Hateful, mean nurses

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I have been at my facility for a little over a year and a half. I've had a few scuffles with co-workers in the past but nothing major. Now there are two nurses that seem to have it out for me. (I have no idea what I did to upset them.) I've gone to management about the harrassment I've been receiving and they (management) won't do anything. The only thing they offer is for all of us to have a 'sit-down' and talk session. There are no consequences at my hospital. You can let a patient lay in a dirty bed all night and the worst thing you get is a 'talking-to' from the supervisor. Seriously? There needs to be more consequences for their actions. They let these bullies run wild. We can't keep staff. Almost every new person that they hire leaves within 6 months.

Any advice?

Specializes in Med-Surg.

I don't like that kind of people either!!! they are there to ruin your day. I have similar experience like you. Do not engage in any argument with them. they kind of people are waiting for you to get irritated and response so they can initiate the "fight" with you. That will scatter your concentration and will affect your work performance. As someone mentioned earlier, document everything. time and date and their unreasonable action.

remember, your priority is providing a best nursing care to your patients.

Block all the distraction that comes to disrupt your performance.

hope that person can realize soon, it is inferiorating self.

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Took my daughter to her doctor and although she is 23, I prefer to accompany her to translate, so to speak. The nurse that did intake and vital signs then showed us to the examination room was one of your "hateful nurses."

This nurse did not even speak to either of us but instead pointed, to room, to chair, to examination table... She took my daughter's blood pressure and ripped off the B/P cuff, grabbed the open end and just ripped it off.

When the PA came in to examine my daughter, I informed her of the incident and made it clear I was also a nurse and had I behaved like the office nurse, I would be fired and I should be fired for behavior like that. It was abusive.

Is this what some of us have become? Bitter and hateful? Not just nurses but society in general. Just read an article in Time magazine and the Today show did a segment on how we (americans) treat one another.

It is very sad. We really have to be more proactive and get others to be proactive as well.

I wish luck for everyone going through this. Been there several times myself and it is difficult and very stressful.

Regards to all

Kind and loving nurse :nurse:

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I hear you dear Nurse! I came from a world of nurses eating their young and I'm sorry to know that it is still going on! Unfortunately, all the work that needs to happen after reporting them to management etc. is from YOU! Remember that this is a "game" in some sorts and that if you don't play, then they can't get over on you. They get more impetus to continue the more that you squirm and walk on eggshells, complain and frown. But if you yourself change your ways, they don't get the behaviors they seek to continue their ways. Remember these three "C's"...you can't CHANGE, them, you can't CONTROL them, and you can't CURE them! They were that way BEFORE you got there, and you are not the cause of their anger or other rotten behavior! And after you leave, they will continue that way.. So it is NOT about you. They will continue their evil ways until THEY finally learn the lessons and remember why they went into the field and when (or IF) they ever really cared about patients or frankly anyone. But don't you worry about teaching them the lesson. When they are ready if ever, it will happen. As long as you take care of the patients with the integrity you have and believe in, then you can hold your head high with the knowledge that you are a caring professional. Unfortunately, all our peers can't do that. Good Luck!:heartbeat

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wow CCL RN and gettingbsn2msn it sounds like you guys were working at a high school I mean How old were these people if someone turned their back on me I would have kept reporting and left I mean how childish and if someone walked away from me during report I would have done the something you did because my time is just as important as theirs is

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Specializes in Cath Lab/ ICU.
wow CCL RN and gettingbsn2msn it sounds like you guys were working at a high school I mean How old were these people if someone turned their back on me I would have kept reporting and left I mean how childish and if someone walked away from me during report I would have done the something you did because my time is just as important as theirs is

These were nurses with 20+years experience, in their 40's and 50's. Seriously...

I guess people don't grow out of their 'bully' stage.

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Specializes in CVICU, Obs/Gyn, Derm, NICU.
I hear you dear Nurse! I came from a world of nurses eating their young and I'm sorry to know that it is still going on! Unfortunately, all the work that needs to happen after reporting them to management etc. is from YOU! Remember that this is a "game" in some sorts and that if you don't play, then they can't get over on you. They get more impetus to continue the more that you squirm and walk on eggshells, complain and frown. But if you yourself change your ways, they don't get the behaviors they seek to continue their ways. Remember these three "C's"...you can't CHANGE, them, you can't CONTROL them, and you can't CURE them! They were that way BEFORE you got there, and you are not the cause of their anger or other rotten behavior! And after you leave, they will continue that way.. So it is NOT about you. They will continue their evil ways until THEY finally learn the lessons and remember why they went into the field and when (or IF) they ever really cared about patients or frankly anyone. But don't you worry about teaching them the lesson. When they are ready if ever, it will happen. As long as you take care of the patients with the integrity you have and believe in, then you can hold your head high with the knowledge that you are a caring professional. Unfortunately, all our peers can't do that. Good Luck!:heartbeat

Their behaviour will continue until people start getting a backbone and start calling them on it.

They are high school level bullies ....there is no reason for an adult woman or man to behave like a powerless bullied person

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Specializes in CVICU.

I'm disgusted that grown up, professional people behave this way. I hope they're self aware enough to realize what idiots they are, but I doubt it.

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Specializes in CVICU, Obs/Gyn, Derm, NICU.
These were nurses with 20+years experience, in their 40's and 50's. Seriously...

I guess people don't grow out of their 'bully' stage.

Seriously pathetic behaviour which erodes respect and affects quality of communication and teamwork.

And pathetic examples of adult women. Are they seriously that repressed? Or do they lack social sophistication ? Are they really that ignorant?

Probably yes ....yes... and yes !

I have this now and then from a couple of nurses I work with.

It's really hard to maintain respect for them .... I actually haven't got any respect left for them but have to put on a happy happy making good culture face around them because I'll get into trouble if I let it slip :lol2:

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Specializes in ER.
The nurse that did intake and vital signs then showed us to the examination room was one of your "hateful nurses."

This nurse did not even speak to either of us but instead pointed, to room, to chair, to examination table... She took my daughter's blood pressure and ripped off the B/P cuff, grabbed the open end and just ripped it off.

Abusive? Unpleasant, maybe. Rude, definitely.

Don't go off the deep end because someone else is having a crap day and spreading it around.

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These were nurses with 20+years experience, in their 40's and 50's. Seriously...

I guess people don't grow out of their 'bully' stage.

It can go both ways...

I work at a large teaching hospital, and it's the opposite with the age categories. The younger crew all hang out together outside of work, and believe me, they have each other's back at work. They are tight--in every way. The few of us older staff tread lightly, very lightly -- it's unbelievable!! Definate generation gap issues. :crying2:

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Specializes in Emergency.

Try talking to them and working it out on an individual basis.

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Specializes in Med/surg/tele/OR.

I would find evidence of them abusing their patients and report them to the board of nursing. How stupid and childish!

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