So this girl came yesterday and told me her back hurt because a kid accidentally hit her leaving class, I asked her if it was by accident or purpose? She said accident. I joke with the kids a lot, I treat them the way I treat my kids, but while I do, I also process them in. I always ask this, "Are you bleeding? Is anything broken? Are you in pain?, Are you breathing Ok? Are you dying?" in a joking manner, but it helps me understand if the kid is bleeding or is anything wrong, because sometimes they give me this grandiose story, and just asking this, I get them processed quicker. So I asked this to the little girl, made her crack a smile and I gave her an ice pack. I told her if someone does it on purpose next time, then to tell a teacher, but if it was an accident, she would be okay and just get an ice pack next time and go to class.
She left and that was it.
Then today her mom came in, scolded me because she said that he daughter is autistic and that I made her not trust adults anymore because last year she was bullied by students and teachers and humiliating her in this way made her this way. That I need to speak to her with respect and if I went to a university, then why didn't they teach me how to be ethical. I explained I didn't know this and I treat all kids the same way, I have to process them in quickly, I can only have them in here for 15 minutes and yes I do joke this way but it makes it faster for me and them. I apologized to her about this and told her it won't happen again. I told the admin, they said I am doing my job and doing a good one, not to worry about it and that was it, but it really made me feel like a failure. A lot of the kids who came in here really like me, so when this happened, i feel like I really messed up.
Have you ever had parents complain about you or anything in this aspect?
I mean, I get that this is the internet and nothing is ever really private or protected. So, we have parents trolling our forum so they can re-post? Are we not allowed a place to vent and discuss even?
I mean, I get that this is the internet and nothing is ever really private or protected. So, we have parents trolling our forum so they can re-post? Are we not allowed a place to vent and discuss even?
Parents aren't actually the ones putting it on Facebook. It is the Allnurses facebook account. That is why we sometimes specifically ask for them not to be put on Facebook
Parents aren't actually the ones putting it on Facebook. It is the Allnurses facebook account. That is why we sometimes specifically ask for them not to be put on Facebook
So student doesn't have autism but mom says she does. Shebasically embezzles government money saying her children has autism, while they really don't. They are as normal as normal can be. The child that was giving problem is actually as sweet girl, she does have a problem with her hip, which she has been to the doctor about. She is getting accommodations for that, so it's fine. She hasn't come in for pain or anything of lately. Mom is nicer to me, because I'm being nice to her kids. She's kinda pain in the ass sometimes though, but eh.
Wow, judgmental much? You might want to reconsider that statement. we are privy to tons of information but repeating it in a fairly public forum...I would caution you to be more careful.
So student doesn't have autism but mom says she does. She basically embezzles government money saying her children has autism, while they really don't. They are as normal as normal can be. The child that was giving problem is actually as sweet girl, she does have a problem with her hip, which she has been to the doctor about. She is getting accommodations for that, so it's fine. She hasn't come in for pain or anything of lately. Mom is nicer to me, because I'm being nice to her kids. She's kinda pain in the ass sometimes though, but eh.
Where I worked, you must have a physician's diagnosis for this. You can't take a parent's word for it.
Well I learned new and disturbing information to be honest. I won't go into much detail but it seems to me that what everyone has told me... this mother is crazy as crazy can go. I mean that won't stop me from being nice and courteous, but wow. But what I have been told, she is very horrible and has made a lot of people quit because she harassed them. I hope I can survive this lady.
I have the opposite effect at my school. All the crazies like talking with me, and I spend alot of time on the phone listening to everything going on at home. All the staff members ask me if I can call home cause no one wants to talk with the parents.
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Wow, judgmental much? You might want to reconsider that statement. we are privy to tons of information but repeating it in a fairly public forum...I would caution you to be more careful.
I am not saying names nor where I work at. But what I know there is not official diagnosis that she has anything, but the mother is adamant that she gets this type of help. What I been told is this is the reason why she does this. But I'm hoping it's all for the best, she's been kinder recently because I've been treating her daughter better, so it's a better chance of pace.
bluebonnetrn, BSN, RN
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