Relative goes to Hospital Admin and states that you stole narcotics!

  1. Would appreciate some thoughts and/or suggestions on this situation. Tale goes as follows:

    I am an RN, as is my spouse RN, daughter RN, and son CRNA and have daughter and son who are radiologic technologists. Daughter RN is going through divorce and nasty child custody legality. Her husband has accused her of stealing narcotics, namely demerol and morphine from her place of employment (hospital). We have just recently discovered that this husband has gone to the administration where my husband RN and the son who is the Rad Tech are employed and told them that my husband was stealing demerol and morphine to give to our son the Rad Tech. My husband was observed for about 2 weeks in regard to his med administrations, this hospital uses pyxis. My husband and son were both told to give urine for testing, which both did and both test were clean. Administration and security have informed who the complaint came from, the son-in-law. He started calling and making the complaint and was very insistent and was told to bring his evidence and let them have a look.

    Security took the evidence and kept it. Empty vials of morphine and demerol were not from this hospital. Both husband RN and son Rad Tech filed harassment charges with the local police department. I do not believe that son-in-law is aware that we know what he did. Charges filed, but yet to be press for issuing arrest warrants.

    I would appreciate some opinions on how to handle this development. Should charges by husband RN and son Rad Tech be pushed against son-in-law? We are hesitant because we do not wish to look bad because of the child custody case, we don't want the judge to think this is a tic for tac situation. But, again, intregrity has been questioned and in our profession any accusations in regard to the narcotics that are in our control should be halted.

    I would like to add that this son-in-law's mother has had me arrested because I supposely "throw a rock at her window and broke it." Now when the time comes to renew my license I have to answer yes to the questions about any arrests, etc. Son-in-law is a drug abuser, cocaine, thc, benzo's and his mother od'ed in my daughter's kitchen about 2 years ago., his father a convicted felon in regard to possession. Hospital records have been subpeonaed showing this son-in-laws positive results for his drugs and he is a drug seeker, complains about the same symptoms and always leaves with some type of pain med, an opiate, but does not test positive for that.

    Someone tell me what they would do? Folks, let me add we are in the wrong profession if it's the pay we are after. An attorney is the way to go for income. This is in the state of Alabama and anyone can just walk into a courthouse and swear out a warrant for another. The accused gets to spend money while the "victim" gets the benefit of the DA's office and our tax dollars.

    Tessa
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  3. by   begalli
    Personally, I think VERY MUCH, these questions need to be asked to your attorney.
  4. by   2ndCareerRN
    So, let me see. This guy tried to cost your husband and son their jobs, and livelyhood, and you are wondering what to do?

    I would suggest a baseball bat, but that is to much trouble.

    Get a lawyer involved, press for arrest, and sue him.

    Who cares what it looks like. Your husband and son will have a dark cloud over them for a while, even though it looks like everything is allright.

    bob
  5. by   z's playa
    Definatly sue him. I'm shaking my head. The lengths people will go through to destroy one another bogggles my mind!

    And here I am saying sue him.......

    Z
  6. by   caroladybelle
    Sue Sue Sue.
  7. by   kwagner_51
    CHARGE HIM! SUE THE HE** OUT OF HIM! Do NOT let him get away with it. The judge in the custody battle MUST know what he did. Hire an attorney. What he did is libel and slander.

    My ex stole money from my parents and baby sister [she was 10 at the time]. They didn't press charges so I didn't know what he had done. He got away with it...married someone else and proceeded to rob her family blind too. I found out after we divorced, that he had a record for embezzlement!!


    Good luck to your family and I will pray for you all!

    ________________________________________

    In His Grace,

    Karen


    Failure is NOT an option!!
  8. by   jeepgirl
    You'd better file and charge him. That is SO wrong. No judge will look badly at you, the victim, for protecting your rights. It will look worse not to press charges... I mean, what are you doing by not charging the guy?



    Quote from Tessaprn
    Would appreciate some thoughts and/or suggestions on this situation. Tale goes as follows:

    I am an RN, as is my spouse RN, daughter RN, and son CRNA and have daughter and son who are radiologic technologists. Daughter RN is going through divorce and nasty child custody legality. Her husband has accused her of stealing narcotics, namely demerol and morphine from her place of employment (hospital). We have just recently discovered that this husband has gone to the administration where my husband RN and the son who is the Rad Tech are employed and told them that my husband was stealing demerol and morphine to give to our son the Rad Tech. My husband was observed for about 2 weeks in regard to his med administrations, this hospital uses pyxis. My husband and son were both told to give urine for testing, which both did and both test were clean. Administration and security have informed who the complaint came from, the son-in-law. He started calling and making the complaint and was very insistent and was told to bring his evidence and let them have a look.

    Security took the evidence and kept it. Empty vials of morphine and demerol were not from this hospital. Both husband RN and son Rad Tech filed harassment charges with the local police department. I do not believe that son-in-law is aware that we know what he did. Charges filed, but yet to be press for issuing arrest warrants.

    I would appreciate some opinions on how to handle this development. Should charges by husband RN and son Rad Tech be pushed against son-in-law? We are hesitant because we do not wish to look bad because of the child custody case, we don't want the judge to think this is a tic for tac situation. But, again, intregrity has been questioned and in our profession any accusations in regard to the narcotics that are in our control should be halted.

    I would like to add that this son-in-law's mother has had me arrested because I supposely "throw a rock at her window and broke it." Now when the time comes to renew my license I have to answer yes to the questions about any arrests, etc. Son-in-law is a drug abuser, cocaine, thc, benzo's and his mother od'ed in my daughter's kitchen about 2 years ago., his father a convicted felon in regard to possession. Hospital records have been subpeonaed showing this son-in-laws positive results for his drugs and he is a drug seeker, complains about the same symptoms and always leaves with some type of pain med, an opiate, but does not test positive for that.

    Someone tell me what they would do? Folks, let me add we are in the wrong profession if it's the pay we are after. An attorney is the way to go for income. This is in the state of Alabama and anyone can just walk into a courthouse and swear out a warrant for another. The accused gets to spend money while the "victim" gets the benefit of the DA's office and our tax dollars.

    Tessa
  9. by   SmilingBluEyes
    what a mess. I agree w/all the others. head straight for an attorney. You need it anyhow. Good luck. I am sorry this has happened.
  10. by   fab4fan
    He'll probably be charged by the authorities for false report. But if anyone did that to me, there'd be the Devil to pay.
  11. by   CHATSDALE
    if you don't stand up now the accusations will be on record..but not explained
    friend of mine had a bil who was a sheriff's deputy...someone went to sheriff dept and said that he was threatening homicide and suicide...
    they said they didn't believe it but could not have him running around with a gun if accusion was made
    they talked him into resigning..now he has a black mark on his record and since he resigned he has no recourse...never did find out who accused him
  12. by   Stitchie
    Frivolous charges and 'malicious prosecution' charges come to mind. You might be able to talk to your state's attorney (just call the local courthouse) or the Attorney General's office and they may be able to advise you.

    What a rotten thing to do to 'family'; there's a lot of anger there. I'm so sorry you have to go thru this.
  13. by   Tweety
    I don't see how filing charges would hurt the child custory issues. Indeed if it can be shown he is so unstable as to file false charges and harass it would only help your case. But I'm no lawyer.

    Good luck in whatever you do.

    It's frightening how vulnerable we are to accusations from people like this.
  14. by   Tessaprn
    My husband and I have pondered greatly with this situation and we feel that the best course is to go ahead and swear the warrant for this soon to be ex son-in-law.

    This family has put all of our efforts, money, and everything we can together to keep 2 children safe. If a judge sees this any other way than protecting our reputations and the well-being of children then our justice system is most definitely in dire straits.

    I suppose because I had him arrested for stealing checks and forgery and then my daughter had him arrested for breaking a protection order, we did not want to seem vindictive and that our interest was not focused on the children. We have decided to press forward and to heck with what it appears. I don't understand why he was not arrested on the spot for possession when he had an ampule and vial that obviously was not from a drug store, Walgreens, CVS, etc. :angryfire

    Again, thanks to all for confirming my thoughts.

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