about this by ripping others apart, thus making them feel powerful in their disillusioned mindset. Most of the time, this tends to backfire. Others go about this by lifting others up and mentoring them, thus making a positive impact on their peers.

3. It is helpful if you know yourself well, and know what motivates you. For example, I know myself well enough to realize that my driving force is making a positive difference in someone's life. It doesn't have to be a parade or a party or a grand affair. A simple action of kindness that may or may not be recognized is enough for me.

I am strong enough to know that THE TRUTHS AND BELIEFS THAT I HOLD MYSELF TO and implement on a daily basis is MY responsibility in life. The reactions that I get from others is NOT my responsibility. I am strict with myself in my thoughts, actions and in my words, but do not expect, or even judge others who do not hold themselves to this standard. I control ME. I cannot control, nor do I wish to control others. My mission is to ensure that I am behaving in the way that supports my own "life doctrines"; the most important being the Golden Rule. Do you see what I mean?

I am not suggesting that you have to roll over and die when someone challenges you, because you shouldn't be passive. I am suggesting that you know yourself well enough to recognize an issue that you MUST address, and when to filter out the static and move on. Sometimes it takes a while to learn this.

There are social idiots everywhere. Don't let them take up rent space in your mind. View them as another small challenge that can be easily overcome. A jackwagon should never envelop your thoughts.

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