Getting hit on at work?

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I've had some funny experiences getting hit on by patient's families/friends in the past few months and wanted to share and hear your stories too! The most recent one that spawned this thread was last night, I had about a 2 minute conversation with a cowoker's patient's friend and this morning I had a friend request from him on Facebook. Hadn't told him my name or anything but somehow he found me with is totally creeperish. Another one happened a few months ago where my patient's son slept in her room overnight (which isn't allowed but they insisted so I let him stay to help suction her) and every time I came in the room all night long he'd wake up and try to talk to me about one thing or the other and was asking all these questions about if I was dating someone and eventually asked me if he could take me out to breakfast. I said no because...that's wierd. The other one was in my first few weeks of working here and my patient's son immediately latched on to me as soon as I came on shift and was saying all this crazy stuff to his dad like "this is the girl i'm gonna marry" and "look how beautiful she is, she's the one!". He even made me turn around by asking a question and tried to take a picture of me. Mind you, this was all after I'd already made it clear that I was not interested or available. It made for an extremely uncomfortable night. Anyways, I just wanted to share...post up some of your awkward stories!

Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
my two cents...

when we were young, many of us on the upper end of the 1-10 hotness scale felt we'd be forever inebriated by our power to attract other human beings.

and, in our immortal youth, we never conceived that one day our power and beauty would disappear.

perhaps you've seen long-ago pictures of a patient or family friend. you look at them now and find it impossible to reconcile how such a gorgeous face could be so distorted by time.

i'm older and yet still hit on by patients. but i ascribe nothing to it except i am thankful that, in this often superficial world, i had the dumb luck of having had a very handsome father and pretty mother.

beauty requires no genius or hard work. just dumb luck.

to those who find resonance here, be thankful. one day, it will gone like a dream. and wishing for just a single day back--when the world was at your doorstep-- will be like asking for the moon on a string.

at the upper end of the employed nurse age skill, my "hotness" has definitely crept down the 1-10 scale over the years. i've acquired some wisdom instead. i see nothing to be thankful about in unwanted attentions.

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Specializes in LTC, med/surg, hospice.

I recall being hit on at a nursing home where I worked by the man that came to pick up a deceased body to take to the funeral home. So while I am helping him to get the person onto their stretcher....he is flirting with me. Highly inappropriate.

That's not the only time but it stands out. Being hit on at work definitely makes me uncomfortable.

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Specializes in Mixed Level-1 ICU.
at the upper end of the employed nurse age skill, my "hotness" has definitely crept down the 1-10 scale over the years. i've acquired some wisdom instead. i see nothing to be thankful about in unwanted attentions.

my comment was philosophical in nature...and no where does it suggest to just "shrug off" innocent attention. people with no sense, or the idiots among us, will behave accordingly. we deal with the entire spectrum of public personalities...it's part of the job. it's never an expectation that we have to accept being threatened or treated rudely. i never suggested that. and it's always part of the job to tell those who are a**holes to knock it off.

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This really creepy new guy who worked in another department at my hospital (not nursing) kept trying to talk to me but I'd just say hello and go on about my business. Then when I had a day off he'd tell me he missed me, which sounded an alarm with me, so I'd go out of my way to avoid him. Then he started turning up places I go in my neighborhood like the market and restaurants. I thought if I just ignored him he'd go away but I was so naiive. Came home from work one day, came back out with my dog a few minutes later, and this creep was standing in my driveway next to my car! I called the police but he decided to leave on his own. Anyway, a few days later he was rearrested

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Sorry entered before I intended to! He was arrested for assaulting his ex-wife. Flirtatiousness is not always innocent nor should a woman feel flattered about it.

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When I was a nurse aide I had this older gentleman who was known to be a flirt, but every time he seen me in the hall he would start singing to me and try to grab me anywhere (the neck, the arm, the waist). It was truly creepy and I was so happy when I was transferred to a different unit.

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Specializes in Hospice, ONC, Tele, Med Surg, Endo/Output.

When i was a charge nurse at a large hospital, i often got hit on by older men, usually medical doctors, though. Once i met a nice looking 70 year old italian man with a thick accent, who came in every weekend for IVT via picc line. The first time i met him he said, "Oh, i love your body, you can come to my house, i have a big bed and please come over soon, i'm rich and will wine and dine you, you are hot, baby." I was speechless, pretending i didn't hear him. Later that day his wife came to pick him up--a bleach-blonde gal with fake boobies and plumped up lips, who was 20 years younger. She gave me dirty looks. Another time a doctor grabbed me in the elevator and gave me a wet lip-lock and said don't you like african men?--didn't report him but told him, "Don't EVER do that again! Once a tall, gorgeous Indian doc grabbed me around the waist as i gave mouth care to a comatose patient; his hands moving toward my breasts. I yelled "help" and staff came rushing in. I said the patient was about to code. Doc made a hasty retreat. Another Doc hugged me after i had been on vacation for two weeks and planted a loud wet one on my neck in front of everyone in the nurse's station. Everyone gasped and he quickly left with his tail between his legs. Whenever i gained 20 pounds and stopped wearing make-up the attention stopped. Whenever i lost 20 pounds and started wearing makeup the attention resumed. Straightened hair also garnered lots of attention. Curly hair not sexy enough i guess. Doctors ignore me when i am overweight. They are as transparent as jelly fish and very shallow.

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were you wearing the hooters nurse outfit?? j/k

As a guy it is wierd, I get hit on all the time by female nurse coworkers and patients(usually older ones). I just ignore it and act like I dont know whats happening... typical guy thing, just keep rolling along with the conversation.

Pray, please tell me why I see this ALL the time?:uhoh3::rolleyes:. (Not sure what smiley face to use)LOL

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When i was a charge nurse at a large hospital, i often got hit on by older men, usually medical doctors, though. Once i met a nice looking 70 year old italian man with a thick accent, who came in every weekend for IVT via picc line. The first time i met him he said, "Oh, i love your body, you can come to my house, i have a big bed and please come over soon, i'm rich and will wine and dine you, you are hot, baby." I was speechless, pretending i didn't hear him. Later that day his wife came to pick him up--a bleach-blonde gal with fake boobies and plumped up lips, who was 20 years younger. She gave me dirty looks. Another time a doctor grabbed me in the elevator and gave me a wet lip-lock and said don't you like african men?--didn't report him but told him, "Don't EVER do that again! Once a tall, gorgeous Indian doc grabbed me around the waist as i gave mouth care to a comatose patient; his hands moving toward my breasts. I yelled "help" and staff came rushing in. I said the patient was about to code. Doc made a hasty retreat. Another Doc hugged me after i had been on vacation for two weeks and planted a loud wet one on my neck in front of everyone in the nurse's station. Everyone gasped and he quickly left with his tail between his legs. Whenever i gained 20 pounds and stopped wearing make-up the attention stopped. Whenever i lost 20 pounds and started wearing makeup the attention resumed. Straightened hair also garnered lots of attention. Curly hair not sexy enough i guess. Doctors ignore me when i am overweight. They are as transparent as jelly fish and very shallow.

Oh my. You have more restraint than I do. Grabbing you and kissing you? Blargh, I would have knocked his butt out!

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Specializes in Hospice, ONC, Tele, Med Surg, Endo/Output.
I had a security guard hitting on me. He knew enough to not touch me or say anything, which made me think he had a history of this sort of thing, but he would look me up and down and lick his lips. He would askme where I live and where I go afer work. I told hom i'm a lesbian and he wouldn't believe me. He has probably heard that before. So the next day off I brought my six foot tall, 300-pound girlfriend up to meet him. She reached out to shake his hand and crushed his hand in her grip and wouldn't let go. After a minute or so she let go then crossed her arms and glared at him saying mothing. After that he was very respectful of me and stopped the leeering at me.

It would be nice if people would just respect you when you say you aren't interested, but you have to work with what you have.

Interesting. There was a very friendly security guard where i worked several years ago. He couldn't get enough of me and this itty bitty Chinese nurse. Well, he would come to the floor and just sit at the nurse's station staring at me, and one time he came to the floor and said, "you are so irresistible, and picked me up off my feet in front of everyone--he was about 6 ft 5 and stank to high heaven, serious armpit odor and his hands were all hot and sweaty--other staff laughed and i said, "PUT ME DOWN, NOW!!! I'm not the type to report anybody unless they persist. He still flirted with me, but never touched me again. A few weeks later i noticed he was no longer coming to the floor and asked another security guard what happened to so and so. He said, "he got fired for lifting that little Chinese nurse up in the air, she got him the ax." LOL

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unless you've actually been stalked, you have no idea how unflattering, unwelcome or undeserved such attentions are. compliment it is not. it's more as though someone senses a vulnerability in you and sets out to exploit that. it truly is sad that so many people who haven't been through it, though, could fail to believe those of us who have and tell us to "just shrug it off."

stalking is a way way different ball-game. when you have been stalked, you will know it.

compliments are different. but remember,if it makes you uncomfortable, it has ceased being a compliment. never follow the crowd. go with your instincts, if it's only nice words, be big enough to accept the compliment and then handle it professionally.

women need to learn to accept compliments well. denigrating the compliment doesn't cut it. you're also telling the giver that he/she does not have eyes and do not know what they are on about.

i digress from the immediate location of this topic- i'm only saying in general, women need to be more gracious in accepting compliments!

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Specializes in Hospice, ONC, Tele, Med Surg, Endo/Output.
Oh my. You have more restraint than I do. Grabbing you and kissing you? Blargh, I would have knocked his butt out!

"knock his butt out!" He he.:yeah::D:lol2:

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