Getting involved with a co-worker

Runman1914, MSN, RN · Mar 8, 2008

As much as it pains me to say it, you are right. Some women will play the victim card in a heartbeat.
I have experience with the VICTIM CARD being used against me before. I was once involved with a married woman i thought was single. We saw each other all the time. Long story short when the husband found out she became super victim and he totally blamed me. Live and learn!!!!!

aye caramba · Mar 8, 2008

OH RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!!! Don't get involved it will make serious problems and nothing is ever a secret. Every one will find out about it and the gossip will never end. This happened to me. I stupidly got involved with a cna and i am a nurse. Everyone found out, the gossip was horrible and when i broke up with him he harrassed me at the job. When i complained about the harrassment i was told"that's what you get for fooling around with him" I ended up leaving a nice job close to home. :nono: :nono: :nono:

1776patriot · Mar 8, 2008

Don't get your honey where you make your money.

AmericanRN · Mar 8, 2008

She sounds screwy. I'd be afraid of something green that drips and burns.

:barf01: :lol2:

MaryAnn_RN · Mar 8, 2008

Anyone have any experiences or advise you can offer me? I have been a nurse for almost 10 years now and i have managed to keep it business only until now. A month ago my unit hired a new beautiful, funny, smart nurse that comes on to me daily. She always ask me to hook up with her off duty.
She has even tried to kiss me in empty rooms. Something that would get me as a man fired but thats another story. The temptation to get involve with her is overwhelming. I have seen too many of these go very bad to say the list. I want to avoid this at all cost!!

If that was you as a man trying to kiss her in an empty room you would be in deep sh*t for sexual harrassment. Try not to give in.

MaryAnn_RN · Mar 8, 2008

Don't get your honey where you make your money.[/quote
Never heard that before

imenid37 · Mar 8, 2008

She 's a little too eager. You don't want to buy yourself trouble. If she had just asked you out and kept it to mild flirting at work, I'd say see how it goes. The empty room thing makes me think she is real trouble.

Medic/Nurse, BSN, RN · Mar 9, 2008

danger! danger! will robinson!

don't make love where you make bacon.

this chick is trouble. kissing you in empty rooms - birddogging you around the unit. bad. bad. bad.

you need to tell her clearly - i am not interested. i do not date co-workers. please stop. give her a copy of the hr policy banning this type of conduct. do not allow her to get you alone. if she persists, just report it. heck, i'm almost of the opinion that you should just report it. there is always the chance that her pride/feelings/whatever get bruised and then she reports you - after all, women are generally the "victims"....

thinking ---- yep, what frightens me is her "potential" to throw down the "he came onto me, i am the victim" card. scary. and then you are "tainted" and well, that would suck.

stop it now.

good luck.

practice (and stay) safe!

EmmaG, RN · Mar 9, 2008

Thinking ---- Yep, what frightens me is her "potential" to throw down the "he came onto me, I am the victim" card. Scary.

Yeah, I thought of that too. Empty rooms? No witnesses? She sounds just weird enough to try to turn this around on him. It's certainly happened before. Hell's fury and women scorned and all that.

CritterLover, BSN, RN · Mar 9, 2008

she sounds a little ...... desperate.

i agree with the others -- resist any temptation to date her.

and make sure the doors of those empty rooms stay wiiiiide open.

1studentnurse · Mar 9, 2008

Just say no. Repeat, just say no.

One of you need to get going to avoid any conflict of interest.

Scrubby · Mar 9, 2008

I really do think it's in your best interests to report this. I think she's got a screw loose somewhere and you need to protect yourself. I don't think you should confront her though, she might play the victim card.