Getting hit on at work?

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I've had some funny experiences getting hit on by patient's families/friends in the past few months and wanted to share and hear your stories too! The most recent one that spawned this thread was last night, I had about a 2 minute conversation with a cowoker's patient's friend and this morning I had a friend request from him on Facebook. Hadn't told him my name or anything but somehow he found me with is totally creeperish. Another one happened a few months ago where my patient's son slept in her room overnight (which isn't allowed but they insisted so I let him stay to help suction her) and every time I came in the room all night long he'd wake up and try to talk to me about one thing or the other and was asking all these questions about if I was dating someone and eventually asked me if he could take me out to breakfast. I said no because...that's wierd. The other one was in my first few weeks of working here and my patient's son immediately latched on to me as soon as I came on shift and was saying all this crazy stuff to his dad like "this is the girl i'm gonna marry" and "look how beautiful she is, she's the one!". He even made me turn around by asking a question and tried to take a picture of me. Mind you, this was all after I'd already made it clear that I was not interested or available. It made for an extremely uncomfortable night. Anyways, I just wanted to share...post up some of your awkward stories!

I bet the attention of that maintenance guy didn't feel flattering or like a compliment. I actually am a little disturbed at how many folks in the thread think we should shrug off unwanted sexual attention from patients or coworkers as a "compliment."

I agree.

We once had an elderly male who had a "thing" for redheads.

He would follow me through out the facility in his wheelchair and go on and on about how much he looooved redheads.

He was creepy.

One time, I actually hid in a closet (oh, yes I did!) because he would not leave me alone!

He was coming up the hall, checking in all the rooms, calling my name in a very very creepy way.

"Yooooooohoooooooo... where are you Hygiene? I know you're heeeeeeereeeee....!"

Ew! Just ew!

I was so freaked out, I did, indeed, shut myself in a closet and froze. I could hear him opening doors and coming closer and closer and closer.

"Yooooooohooooooo!"

He passed my by, finally! And I bolted and reported him.

I was told he was harmless and THANK GOD he left the facility not long after.

I avoided that man like the plague! I would trade so I would not have to take care of him. I did not care WHO I had to take care of in return. I would NOT take this man on my assignment.

That was NOT a compliment.

It was creeeeeeeeepy!!

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Specializes in Corrections, neurology, dialysis.

I had a security guard

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Specializes in Corrections, neurology, dialysis.

I had a security guard hitting on me. He knew enough to not touch me or say anything, which made me think he had a history of this sort of thing, but he would look me up and down and lick his lips. He would askme where I live and where I go afer work. I told hom i'm a lesbian and he wouldn't believe me. He has probably heard that before. So the next day off I brought my six foot tall, 300-pound girlfriend up to meet him. She reached out to shake his hand and crushed his hand in her grip and wouldn't let go. After a minute or so she let go then crossed her arms and glared at him saying mothing. After that he was very respectful of me and stopped the leeering at me.

It would be nice if people would just respect you when you say you aren't interested, but you have to work with what you have.

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Specializes in OR.

A guy I work with has always flirted with me complimenting me on my OR hats and telling me I have beautiful eyes although it is flattering ..... its extremely distracting and inappropiate @ work .... I mean I don't really feel it would manifest or get worse BECAUSE he is married and is wife works in RECOVERY at the same hospital. BUT people talk and I have a reputation to protect and a future of a incoming promotion . Finally pulled him aside and told him to back off and act professional , and reminded him he is married and so am I .

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I bet the attention of that maintenance guy didn't feel flattering or like a compliment. I actually am a little disturbed at how many folks in the thread think we should shrug off unwanted sexual attention from patients or coworkers as a "compliment."

no one said anything about "sexual" comments. Since when are compliments always sexual, or necessarily sexual??? Some PC people take all compliments as unwanted sexual advances. Can't there just be a positive comment?

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no one said anything about "sexual" comments. Since when are compliments always sexual, or necessarily sexual??? Some PC people take all compliments as unwanted sexual advances. Can't there just be a positive comment?

Some people need to relax for real. Just because men tell you you are gorgeous and would like to get to know doesnt automatically means they are going turn out be some psycho stalkers. What is wrong with complimenting women I dont get it? As long as someone knows how keep their boundaries and abstain from making gross sexual comments like "hey I love your boobs, hey sexy" people shouldnt make big issue out of it.Most men are just trying their chances,cant you blame them, it is up to them to ask women for a date,it is part of being male.

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Specializes in ER.
wearing a wedding band, high neck shirts, glasses or your hair in a bun won't make a bit of difference if you're good looking. If you are, you are. Who really cares. They will only be more impressed when they see you are smart as well!! Touche! Smart AND good looking! The holy grail! [:rotfl:/quote]

You forgot to add A JOB lol

Smart, good looking and a job, men will be lining up at the door lol. [:rotfl:/quote] [:rotfl:/quote]

It happens, get used to it. Men and women alike, just be polite and move on to the next patient.

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I'm having a blast reading the responses,they are so funny.Like my friend likes to say "sex sells" look at all those music videos

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Specializes in Mixed Level-1 ICU.

My two cents...

When we were young, many of us on the upper end of the 1-10 hotness scale felt we'd be forever inebriated by our power to attract other human beings.

And, in our immortal youth, we never conceived that one day our power and beauty would disappear.

Perhaps you've seen long-ago pictures of a patient or family friend. You look at them now and find it impossible to reconcile how such a gorgeous face could be so distorted by time.

I'm older and yet still hit on by patients. But I ascribe nothing to it except I am thankful that, in this often superficial world, I had the dumb luck of having had a very handsome father and pretty mother.

Beauty requires no genius or hard work. Just dumb luck.

To those who find resonance here, be thankful. One day, it will gone like a dream. And wishing for just a single day back--when the world was at your doorstep-- will be like asking for the moon on a string.

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Specializes in ER.
Some people need to relax for real. Just because men tell you you are gorgeous and would like to get to know doesnt automatically means they are going turn out be some psycho stalkers. What is wrong with complimenting women I dont get it? As long as someone knows how keep their boundaries and abstain from making gross sexual comments like "hey I love your boobs, hey sexy" people shouldnt make big issue out of it.Most men are just trying their chances,cant you blame them, it is up to them to ask women for a date,it is part of being male.

well, I think it's about being HUMAN. A woman can appreciate a good-looking man, hey's it's just part of being female.... a nice butt, good abs, chest, arms, face..... it goes both ways. Women are usually a bit smoother about it, that's the diff. Usually. Ok, not always, especially when you're with a group of women that are drinking! Just like guys....

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
i bet the attention of that maintenance guy didn't feel flattering or like a compliment. i actually am a little disturbed at how many folks in the thread think we should shrug off unwanted sexual attention from patients or coworkers as a "compliment."

unless you've actually been stalked, you have no idea how unflattering, unwelcome or undeserved such attentions are. compliment it is not. it's more as though someone senses a vulnerability in you and sets out to exploit that. it truly is sad that so many people who haven't been through it, though, could fail to believe those of us who have and tell us to "just shrug it off."

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
no one said anything about "sexual" comments. since when are compliments always sexual, or necessarily sexual??? some pc people take all compliments as unwanted sexual advances. can't there just be a positive comment?

i think most people with an iota of sensitivity can tell the difference . . . although people who find their sexual advances unwanted often take refuge in claiming it was "just a compliment."

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