So, I get out of work last night, and there's a text from a number I don't know. The person spelled my name wrong, which I find odd, but I brush it off..no biggie.
So today I'm in a room, and I get a call from my charge nurse. S, please come talk to me at the front desk as soon as you can. Apparently someone called and was like, "This is a resident. I need S's phone number." Luckily my charge nurse, said, "uhhh...there is no number." and hung up. Too weird and embarrassing.
Later, I'm getting some chapstick out of my locker, and there's a new text message from the unknown number. It is longer, etc, and then, has a name. Of course, this isn't the MD's given name, but nickname. So, I go to charge and explain who this might be.
I met this guy last week while he was rounding, and he was cute and friendly, but I got red flags right away. Every time he saw me, he would address me repeatedly by my first name. Like, S, how are you doing. Oh S, the pt in 28 requires 2 U PRBCs. S, Can you order them. It just struck me as odd..but I brushed him off as an eager resident trying to be friendly.
What concerns me now is, how did he get my cell phone number? Did he go in our private personnel/floor phone book and write it down? Creepy!
See, I won't text him back because it acknowledges that he's got the right number...and can continue. I think he called the floor yesterday because he wanted to see if he had the right number since I haven't responded. Yeah, have seen this guy, once, at 5am. Not since. Maybe I can get my RN buddy Brett (like 6'3, 30 Y M, size 15 shoe) to speak with him. He is in charge anyway sometimes :) I feel pretty good that my staff is protective of me, too. The people that know about it (a couple charge nurses) are on the lookout! I'm off to work in a few minutes. I'll let you know how today goes...if I get any more messages, etc!
From a guy: assume all guys are dumbasses!! We can barely operate a tv remote control, and now were expected to know text etiquette! far too confusing,lol Hope you find resolution to your problem
You aren't going to acknowledge that he has the right number, but instead report him to higher ups?
I agree with the folks that are saying to just tell the guy you don't want his attention, he'll probably back right off. Don't make a federal case out of it, he's probably just a social retard from spending so much time pursuing his medical degree.
Another suggestion, put the particular number on block on your cell phone.
Still you need to ask him directly to not contact you. I find it most disturbing that you are notifying so many people about this who work in the hospital without having first just ask number one is it him who is calling and then secondly asking him to stop.
Why all the drama? He might be wrong in having gotten your number somehow, who knows a friend of yours might have innocently given it to him. Meanwhile you have made him now a cause of suspicion to his healthcare co-workers. OUCH. Not how I would want to be treated, even if I had done something wrong. I would want to be asked first.
And she has people on this very forum advocating that she attempt to destroy his career and have him arrested or beaten up, all for showing interest in her socially.
I'd imagine this kind of overreaction, if found out, will severely limit the number of guys who'll show interest in the future. A date isn't worth career ruin, sexual harassment charges, jail, or getting beaten up.
On a lighter note , she is young, might have felt intimated as it is a young doctor, not realizing they are to be treated like anyone else. I am sure outside of the hospital setting she would not have had any qualms about telling a guy to buzz off. Or simply saying I am not interested.
This young nurse just wasn't quite sure how to handle it.
Once upon a time. I had a married physcian at the nursing station ask me when I was going to invite him to my home. I smiled and said you and your wife are welcolmed anytime. The doctor next to him about fell off his chair laughing.
Sorry, but if a guy is interested he should talk with her and NOT snoop around getting address and phone # behind her back. Stalkers do not want their intentions public!
Sonjailana
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See, I won't text him back because it acknowledges that he's got the right number...and can continue. I think he called the floor yesterday because he wanted to see if he had the right number since I haven't responded. Yeah, have seen this guy, once, at 5am. Not since. Maybe I can get my RN buddy Brett (like 6'3, 30 Y M, size 15 shoe) to speak with him. He is in charge anyway sometimes :) I feel pretty good that my staff is protective of me, too. The people that know about it (a couple charge nurses) are on the lookout! I'm off to work in a few minutes. I'll let you know how today goes...if I get any more messages, etc!