Help*please* co-worker lying blaming me for her possible mistake

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Hello, I appreciate anyone's help. I have a co-worker {who I thought was my good friend** who may gave order's over the phone to another facility nurse and a possible lawsuit is underway about the order's being given wrong by our office or taken wrong by the other office. After finding out that the other office did not write down her name she now blames me for giving the order. I am angry that she lied to get the blame off her but also VERY hurt that she thought the lie was more important than our friendship. I now question if she was the one at fault because she is trying so hard for it not to be found out that she gave the order. Any advice??? Thanks

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Did you, in any way, have anything to do with the orders?

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No, Luv I had nothing to do with the order at all. That is the worst part it is her word against mine...at least she has the knowledge of what the order was..who she gave order to. What date and time it was to defend herself.

I have none of this info. if it came down to me needing to provide it.

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Just keep to the facts if you are questioned. Neither accept "blame", nor accuse anyone of "blaming" you. IF it comes down to he said/she said, I would just reply "he/she must be mistaken, I didn't take those orders" or whatever the case may be.

Meanwhile, do your best work and DOCUMENT.

Hope things work out justly.

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Specializes in cardiac/critical care/ informatics.

If the other facility didn't take a name what did they chart where the order came from? I would think that the reicieving person of the order would be the one in trouble she/he would need to prove wear they rec'd the order.

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They just charted verbal order given by ---- Office. I couldnt beleive the other person didnt chart either. Maybe she was new. I really dont know. But I wish she would have charted.

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho.

If you havent already start now, to build a rappore with the office nurses you deal with. Even though we are all busy i always ask how they are, if they are busy today etc. They may only know me as the one who asks how i am every time she calls, but... it may make the difference someday to differentiate between me and someone else who calls their office. They will know it wasnt me because whoever it was didnt ask them how they were today.

I hope this works out for you ok. Try to think if there is anything in your office charting that would show you werent on the phone with that office at that date and time. Were you with a patient, on the phone with someone else? Thats probly about the only way you will be able to clear yourself of all blame. Unfortunatly you friend is looking for someone to take the blame, and although her word isnt going to totally get her off, you may have to take some of the hit for this one too. Good luck.

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Specializes in ER, ICU, L&D, OR.
Hello, I appreciate anyone's help. I have a co-worker {who I thought was my good friend** who may gave order's over the phone to another facility nurse and a possible lawsuit is underway about the order's being given wrong by our office or taken wrong by the other office. After finding out that the other office did not write down her name she now blames me for giving the order. I am angry that she lied to get the blame off her but also VERY hurt that she thought the lie was more important than our friendship. I now question if she was the one at fault because she is trying so hard for it not to be found out that she gave the order. Any advice??? Thanks

Take her out and slap her silly, Ive thumped a few people in my time who did me wrong, will probably do a few more

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First you said she may have given the order, then you say she did and is covering up. My advice is just say it was not you and let those who need to find out figure it out. It may have been the other office. Why a lawsuit? Was a patient hurt?

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Hello, I appreciate anyone's help. I have a co-worker {who I thought was my good friend** who may gave order's over the phone to another facility nurse and a possible lawsuit is underway about the order's being given wrong by our office or taken wrong by the other office. After finding out that the other office did not write down her name she now blames me for giving the order. I am angry that she lied to get the blame off her but also VERY hurt that she thought the lie was more important than our friendship. I now question if she was the one at fault because she is trying so hard for it not to be found out that she gave the order. Any advice??? Thanks

I am just a nurse who graduated last month and I experienced some of my classmates to act out in such a cold way to people..Not like this but in a similiar fashion..

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Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.
Hello, I appreciate anyone's help. I have a co-worker {who I thought was my good friend** who may gave order's over the phone to another facility nurse and a possible lawsuit is underway about the order's being given wrong by our office or taken wrong by the other office. After finding out that the other office did not write down her name she now blames me for giving the order. I am angry that she lied to get the blame off her but also VERY hurt that she thought the lie was more important than our friendship. I now question if she was the one at fault because she is trying so hard for it not to be found out that she gave the order. Any advice??? Thanks
I would not count her as a friend.She just needs to shut up-the nurse on the other end is the one with the problem,IMHO...I don't think you need to worry.It really does not sound like anyone has enough documentation to prove any of you did anything wrong.If I were reading the other facilities documentation and saw that the nurse that received the disputed order had not even written a note detailing the name and title of the person she took the v.o. from then I would tend to doubt if she even wrote the order correctly. I think anyone would .........I work in LTC -we don't take any v.o.'s from office nurses. Doc's can fax consult sheets or call us themselves..... Was this from an office to an LTC or acute care? Was there a negative outcome for the patient involved? I love how people threaten lawsuits at the drop of a hat.....I hate verbal orders-many of our docs just shout them out because they are in too big a hurry to pick up a chart and write it down themselves.If you are in the building,Dr Dood ,then write it yourself.....I usually get very hard of hearing at those times........Some of our docs get impatient with me when I have to call them because I'm old school and I repeat everything back as I write it down....Many of my co-workers (newer nurses) don't do this........That's pretty basic stuff,I think and it's to protect us and the pt....Good lUck-let us know what happens.Maybe you can suggest some new procedures to insure this kind of thing does not happen again.....
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Do people really stoop that low now these days? I mean, blaming another person?

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