Getting involved with a co-worker

allnurses Guide · Mar 9, 2008

Ok - I just watched 48 Hours about a woman, who at 21 was an exotic dancer and had 3, count them, 3 older men as "fiance's" and ended up getting one to kill the other for insurance money.

Be careful. Be very careful. :nono:

steph

Runman1914, MSN, RN · Mar 10, 2008

I really do think it's in your best interests to report this. I think she's got a screw loose somewhere and you need to protect yourself. I don't think you should confront her though, she might play the victim card.

I think i will just avoid her the best i can. I'm scared if i report this she will use the victim card on me. Supervisors and administration will always believe a woman over a man!!!!

blueheaven · Mar 11, 2008

Sounds like sexual harrassment to me!!! 1. Don't get involved, if she is this bad at work...think of what she would be like if pi***off. 2. Follow your institutions guidelines for filing a sexual harrassment report. Protect yourself. Good luck!

caliotter3 · Mar 12, 2008

I once worked at a place where a younger single man got involved with a woman old enough to be his mother, if not grandmother, who was married with several children. It was the talk of the facility. She would chase after him from unit to unit in a jealous tizzy that anyone else dare have anything to do with him. He came to his senses, but she refused to let it be. He started to come to work under the influence of alcohol and was punished for that. Nothing ever happened to her. It was hideous watching her husband come to the place to pick her up in the morning. Many of the workers refused to talk to her because of her shameful behavior. I left before I ever found out if the man's alcohol use got him fired. My advice: of course, the same as others. Keep your personal life away from work. If you can't, then mitigate it somehow with a job transfer or shift transfer. It rarely works out for the good of all involved.

PMFB-RN, RN · Mar 12, 2008

Anyone have any experiences or advise you can offer me? I have been a nurse for almost 10 years now and i have managed to keep it business only until now. A month ago my unit hired a new beautiful, funny, smart nurse that comes on to me daily. She always ask me to hook up with her off duty.
She has even tried to kiss me in empty rooms. Something that would get me as a man fired but thats another story. The temptation to get involve with her is overwhelming. I have seen too many of these go very bad to say the list. I want to avoid this at all cost!!

*** Are either of you married? If so then no. If not then yes, date her. Chances to sleep with beautiful women are harder to find than nursing jobs.

allnurses Guide · Mar 12, 2008

Chances to treat women like hookers . . . .. .

steph

traumahawk99 · Mar 13, 2008

come on dude.. hit it!

you've got to love this online drama :).

Dierdre · Mar 18, 2008

Hmm, I have had very few office romances, generally speaking they end in disaster...however, there's the little matter of the one that did work too. I met my hubby at work, we worked together successfully for over a year, and the only time we ever got into any trouble was over a hug when I brought him dinner one night (we worked different shifts..at least MOST of the time). I left after several months to take another job, and now he works at that job, too. He's an awesome nurse and an awesome guy, and can be relied upon to NOT pull any office hanky-panky that would get us into trouble. He's awesome, but not everyone is.

knightlycomic · Mar 19, 2008

Well

Go for it but be ready to move to another hospital or clinical area when it hits the fan, and it will sooner or later. I'm talking from experience got involved got married got divorced, then I moved countries.

rowmi0 · Mar 19, 2008

Who are these jokers talking about sexual harassment?! Are they serious? I know the overwhelming emotion that you describe and how intoxicating it can be. Brother, the last thing you are worried about is being sexually harrassed. If anything you would be more concerned if she stopped. I have been in this situation and ended up marrying the girl. We spent 10 years of our life together, a beautiful daughter and many laughs. Working on the same unit created many problems between us and also with other staff members. We survived though and learned a lot from the experience. Overall it was great and I am glad we did it. Things did get much smoother once we worked seperate units. Thats the nice thing about nursing. it is fairly easy to change environments.

aeauooo · Mar 19, 2008

She has even tried to kiss me in empty rooms. Something that would get me as a man fired but thats another story. The temptation to get involve with her is overwhelming.

Wow, she sounds like a lot of fun!

Been there, done that - more than once. I'm a slow learner at some things. I guess I'm old enough now (and married) that I don't let my testicles think for me (too much) any more.

My buddy told me, "Never fish from the company pond."

I have one question: Do you like your job? I really don't think you can get fired for dating a coworker, but it can make things very sticky - in more ways than one. When you date a coworker everyone on the unit seems to get involved in some way or another.

I'd say that if you don't see yourself staying where you are for more than another year or so or, if you see yourself marrying her, go for it. If not - stay away - and forget that "just friends" crap! It never works.

Jaymaa · Mar 19, 2008

I would say hold on your horses. Its on up to you. But never do it at work. Change the floor if you can. Personal relationship espesially like this should be out of work place. :nono: